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 Posted: Wed Jul 26, 2006 7:17 am
Ok, so I am going out with a girl that my parents are wary towards. She smokes, but is quitting. She did drink but only because of her mother's drinking problem when she was inside her. She did other drugs but has stopped doing them a long time ago. Now, my mom and dad don't know that she is my girlfriend yet. Yes I plan on telling them, but not right now. They'd flip. How do I break it to them without a major meltdown?
Her entire family(lives with her grandma) knows about us. Her grandma couldn't be happier. As long as we aren't making out infront of her, she is perfectly content with me dating Jasemine. Well, her cousins aren't. They want me to themselves. Jen, Jas' 7 year old cousin, has a huge crush on me. I gave her a kiss on the cheek(I do that to all kids), and she thought we(Jen and I) were going out. 10 year age difference, don't think so. Next up is Jojo, her 6 year old boy cousin. He loves me like a father, and refuses to let me near Jas because he wants me to stay with him. Finally there is Corie, Jas' 13 year old cousin. She has a huge crush on me and has told Jas about it. She constantly tries to break us up because she wants me to go out with her. We(Jas and I) are tired of everyone interfering with our relationship. Is there some way to get them to stop?
Now, Jas loves me a lot, and I love her a lot. This is the first real relationship she's had, and she gets very overprotective of me. Just a few minutes ago I was at her house and she refused to let me get up. She was on my lap and we were making out because we haven't been able to be like that for a week. Everytime she hears Aya's name, she loses her temper. She hates her cousins for hanging on me and Corie for having the hots for me.
I want to know, how can I reassure her that I'm not going to break up with her? Jen said I would if she didn't stop smoking, and I told her that's a lie. Alexi said I was going to, and I again told Jas I wasn't going to. I love her too much, and I'd love some help.
Yesterday when we were making out and tickling each other, something different happened. Now, when I say tickle, I mean in the ribs, stomach, and underarms. Well, it went tickling>making out>tickling>making out>Making out. Well, before her grandma got back from shopping, she was laying across my lap, and so I shifted to where we were cuddling. She took my arm and placed it on her chest and smiled. We continued to make out when we heard her grandma's car pull up. we both jumped at the same time, and hurriedly fixed ourselves up before she walked in. I had to leave so that I could do some quick chores, and then head back. We have never done it that way though. We've been going out for a week and a half now, so it kinda shocked me. She had my hand on top of one of her.....um...you know, and refused to let me move it. Does it seem like we're moving to fast?
Note: We talked out the whole sex thing, so that won't happen for at least a year.
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Posted: Fri Jul 28, 2006 8:13 pm
Well, as far as the cousins are concerned, maybe with the younger two you can just talk to them. Try spending a little time with them, but also explain that you would like some time with your girlfriend without being bothered. Or possibly hang out with your girlfriend without the cousins being around. With the 13 year old, tell her flat out that you are not dating her. If it becomes a serious problem maybe you could tell her grandmother that she seems to be interfering, not to mention she is too young anyway.
As far as convincing her that you won't break up, that is probably harder. Some girls are like that if they simply lack confidence in their ability with guys (not necessarily the case, but it is common, honestly). Just do little things for her that she will appreciate, so she knows you are thinking about her. Maybe plan a special date?
Whether you are moving too fast or not is up to you. If you feel comfortable with what you are doing, then it is fine; if not, its too fast. There isn't much to say besides that.
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Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 7:20 pm
[poke poke] Ladies man eh? [haha]
Well, you need to make sure you assure Jasmine in little ways sometimes, Compliment her and say that you would never leave her, because of that or something, whatever makes sense, don't say it like "Oh your feet are like angels, I'm never leaving you" [That's just kinda retarded....]
And talk to the cousins :]
Did you tell Jen that you kiss little kids on the cheeks all the time? [That's cute to do for kids :] that shows Jasmine you are good with kids]
and Corie.... It would kill her if you did what I'm going to say, but I'm not sure she will break down in front of you...
If you spent time with her and talk about Jasmine all the time, act so infatuated that Corie might get sick of it and then top it off with a "You know Corie, I love Jasmine so much, and it's wonderful Jasmine and I are together." [if you add in a I want her to marry me, then she might tell Jasmine and misunderstandings form.]
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