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Every guy I meet is either an egofag, completely fake, or so drastically below my standards that I feel ill just talking to them.

My standards, by the way, are composed mostly of personality traits; but obviously have a few physical ones as well.


ANYWAY.

It's the absolute truth. I'm in the game looking for a legitimate romance... finding someone who is either like-minded or completely different, and having at least a long-term relationship. If all I wanted was hooks ups, then you woulden't be readin this thread right now.

I find these people on the internet, at the club, or at the local gay-people-university-meeting thing tha most campus' have. They are:

A) An egofag. This person is so desperately in love with himself that I am hard pressed to believe that he could ever love somone else. Gag. Narcissists. Belch.

B) Fake. I simply cannot humor someone being fake. I'm so sorry, but I can easily pick you out of a crowd. These are the scene kids or later named emos; you know s**t about fashion, equally so with music, and could no carry a conversation about anything outside the theme of gossip and generic gay-talk. Please grow a personality.

C) People that are below my standards.
This is probably where people think i'm a stuck up a*****e. I'm really not.

But let's be realistic. The laws of attraction are some of the most basic truths that you will ever see.

The first impression is everything. If they are not physicly attractive to you at first glance; there's basicaly no chance for an instant spark of interest. It's tucked away into the back of your brain.

Say, however, that you're not shallow; and you go and stir up a bit of conversation. Perhaps his words and voice captivate you, and you begin to find this person far more interesting. That's cool. If not, then the chances are that you'll just move along.

ANYWHO.

Moral is I can't get a date. Discuss.

Because there are so few of the people you actually like, it will be all more worth it when you finally meet that "special someone", furthermore, because of the loads of non intrestink peoples, your eyes won't wander Nearly as much, because you have your <3 and the rest is just, well, ugh.

Oh, by the by, it's my experience that 'looking' won't get you anywhere, I've met all of my partners when not looking.

Oooh prince! Black sweat x3

qft,... The same thing always happened to me

Funny that I read this. I do have standards and I agree on the whole looks thing.
My friend is trying to set me up wioth his friend and for me there is no physical attraction AT ALL! My friends keeps making the point that he is a nice guy but by nice only gets you so far. A girl I work with pointed out that 50% of a relationship is attraction physically and if you date someone you aren't attracted to, you don't have 50% of a relationship. Which is true. I need to date someone I am physically attracted to but also their personality.

I recently discovered through liking someone I talk to online that someone who debates with me and has a great understanding of life and can defend their point is great for someone like me. I am a natural fighter, words wise. I fight over everything and i'm very stubborn and he keeps up with me. Which I just love.

Ha! Join the club. xD I attract losers and stalkers.
It's kinda scary.
And then, the people who start off seeming cool - end up being just as frightening. >o;;;

After reading that, I have a bit of sympathy to you. I know the feeling, cause hey, the people i go out with (girl/guy) are generally not the best people ever.
But, ya just gotta keep going. After all these make ups and break ups it seems, soon you'd be able to pick that person out and know that they aren't right.
Oh and, scene kids annoy me usually.

Cheers --- Pander