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 Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 7:40 am
..for like the billionth time in the past year. DX
About two years ago, while I was still with my ex, I met Peter in a game. He and I kinda latched onto each other quickly, became fast friends. I knew I had deep feelings for him, but I was taken - so of course, I kept my trap shut. Peter and I helped each other through our worst times, but we still both kept quiet about how we felt. I went on with my life, and told him everything I did. I didn't want to keep him in the dark, because I was afraid if we ever got together, he'd get angry at me for not telling him of the things I did.
He, however, neglected to tell me that he was in a relationship. Until about a month or two ago. I got horribly pissed off, but quickly got over it. That night, the two of us actually talked for hours, without closing up and getting angry. I finally told him that I loved him. He's afraid to tell me it back, though.
He won't get involved in any type of long-distance relationship. It kind of makes me feel like s**t.. like I'm pouring my feelings out to a brick wall.
We talked about it some more, tonight. He still won't directly tell me he loves me, but he'll say things like "You know you're loved" or "love ya" as opposed to "I love you." .. it's like, saying it flat-out is going to kill him. D:
So, to those of you in LDR's - how do you handle it? I've been in them before, but none were really serious... and I definitely have very serious feelings for Peter.
AND on a side note, girls -> Odd question, but what type of undies do you wear? All I can ever find in my size, are like granny panties and they drive me nuts. D: I love the bikini bottoms, but .. like I said, those aren't easy to find around here in the right size. >_____o; Bah.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 8:35 am
LDR's can be hard.... even harder if one of the people in them isn't seeming to be pulling their weight in the relationship. I wish you much luck and I hope things work out between you and Peter....
Oh and I just make do with granny panties as you call them ^_^* though I've a few pair of high cuts that I've come to adore... 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 10:47 am
Wow! A topic I actually have experiance in. sweatdrop
Anyway...I am in a long distance relationship. Compared to yours it is probably not that far (200mi) but it is when both parties are trying to build their lives up. And when I read your post all I could do was shake my head. My bf, Tatsu (not his real name) was EXACTLY like that. He swore off long distance relationships for his last was one ended in flames. He even swore of women in general for a while. He even swore that he could never love nor say that he loved anyone ever again.
For 4 years through failed relationships and rough times, I knew that I loved him and for 3 of those years he knew. But only in last July did we finally get together....even though he still couldn't admit that he loved me. I had the patience to wait for him until he could say it. He did finally open up to me in November and now we are together happily, sharing feelings and thoughts freely. (I just came back from seeing him last night as a matter of fact. ^_^)
I said all of this to say that your situation is not hopeless. It never is. It is basically a matter of time if the two of you are meant to be. I believe in God (therefore fate) and if two people are meant to be together then they will be eventually. I also think that if you feel that he is not worth your time....get rid of him ASAP!! But if and only if he is, be patient (I don't have any btw) and keep loving him. If you are meant to be with him things will work out and if not...*shrugs* ...you're better off without him. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 11:28 am
eek complex and confuseing and a little scarry stare regular relationships R hard enough LDRs just aint worth the hassle
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 11:35 am
Jinnari Wow! A topic I actually have experiance in. sweatdrop Anyway...I am in a long distance relationship. Compared to yours it is probably not that far (200mi) but it is when both parties are trying to build their lives up. And when I read your post all I could do was shake my head. My bf, Tatsu (not his real name) was EXACTLY like that. He swore off long distance relationships for his last was one ended in flames. He even swore of women in general for a while. He even swore that he could never love nor say that he loved anyone ever again. For 4 years through failed relationships and rough times, I knew that I loved him and for 3 of those years he knew. But only in last July did we finally get together....even though he still couldn't admit that he loved me. I had the patience to wait for him until he could say it. He did finally open up to me in November and now we are together happily, sharing feelings and thoughts freely. (I just came back from seeing him last night as a matter of fact. ^_^) I said all of this to say that your situation is not hopeless. It never is. It is basically a matter of time if the two of you are meant to be. I believe in God (therefore fate) and if two people are meant to be together then they will be eventually. I also think that if you feel that he is not worth your time....get rid of him ASAP!! But if and only if he is, be patient (I don't have any btw) and keep loving him. If you are meant to be with him things will work out and if not...*shrugs* ...you're better off without him. 3nodding
I'm glad things worked out for you, too!.. Peter.. is about 800 miles away. -nod- We both have very rough lives, so it's pretty hard on both of us.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 11:39 am
well in the past i had two online relationships and right now i am taken by Iapetus. Anyways my first relationship was with a friend Brandon (he use to be mybest friend but we dont talk anymore) it was kinda serious but not really. He was really a great sweet guy but it didnt work out. That was four years ago and me and him were best friends. As he put it we had probably been through more s**t together then some married couples we were very close. But just last month we decided it was time to let go of eachother we didnt need eachother anymore so were not friends anymore.
