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 Posted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 8:41 pm
my ex...i had a child with him once.
I had to abort, my parents gave me no choice.
Now were not together.
He calls me a murderer...and i'm starting to believe it..
He keeps blaming me for it all.
He is just trying to upset me and it...it works.. crying
He said that i'm a murderer...and he just keeps saying it..
I keep being blamed, but i couldn't control what happened, and it makes me feel worse.
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Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 3:03 pm
No one should be forced into having an abortion.
You should distance yourself from your ex. He has no right to call you names and make you feel bad for something that already guilts you.
It is probably best that you seek some sort of couseling. A counseler will be able to help you work through your mental anguish. Take it one day at a time.
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Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 3:31 pm
Yi Min No one should be forced into having an abortion.
You should distance yourself from your ex. He has no right to call you names and make you feel bad for something that already guilts you.
It is probably best that you seek some sort of couseling. A counseler will be able to help you work through your mental anguish. Take it one day at a time. I totally agree. I would suggest not talking to such a venomous person, he's your ex for a reason. Block his number, screen names, etc. If he continues to harass you, file a complaint/restraining order against him. Cut him out of your life, he sounds extremely scary and I hope counseling will be able to help you.
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Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 9:41 pm
lunashock Yi Min No one should be forced into having an abortion.
You should distance yourself from your ex. He has no right to call you names and make you feel bad for something that already guilts you.
It is probably best that you seek some sort of couseling. A counseler will be able to help you work through your mental anguish. Take it one day at a time. I totally agree. I would suggest not talking to such a venomous person, he's your ex for a reason. Block his number, screen names, etc. If he continues to harass you, file a complaint/restraining order against him. Cut him out of your life, he sounds extremely scary and I hope counseling will be able to help you. I second both of these options.
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 8:27 pm
.::BWHAHAHA!!!::. How old exactly were you when they forced you into have an abortion? Because if you didn't give consent to it, then they were the ones who did something wrong. If you hadn't consented, they couldn't force you to do that. So, always remember you have rights has a person and no one can make you do something you don't want to do.
As for you're EX. Tell him how you feel about it. Let him know you didn't like it either. That you suffer like him. Maybe that might shed some light on things, let him see how you feel too. He could be just so sad and anger over your parents and you allowing it? Maybe he wanted the baby with you and wanted to own up to his responsibilities.
Plus, if you ever end up getting in the same stitutation, try educating your parents about other way of how to handle dealing with having a baby. =3 ----------------------------------------------------------------- .::Long Live Johnny K. Gambino::.
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Posted: Mon Oct 30, 2006 6:47 pm
i think that's messed up! your ex couldn't do anything about it. What gives him the right to say that. I'm really sorry really.
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Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 10:00 am
If you didn't want the abortion, then you REALLY don't want to be with him anyway, what person would call someone something like that when it wasn't even their doing? No-one you want to spend your life with, that's who.
It may be hard to do, but you need to cut ALL ties with this boy, as he isn't worth your time at all.
If you did want the abortion, then I'm sorry, lots of people have this mentality, that if you do something THEY don't like, then YOU'RE the one who's wrong, because it couldn't possibly be them.
My whole college knew I had an abortion and I was called a baby killer for a whole year...at first, I didn't care, because it was what they thought and I knew I had done what was best for me...but after a while I started to get depressed...not only because I didn't have anyone to be friends with anymore, but because I figured if everyone thought like that, then it must be true.
After a year of depression and reclusiveness, I brought myself around and now I realise that there was no need for my depression and that they were narrowminded idiots who had no respect for my feelings and beliefs...now I'm happy, I'm having my first child and I'm in a happy relationship and I'm PROUD of what I've done to become who I am and be a good mother to my little one, which I couldn't possibly have been before.
So if you wanted it, don't feel bad for your descision. Even if you start to think about what life might have been like, always think back to your situation AT THE TIME and not your situation now, because if you made a descision, you made it for a reason. Remember that reason.
Either way, if you are becoming depressed, I would advise you to seek an outside party to talk to face to face. Online help is one thing, but a real shoulder to cry on and a friendly face can work wonders for you. Whether it be a friend, a family member, a teacher or a professional, talk to somebody.
If you didn't want it, then I truly am sorry...but don't dwell on it more than is nescessary, as you really can't change things. The only thing you can really do is learn from your past. Don't do anything you don't want to do again, ever...and tell your parents a straight "NO" if they try to make you do something like that again. It's your body and YOUR choice.
......Did you talk to your boyfriend before you had the abortion.....or not? Because if you didn't, that would have hurt him a lot. It isn't his choice, but it's partly his child...and I think any partner deserves to know you're going to have a termination, for whatever reason.
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Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 11:04 am
First of all, they're right : nobody should be forced to abort. But that's not your "problem".
Your ex is just trying to make you feel guilty for doing something that you were forced to do. If he wants to complain about something that's already said and done, that's his problem. Don't listen to him, he's just trying to make up for his feelings.
I hope this message helps, and you can PM me anytime if needed 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 2:30 pm
trust me my parents tried to force me to get an abortion i know im probably younger than most of u (i'm 15 years old)
my only advice is dont give in to wat ur parents want decide wat the best choice is for u
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