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 Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 10:38 pm
So I recently found out I was pregnant. I am 17.
My first thought was to abort it. Then just about when it became time, I just... couldnt go through with it. My boyfriend was very happy that I decided to keep it. He is excited and we plan to get married after both of us turn 18. He has a great job that pays well over 1000 dollers a month, and his mom says we can stay with her, and she will help raise the baby while we finsish school (the last 2 months for both of us our senior years...) and till we can get a place of our own. Plus I have a part time job I have been saving up from for 6 months.
But I need to tell my parents
My parents though are not really supportive of teen pregnancy. My older sister got pregnant at 19. My parents went over to her house (she lived with her bf) and chewed her out for hours. Made her cry and sob, becuase they told her she was horrable.
They have not spoken to her, or her kid since. That was over 3 years ago.
My boyfriends mom said I could move in with them, if need be. And I plan to move in there before I have the baby anyways. Its just...
I am really scared!
My family and I have never gotten along. We are compeat opposites. But so much has changed in such a little bit of time that I... just want to let myself calm down. I know I have to tell them, but I know that when I do, I will lose them.
And worst of all, I could lose my little sister, who is the only really supportive member of my family. (she is 16 in febuary)
I need to tell them, and I plan to soon, its just...
I guess I dont know how to do it.
Any ideas? Help at all?!
I dont want to lose my family, but I am starting one of my own now, and I will not change my mind...
Can there ever just be an easy situation with this???
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Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 7:38 am
you just have to do it waiting just makes it harder and think of it like this there reaction is there own problem if they cant support you then they dont deserve to have a relationship with you child or you. Parents should never abandon there children no matter the situation. They will be upset even if they dont over react so give them space to calm down if it goes well. If they chew you out and try to keep you there to talk to you for hours leave in your current state stress is bad just go to your boyfriends tell them to call you once they have had time to think it through.
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Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 10:29 am
Aye. Tought decision to make.
You know, deep down, that you have to tell them eventually. You cant just come home one day with a baby, and say 'surprise'. xD
And I doubt you'll be able to hide it much longer anyhow.
Telling your parent youre with child is never easy. Its a huge thing. And in your case, its a little bit more extreme.
If youre parents are so strict as to abandon their own children when they need them the most, then, no offense, shame on them.
Youre going through a lot right now, and your support system is rocky. But you have your mate's parents. And your boyfriend, as well. So you do have someone to help you.
You have to tell them at some point or another. Regardless of what may happen. If your mum decides to never speak to you again, she's making a very selfish decision and will regret it when she sleeps at night. But you know what she will say? She'll say 'I love my babies, no matter what'.
And thats the truth.
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Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 7:11 pm
If you were worried about how your family would react, especially after what happened to your sister, then you probably shouldn't have been having sex in the first place. Plain and simple. But nothing can be done about that now if you don't want an abortion.
You need to tell them. Have a back-up plan and a place to stay in case they plan to kick you out or anything like that. If your parents decide to not speak to you, then that's their choice and their loss. Do your best and move on.
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 1:00 am
just tell them
they will come around sooner or later if they get upset with you
trust me on this one
I know first hand what that is like
altho, I havent had my baby yet and my mom is being a cow right now abouyt some crap..but that is a different story right there
Just tell your parent and whoever else, you never know
they may just be excited as you are
and ya I read that you and your family dont get along too well, but that could change now that you are becoming a mother.
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 4:23 am
The sooner that you get over it the better. There is no sence in waiting.
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 11:55 am
exactly
waiting might make it a lil bit worse..the sooner the better
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 2:27 pm
Tell them if they don't approve and chew your a** out then let them if you cry don't be ashamed that you kept a wonderful thing and that you have a boyfriend that cares for you, if thats how they feel then fine but I say you did the right thing.
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