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 Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 5:14 pm
Just curious, what do you define being "out" as?
Do you suddenly decide "Alright time to be 'out', gotta tell everyone!", then you go tell yer family your friends, and all relatives you know?
I consider myself to be out, but it wasn't quite like that. I just kinda came to the realization that "Hrmm... hey, ya know what... I'm bi. Intresting." and that was it, if it's brought up in a conversation of like the one I had with my bf on my birthday:
Him:"I'm surprised you're so comfortable around my uncle. My mom is a little bit worried about people's reactions."
Me: "Why would I have a negative reaction? Heck they're one step away from me!"
Him:"Huh?"
Me: "I'm bi, so them being gay really isn't that bad. Heck, the bi's get more heat then they do, we piss off both sides!"
Or, when my friend casually asked me, I answered. But I'm not going to walk up to my parents and say "Hey! Guess what! I'm bi! Well, alright if you need anything I'll be in my room sewing."
So, how many of you would deem that as still being in the closet? and how many of you think that is a suitable form of outage?
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Posted: Wed Jun 14, 2006 7:36 am
That would depend upon the situation in which you came out. For you, it was an easy thing, since your familiar was generally accepting of you.
However, I would say that it would be harder for someone like me, who has a generally accepting familiy, but lives an an unaccepting area.
How were you so unafraid of coming out? For me, it was terrifying because I've just heard of so many things that could go wrong.
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Posted: Wed Jun 14, 2006 11:28 am
Lycan_no_Chaos That would depend upon the situation in which you came out. For you, it was an easy thing, since your familiar was generally accepting of you.
However, I would say that it would be harder for someone like me, who has a generally accepting familiy, but lives an an unaccepting area.
How were you so unafraid of coming out? For me, it was terrifying because I've just heard of so many things that could go wrong.
Well, for one thing I live in NY. So I live in a very relaxed "eh who cares?" type of area, and I was always raised that way. Another thing, one of my friends is a lesbian. So I know that if I told any of my friends they wouldn't care cause they're already friends with someone like that and totally accept it. As for my bf, it's the same. His uncle is gay. So for me it's not really a problem at all. Granted the subject has never been brought up around my parents, but should they ever ask I'm not going to hide it. One of the key important things in my life is to be proud of who I am, and they should love and accept me for everything even my slight differences. My sister happens to know, and I think she believes it's rather cool. "I have a non-straight family member!"
We are an unusual family indeed.
I think it's bases solely on how you're brought up. Since I was raised by the television, and television that I watched was all about friendship, fighting what's wrong, you gotta stand up for yourself (lots and lots of cartoons) and, Saved by the Bell, which has social classes (the cool kids and the geek) hangin out like they're best buds, it was just kinda a moment of clarity in which "anyone who says they're my friend yet doesn't accept me, isn't really a friend I want."
I hope that helped to some extent. Sorry it's rather jumbeled.
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Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 7:44 pm
I consider being 'out' as being comfortable with your sexuality. You don't necesarily have to post it on a billdoard in neon lights to be 'out'.
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f someone asks and you can willingly share your sexuality with that person, then you are 'out'.
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Posted: Fri Jul 07, 2006 7:36 pm
For me, I've told everyone that means something to me and I'm not afraid to tell others either. I practice some discretion obviously, I'm not about to tell an uber-Catholic that I'm lesbian.
Basically, being comfortable with it.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 6:18 am
Being "out", for me, is everyone knowing about your sexuality and dealing with it accordingly. It also means that the person who's "out" supports their decision as to who they're attracted towards be it boys, girls, or both.
I have yet to reach that level of comfort sweatdrop
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