Update: She decided she had no feelings for me anymore, we're over.



Hey everybody. This is the second time I come to this sub-forum for help, and I hope its the last time.

My online girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now. During that time, we were always close. She would do anything for me, she even picked me over her friends when it came to their jealousy. But lately, she says she isn't sure if she still loves me as a girlfriend. She says she can't picture herself with someone like me in the future.

See, I have my own little problems. I've been told I'm sensitive and insecure of myself. I know that those are the two most dangerous things in a relationship. She came to be with me last week, and things seem to have been going great, until of course the last few days. I guess the thought of her leaving hurt me and took me to tears.

I know I have to change my ways, and I am, but I want to know if I should. She doesn't seem to feel like she use to anymore, and it feels like I'm just a friend now when we talk. We've even spoken about what we'd do if we broke up. She wants to stay friends if worst comes to worst, but I don't know if I can do it. I still love her deeply. I almost wish I didn't, but I can't help it. We were each other's first everything. We shared our first kiss, our first affectionate hug.. and even our first time. But if her mind is made up, I dont know if I can change it.

I asked her if she loves me and she said yes, and then I asked her if she loved me as her boyfriend, and he answer was that she wasn't sure. What she wants, I give it to her, I'm everything she wants from a guy, but the only problem with me in my sensitivity. She doesn't feel like she can be herself around me and she puts up a bit of an act. Its a little frustrating, especially from everything that we've been through.

This isn't the first time I've been told this. My brother told me the same, and even my mother agreed. I just don't know how to control my emotions. I've had a very rocky relationship before this one where I had given my heart out completely, only to have it destroyed. I didn't think I could love again until I met her, but the effects of my past still effect me today.

Please give me some advice, I don't know what I should do.