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 Posted: Sat Jun 24, 2006 8:39 pm
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Ahahah, maybe in more then one way?
Anyways.
My boyfriend and I are finally planning on having sex. We love eachother and we've both discussed it. I'm going to be put on birth control soon and i know to wait a month until it starts to work. Hes buying condoms and we're all prepared!
But...I'm still kind of nervous. Not apprehensive, but nervous. Like, I dont know how my reactions will be. I'm kind of scared cus i'm growing up, I guess.
Does everyone feel this way? He's not forcing me to have sex. I'm just kind of nervous because I keep thinking "oh god i have to see him NAKED with a giant BALLOON MORE OR LESS on his p***s and WHAT IF I LAUGH!?!"
Also, i'm kind of afraid no one will accept me afterwards. I'm 16 and in a very serious relationship. You think that wouldn't be a problem, huh? I dont want anyone to think i'm a whore or anything (though I dont talk about my sex life that much, and i only have any intimacy with one person and have no desire for more).
anyone understand?
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Posted: Sat Jun 24, 2006 10:15 pm
First of all, kudos for waiting until you're in a serious relationship, that's awesome.
I don't know anout anyone else, but I was really nervous my first time.. being naked with a guy, what to do, what to say, etc. I'll just say it wasn't pretty. I think if you are a little nervous, chances are he is too, if it's his first time as well, he's prolly having some of the same feelings as you are. Maybe you should talk to him about it right before you do the dirty, try to calm each other's nervs so you can be relaxed and enjoy it.
If you're afraid no one will accept you, don't tell them. They don't have to know what goes on in your life 24/7, some things might need to be kept secret... Or you could explain to people that you're in a serious relationship and trust this person.
Hope I helped some... good luck.
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Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 1:02 am
It's good that you're in a well established relationship, and that you're both prepared.
If it's his first time as well, then he's probably got the same feelings. Remember to communicate, and don't forget tomake sure there will no interruptions. Light 3 or 4 candles, and try to be comfortable with eachother.
People don't need to know about your personal life, who you're intimate with and why. You have one partner, and you are quite happy with him. I congradulate you on your success.
Have fun. heart
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Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 7:30 am
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yeah. its his first time too.
Thanks.
-_- I never thought of it that way. That we love eachother, so its okay.
I mean, everyone loves him, my family loves him, so its not like I'm getting any criticisism there.
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Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 5:57 pm
Like everyone else is saying, way to be responsible. I admire the fact that you two have discussed this through and are taking precautions, (BC and condoms) as well as the factthat you are in a serious relationship.
My boyfriend and I went through this too. However, I am younger than you, 15 to be exact, and my boyfriend is 18. Sure it sounds crazy, but its only three years. We have been dating for a year and been having sex for about 2 months, therefore we waited 8 months..
Anyways, enough about that. It really isn't as awkward as you will believe it to be. It all comes very easily once you get into it.
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Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 7:19 pm
this sounds very similar to my relationship with my boyfriend, we've been daing three years now and have only started having sex this year.
It's really great to hear others are taking their sex life with responisbility smile
As for fear of naked-ness my only advice would be to just to spend more time around each other naked smile it doens't have to be sexual, maybe even just lounge around and read a book together in your skivvies. or have a shower together. (Just so long as you don't get carried away!!!) You don't even have to be completly naked at first, mayeb just in your underwears together.
either way, don't worry being comfortable around each other naked will come in time smile
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Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 8:08 pm
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:O
I'm surprised other people felt the same that I do biggrin Its nice everyone has a nice happy ending though.
We hung out today and talked about it a lot. He didnt have enough money for condoms because he spent it on ALLENWRENCHES AND GUITAR STRINGS (he has a show coming up. Hes a musician) so I gave him some money.
We'll try again tomorrow.
I'm not as nervous when I see him though, because I just love him so much biggrin
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Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 9:56 pm
Shnooks ~{ }~
:O
I'm surprised other people felt the same that I do biggrin Its nice everyone has a nice happy ending though.
We hung out today and talked about it a lot. He didnt have enough money for condoms because he spent it on ALLENWRENCHES AND GUITAR STRINGS (he has a show coming up. Hes a musician) so I gave him some money.
We'll try again tomorrow.
I'm not as nervous when I see him though, because I just love him so much biggrin
~{ }~ that's good smile a lot of community centers give out free condoms, as well as lube and other such things, if you're extremely desperate, or, just curious and want to take a closer look at them smile I don't suggest relying on free condoms all the time however, i'ts hard to say how they've been handeled previously.
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Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 11:46 am
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Anyways, we did it and I dont feel any regrets.
We had a great time, and there was NO PAIN.
I was like :O
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Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 1:25 pm
Shnooks ~{ }~
Anyways, we did it and I dont feel any regrets.
We had a great time, and there was NO PAIN.
I was like :O
~{ }~ Yesss!!!! 3nodding xd
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Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 7:02 am
Yay! Sounds like it was more fun then my first time. We had condoms we were planning on using later that night. We got stuck in an elevator. Needless to say, we used the condom right then and there. It wasn't the best of ideas. Too short and was painful because of the position we had to use. What was funny thugh was the after effect. I was shaking so much that I couldn't stand up. He had to carry me out of the elevator. We got some odd looks.
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Posted: Wed Jun 28, 2006 8:43 pm
Shnooks ~{ }~
Anyways, we did it and I dont feel any regrets.
We had a great time, and there was NO PAIN.
I was like :O
~{ }~ Well, I'm sure we are all glad to have helped you through the tiny bit of uncertainty and anxiety you might have experienced. Congratualtions on taking another step in your relationship, and I definatly wish you and your man the best. P.S Just always remember, sex involves two people (at least) and tonnes of communication. If he does something you don't like, or even something you do, you MUST talk to him about it. Often, the best is to exchange words during sex, and I bet you will find communication oddly stimulating.
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Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 11:00 am
yea i was nervous at first but im an easy turned on person whee
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