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 Posted: Mon May 29, 2006 9:05 pm
Ok, short story here... Bare with me >.<
This girl is 12. I'm 16 and already dating a girl. Shes a bright young girl, and the adopted daughter of a couple I know. Sunday is the first time I actually met her. Instantly, this girl starts flirting with me. Then, Today she called me and lied about why she actually called. My mom was looking at caller ID, and was like, "girls mom's name" called this afternoon?" Of course she knew this girl was flirting with me.
And I said "Yes thats who it was.
"Oh no..."
Of course my dad heard the conversation between me and my mom and was like "You be nice to that girl... Don't break her heart"
Then my mom suggested Me and my girlfriend could take her somewhere. I shrugged and walked away.
So my issue is, How Do I nicely explain to this girl that I'm not looking to date her? Or something along those lines. I haven't considered talking to my father about it... I wouldn't hear the end of it then.
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Posted: Mon May 29, 2006 11:02 pm
"You're a kid, and you're too young. We can be friends, but nothing more."
Or something like:
"I already have a girlfriend. I don't need another one."
You could also talk to her parents if this girl is bothering you.
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 2:03 pm
Niko! Stop beating me to it! *Sigh*
What Niko said, really. Tell her things the way it is.
1: She's too young
2: You have a girlfriend, so all she could ever get from you would be friendship.
If you can, have your girlfriend there when you tell the girl. Just in case the kid decides to run off and tell everyone how evil you were to her etc. Your girlfriend can work as a witness.
I'm not saying it will happen, but I've seen it before.
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 4:15 pm
Agreed with the previous posters. I would also advise to sit down and talk this over with your mother. She is saying don't break her heart, but taking her along will give her an impression and I would also advise just cutting off communications.
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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 9:22 am
Prince Nathan "You be nice to that girl... Don't break her heart" Then my mom suggested Me and my girlfriend could take her somewhere. I shrugged and walked away.
Just tell here she's too young for you. Don't lead her on to thinking something could happen in the future, or that you could be close friends. It would hurt more for her to get her hopes up.
No offence, but she could forget you in about a month when another crush comes along. Twelve year olds aren't known for having lasting crushes.
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Posted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 5:33 pm
I'd like to agree to what your mom advised. By taking her out with your g/f, your showing that you still want to be friends, but aren't interested in her. The only thing with that is if your too detached from your girlfriend and don't take interest giving her the assumption that you don't like her anymore or flirting too much with your girlfriend causing the green monster to come out. Anywho, she's 12 and 12 year old hearts are usually on the mend soon 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 5:37 pm
You can tell her that your not interested in her. Just like what others' said. OR you can probably find a friend or boy that she may be interested in him. That could probably help.
Good luck.
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Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 7:19 am
Just be honest, and tell her that you aren't interested. It may break her heart, but it would be worse to lead her on when you don't feel the same way. Also, do make sure she knows you already have a girlfriend, because she'll either understand, or prove to be someone you don't want to be hanging out with (backstabbers never make good friends, I know from experience). You could try staying friends with the girl as long as you establish ground rules, so you guys don't get too close and your girlfriend doesn't go ballistic with jealousy, because no girl wants her boyfriend hanging around a girl who's constantly flirting with him (another thing I happen to know from experience . . . see signature).
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Posted: Sat Jun 24, 2006 6:51 pm
tell her nicely that you have a girlfriend, don't say your just a kid. 12 year olds don't take very well to being called a kid. I know my sister is 12. Explain how you think she would be better off with someone her own age and remember yoursel that 12 year old crushes dont' alst all that long so let it pass. Don't show interest in her but don't shun her either.
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Posted: Sat Jul 22, 2006 9:47 pm
Just tell her you have a girlfriend and that evenm if you didn't you couldn't imagine dating her, the age difference would make you uncomfterable.
Make sure that if you say the girlfriend thing that you also say something about not wanting to date her at all. Because if she thinks your girlfriend is in the way, bad things happen and she might try to break you two up gonk
But before saying anything, ask her why she is flirting with you, she might just be doing it because thats the only way she knows how to act around guys and she might have no intention of dating you at all.
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