My last relationship that ended back in Jan. was ok i guess. It was reallyacctuly kinda hard. Our relationship in my point of veiw wasnt really serious at first our relationship was good but towards the end our relationship drove me crazy truth be told thats one reason i was almost always depressed. After we broke up we were suppose to stay friends. But he abandoned me when i needed him the most. But truth be told i am glad he did, because now i dont have to talk to him and i have met the best guy for me.
Now I am currently taken by Andrew (Iapetus) so far i absalutly feel like we belong. In my whole life i have never met anyone so perfect for me. Plus he is so sweet and a genltlemen. Though its really hard being so far away. But i really do love him ^^Being with him makes me happier then ever. The other day i was really depressed and i was cring for over 5 hours ready to start cutting again (i havnt done it since my last bf)and he helped me through it. He told everything was ok. He helped me through it. He didnt chicken out and leave me when i needed him the most. He stayed like a real man ^^ and only a little while later he made me laugh he only wants to make me happy and i couldnt be any happier with him (well that is until one day we meet in RL someday) i havnt sat downand figured out how far from eachother. But he lives in Nova Scotia, Canada and i live here in coloradoY.Y
But dont get angry at the guy. He might love you but is afraid to say it. Most guys are. Infact I dont think Andy would have said it to me unless i dared him to say it on the mic. (lol i seriously didnt think he was.) I know he would have said it to me sometime, but not that soon. But dont worry more then likely he will sayit to you. Now as far as my undies go i dont wear granny panties very much anymore. lol not sure what you can call then usualy high cut. Somepretty small barly can cover mybutt^^" lol what? its easier to put on my size 16's ^^"
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 3:26 pm
cerebral ulcer Thank you. :O You have no idea how better that made me feel. <333
I'm glad things worked out for you, too!.. Peter.. is about 800 miles away. -nod- We both have very rough lives, so it's pretty hard on both of us. ^_^ Thanks. I'm glad you are feeling better now. Don't worry about it all. It'll work out for the best. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 3:40 pm
Hmm... looks like I can't help much, though I do agree with the others, LDR's are hard, and I have no intention of getting into them again, but what I can say is the only thing you do now is just try to be friends with the guy.
Oh, and by the way, I wear thongs. I can get away wearing the 9's, but they DO make plus-sized thongs that look rather cool and awesome.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 5:02 pm
I just wanna say this thing right now.
Saying I love you... is a big thing. I find it SO hard to say to someone who I even DO find I love. It takes me days of plotting. Plus, him being in a relationship perhaps doesn't want to end up being pulled in between. Concionse, guilt, whatnot.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 5:32 pm
oh lordy lordy lordy. Long Distance relationships are -hard-. Greg lives about 3,200 miles away from me. Yes, for any knowledge freaks. That is the -entire- expanse of the US. I live in Western Washington, he lives in eastern New York. =D Yay for the heart wrenching sick feeling I get when I realize -just how- far 3,200 miles are. It gets so hard, loving him and being so far away. I want nothing more than to just hug him, hold him in my arms ya know? -Actual- physical contact. Its a cold lonely world fraternizing with a computer screen. But I wouldn't give it up for the world. The phone calls just make it stronger. Yay for him having free long distance! ^^" Him and I definatly aren't shy about saying we love one another....as a few threads have so sickeningly been proof of.
Underwear..... I have size 9 bikini cuts mostly. Thats what my mom and I compromised on. She won't let me wear thongs. I also have some low rider hip huggers. xD I needa get some thongs though. I just feel all.....Granny Pantie collectorish. ^^"
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2005 8:09 pm
I know LDR's are hard, I've been in them before. I'm not angry at him, I don't see why everyone seems to think so.. .____.; Didn't mean it to come across like that at all.
I'm just frustrated because I really feel like I'm shoving up against a wall.
I know he's scared, though. Just doesn't make it any easier. -cough-
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