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 Posted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 12:06 am
Bear with me, here; I think I'm going somewhere with this.
I like to cook. I mean, I really like to cook. I like to plan out elaborate meals, invent desserts and bake goodies for people as thank you gifts. I cook well and I enjoy sharing food with people.
However, even understanding that, my boyfriend doesn't like me to cook for him. He says it makes him feel lazy, which is understandable, but would almost prefer going out to eat -- when I have a limited diet and thus a limited options of restaurant choices -- over me fixing a meal.
I've called him out on this, and he insists that he just wants to save me the trouble of cooking -- even though he knows I enjoy cooking and would be doing it for myself if he wasn't there to buy me dinner. It's gotten to the point where I don't even think he enjoys my cooking (which is obviously decent if other people enjoy it) simply because it makes him feel bad.
Do you think that he'd care so much that I enjoy cooking if the stereotype of women cooking wasn't so frequently portrayed as negative? Can anybody else give an example of "reverse feminism" or elaborate on what I'm trying to say?
Pardon any incoherency in this post. I'm very much running on six hours of sleep two days ago.
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Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 6:31 pm
you should teach your boyfriend how to cook so he can start making meals with you. that might take away some of his guilt and it might be fun.
i kinda see what you're saying about the cooking stereotype. i think another stereotype along those lines would be cleaning or staying neat. i mean it's one thing to clean up after someone else or be expected to clean based on your gender, but i know a lot of women who just can't stand a messy room. and i don't think that just because they will clean makes them any more inferior to men. in fact, perhaps this makes them more superior. and... i don't know where i'm going with this.
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Posted: Thu Jul 20, 2006 1:30 pm
Actually I was working on a cookbook for him for graduation, but he just dumped me. I suppose it'd be worthless to stop now, though.
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Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 10:20 pm
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 5:46 am
I see what you're saying. I suppose there's a sort of knee-jerk reaction to things women have been told they're *supposed* to do for so long. I love to cook too....I just hate to clean.... gonk Nothing wrong with cooking, cleaning, sewing and parenting if that's what you enjoy.
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