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 Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:22 am
I am not even sure why I am going to share this tidbit of my life...most of my friends and family haven't heard this. It definately helps that this is over the internet and anyone who thinks they know me can't prove it. Well anyways...
About three months ago I decided to do something stupid. I went down to the beach around 11 pm and tried to hitch a ride to the mainland. After declining mabe 4 rides (they were either aggressive looking guys or were obviously drunk) I settled for a ride with a guy and his girl in a red chevy truck. Since there wasn't enough room in front I got to sit in the bed of the truck. Everything was fine until they pulled into a dirt road. They parked at an empty house lot. I felt a bit uneasy since there werent any houses around for at least a block. The girl got out of the truck and said shed be back in a few. When she was out of sight the guy came out of the truck and started making small talk. I found myself getting more comfortable in this mans presence. It happened kinda fast...the next thing I know hes got my hands in a ziptie thingie and he has my pants off (no I'm not a slut I just like baggy clothes so it comes off easy). The rest of it I can't say...i just cant and wont describe the rest of it.
My friend didnt seem to believe any of it. She said she did but I dont know. We didnt talk again on that subject. If she didnt believe me then what are the chances of you, a complete stranger, or my boyfriend believing it. Since my bestfriend avoided the subject he was the only person I could talk to. But what if he doesnt believe me?
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Posted: Tue Jun 13, 2006 12:01 pm
If she doesn't believe you, maybe she's not really your friend. Or maybe she's avoiding the reality of what happened to you because it hurts her to think about it. Regardless, if she thinks you're lying, then it's her loss. Don't sweat it.
Same thing applies to your boyfriend. If he chooses not to believe you when you tell him, it's his problem. You might want to give him some space, or you might want to consider finding another boyfriend. Just consider that he might be avoiding the problem because he's not sure how to deal with it, or because it bothers him to think about it. He might be in denial like your friend.
What should be your main concern is telling your parents and then going to the police. They can open an investigation into what happened to you, or might be able to help in some other way.
You also need to see a doctor if you were raped and your rapist didn't use protection. Not only do you run the risk of being pregnant but you could also be infected with something now and not know it. If you're nervous about going to the doctor's alone, ask your parents to come with you.
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Posted: Sat Jun 24, 2006 1:29 am
Well, she covered anything I was going to say. Most importantly, go to the police. Also, think twice before going out alone at dark, and ESPECIALLY before going anywhere with people you don't know. It was a bad situation, and you said you felt it when they pulled up to the house. You should have trusted your immediate intuition, but that said, as you are obviously trusting, it's not your fault this guy betrayed your trust and violated you. Bust his a**.
I just have to get this out... if you are EVER raped, go to the police IMMEDIATELY. Don't go home and shower, don't change your clothes, go to the police first thing. Don't feel guilty like maybe it was your fault, or feel embarrassed and want to hide it. No one deserves rape, and the definition of rape is forcing sex on an unwilling partner. If someone had sex with you against your will, it is rape, and needs to be reported.
Police do rape kits. They collect DNA, check for bruises, and also check for STDs and later, pregnancy. This helps convict a criminal-rapist. Never let anyone get away with rape. If you don't say anything, and someone else is raped by the same person, it could have been your police report to save that next person.
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Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 8:55 am
I so agree with the above! Even if the rapist uses a condom they can find other evidence from him on you.
Remember you comming forward could stop him from doing this again!
It also gives you closure on many levels, but I know me being me, it was not until I realized that he could do it (and had done it to someone else that I stepped forward)
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