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 Posted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 11:14 am
Hello, all. I just thought I'd share events that happened to me in a bad relationship I got myself out of in late January/early February. And if anyone wants to ask me questions or look for advice for something after reading this, feel free to PM me.
Here Goes:
The first six months with my ex was great. (or so i thought). But everything went dark last Easter 2005. That was when he first showed signs of being mentally abusive. I was to go with my family to Connecticut (we lived in New Jersey) for the day to have dinner with my Aunt's family. So the boyfriend (I will call him 'Bob') threatened suicide if i went. I lost it, and started crying, and tried to get myself sick that morning so I didn't have to go. My parents knew I was trying to fake it to make myself sick, and convinced me to still go somehow. I felt better as the day went on cause i was with my family and they made me happy. That night, bob called to apologize and I forgave him. Baaad idea.
Over time, we would fight over every little thing, and I would be left crying, saying "i love you" over and over again until he would forgive me. he wouldnt let me hang around any of my guy friends. (the majority of my friends were infact male). so I only hung around only 2 friends who were girls. he had a jealousy streak.
I saw his physical abusiveness slightly, when he would lose a video game and throw his controller at the TV (he broke a few). he would throw things at his closet and punch his wall. and it got worse. One time in the car i literally asked him if he was going to kill me.
I would always ask him if he was mad at me, just to make sure he wouldnt be. then my cousin (i'll call her "Amber") came to visit from Florida for Winter vacation. He flirted with her like crazy, infront of my family AND me. i accused him and he denied it up and down, calling me a liar. then he stormed out of the house and i tried to stop his car. he got mad, got out of his car, shoved me onto the pavement, and drove away. then he came back a few hours later apologizing. and i forgave him, again (love was literally very blind for me). Amber had no idea what was going on because she was in a different room.
After I got tired of his attitude, i broke up with him...but we stayed friends. Until one night he threatend to rape me in the rear. I told this to my best friend and he told me to tell the cops. i didnt. then the next day Bob came to my house to get something. i confronted him about the situation the last night and he came up with the story about him being drunk. For once, I was glad i didnt believe him. he asked me to go with him to his father's house, a few towns away. I declined, and he left, only to start banging feriously on the door after i locked it and tried to get in. I called 9-1-1 and he was arrested. He got out the next day and pleaded guilty before the court a month later.
Edit: There are some more events in this story that can be added as recent events, but because of confidentiality for the time being, I am not legally allowed to mention these.
so, thats what i went through.
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Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 9:45 pm
I'm sorry for what you went through. heart
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 7:54 am
You did what is right, many people cannot, you should be thankful that it is over and that you managed to go through such a tough time. Good job! 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 9:01 am
awwe thanks for the comments 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Apr 24, 2009 2:42 am
I'm sorry that you had to go through that, but I am glad that it is over between you two. You have done the right thing. He was a JERK.
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Posted: Thu Dec 10, 2009 8:30 am
Woah now that's bad. He sounds like a coke user that quit cold turkey to me.
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