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 Posted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 5:07 pm
a few days ago last saturday and i am really sad, i wasnt her best friend anymore but we were really close, she died in the hospital. i personally feel very bad but i cannot show it around other people so i am scared they think i dont care about her death, i am scared to smile and the second thing is that i know some ways to help her best friend but i cant find the words to say it, i sent the message so the help is done but maybe she will feel that i am not supporting her, she is my friend too??????? lastly is that without her i dont feel like i fit in i really misss her. also exams start this week and i cant really concentrate.
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Posted: Wed Jun 07, 2006 5:16 pm
I managed to lose two uncles in the middle of last term's exam period. One of them was one of my greatest heroes and we were really close. So I know how you feel about dealing with normal stress plus this added bit.
About other people thinking that you aren't suffering enough, I know what you mean on this as well. My aunt's husband died about a year and half ago. Everyone kept telling her that it would be ok and to not be afraid to move on with her life. So she did. She's sad that he's gone, but she's moving on. She's picked up some hobbies to take up her time. But now all her kids have stopped talking to her because they (the same people who told her to move on) are upset that she isn't "grieving enough."
People have impossible standards. This is complicated by the fact that many of these people are only accusing others of grieving too much/not enough because they themselves feel like they are grieving an inadequate amount and feel uncomfortable with the situation.
It's important to realise that everyone grieves in different ways. If your way is frowned upon by others, just nicely let them know that you are grieving, but that it's in your own way.
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Posted: Wed Jun 14, 2006 11:10 pm
I lost a friend in the terrorist attack. On the 9 11 incident. He was there with his mom at work and i've been long for a call from him hoping that he is alive. We were friends since the 3rd grade. We were pin-pals. We did that in school as a class.
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Posted: Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:21 am
I lost one of my best friends 2 years ago when he was in a car with 2 other people going about 70 down a country road, they swerved to miss a deer, the car flipped 6 times, all 3 were ejected (No seatbelts rolleyes ), and the car landed on top of my friend. His parents don't have a lot of money so they had to bury him in a part of a cemetary that doesn't allow headstones or flowers or anything. I'm still grieving, and it's been 2 years. Sometimes I just cry randomly and nobody understands why. Right after he died, my parents had to move us to a different city cause I couldn't sleep in my old room without thinking about him.
Feel better, ok? it's perfectly normal to be sad and depressed, just don't let it take up too much of your life. It's also really good to have people to talk to about it, that's why Gaia is such a good place. *hugs* wink
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:35 am
I know what it feells like. I love my gf with all my open hearts. One night she had a life and death experence in front of me. I cried all night. Screaming out why did god take my love away from me. I blaimed myself. I felt like a knife just got soved through my heart watching my love die in front of me was too much. I started losing it completey. crying crying crying crying crying My best friend was with her. It hurt like hell. The next day i went to school. with a ^^ on my face hiding the fact that my love passed and i didn't want to talk about it. i thought about skepping class doing s**t to take the pain away but nothing helped. my fav games didnt help at all.
The next day my friend told me shes alive. At first i told him, hes lieing. that i just watch my better haft, my bride to be die infront of me to stop being mean and joking like that. he said he wasn't. I was beyond excited, I was freaking out i was so happy. The next day she got a hold of me and I proposed to her right then. Im still waiting for her to say yes. this time she didn't give me a flat no just not right now i cant.
Im sorry for your lost. It hurts a lot but fear none, the hurt will pass and your be able to heal. =^_^= i wish you the best.
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Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 5:25 pm
i'm really sorry to hear that. sad
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 7:05 pm
I lost a friend two years ago to a car accident in New Mexico caused by a drunk driver. That one really stung, since we were friends back in middle school and she was one of the most talented and unique friends I have ever had in my life. The funeral was also around the same day my boyfriend broke up with me, so that was a really hard blow since my bf was acting really strange and distant ever since his arrest, even though he was completely normal for a while.
I usually try to find a person to talk to whenever stuff like this happens. It helps me feel better.
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