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woah...ressurecting quite an old topic...but...my step-brother has only stopped with his homophobic comments b/c his mom had a talk with him...which wouldn't have happened if i hadn't blogged about the situation...(long story) anyways, yeah, most people tend to shut up if they know your sexuality, but not always.....

I had a problem with the word queer when I first joined the gay community, 'cos in my experience, it's only ever been a negative word, and it was weird for me to hear people identifying as queers. So now I've gotten over that stigma. But it was a strange concept at first.

I think this affects most people. It happens everywhere from in the playground & classrooms all the way to workplaces & offices.
It's alright to let off steam everyone knows that, but letting it off whilst revealing a secret suddenly changes the story. It's not exactly a bad thing. After all, it's good to talk to people every now and again. But blurting it out can make you feel insecure to everyone around you.
It's happened to me before. I was being called a homophobe by a "Friend". It eventually came to the point where i blurted out "How can i be a homophobe if i'm bi!" The good side is, they shut up for the rest of the lesson. The bad thing is that they now make fun of me for it. They even swore to keep the secret but a few weeks ago, i entered my form class and i had the whole class asking me if i was really bi. I really feel like killing him now, but that'd be too civilised. I know i shouldn't get revenge, but what goes around comes around... hopefully.
Whats worse is that we keep the same form class through all of high school.
*Breathes*

I know.. I know.... when ppl do that I just want to wringthere necks. My mom says she will accept me for nomatter what I am... and I am very Positive I am bi.... (ive only made out with a girl) but gone all the way with a guy after 4yrs... then he turns into a JACK!!! *ahem* But she still tells be I shouldnt tell everyone im bi... I ually listen to her... ubt not here... im usally and outcast.. and I come right out with it.... If you dont like me for who I am go screw yourself.. and dont use "Gay" around me unless you gonna usie it in the proper context..... Or die!

Yea.......Lol.....*hugs ppl that understand her*

I was very lucky, in that my family has always been very accepting of gays and lesbians, especially since my mom's brother is gay. I grew up with two gay uncles (mom's brother and his former significant other), and I never thought anything of it.
The only time I encountered any type of problem with my family about sexuality was when I came out to my mom and family as bisexual. Keep in mind, I said my family was okay with gays and lesbians (and nobody except my mom and one sister had any problem with bisexuality). She and one of my two sisters were of the opinion that bisexuality doesn't exist and that people who consider themselves bisexual are just confused. It took me a year to convince my mom, but she finally opened up and accepted that (although she never really did or said anything too awful, and she never meant to be mean) bisexuality does exist. My sister, however, did say to me that bisexuals are just as good as gay. I didn't speak to her for a week. But that's okay, because we got over it, and she's now (technically) a bisexual. (Technically, because she's still attracted to men, but she and her girlfriend are very much in love, and will likely be together forever.)

But, oh goodness. My best friend has been having a shitload of problems, because she's Korean, and her parents would never really accept her as being bi. AND - she got outed. These two stupid girls ran home crying to their mommies that they were uncomfortable because "she's a lesbian and she touched them innapropriately." BULL. So, her parents were notified, and she got long speeches, and they're thinking of moving away to "escape the problem" so that her little brother isn't ostracized, too. (Mind you, neither of them are thrilled with the Christian Korean American community, so fat lot of good that would do.) She called me this evening crying, it upset and hurt her so much. I just wish I could kill the people who hurt her.

Isn't it though. Ugh. It just sickens me how cruel people can be. It just makes me want to ship the homophobes into space (men in one rocket, women in another) and let them drift for eternity... evil

that's what this guild is for! biggrin

I smile and sigh, glad that there are ppl that dont run away like friggebn a** scared homophobes. Glad theres somewhat to talk to when even BF's are squimish,.