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Astrid-157

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Posted: Fri May 12, 2006 4:08 pm

Ok, my cousin is about 21 and is engaged with her boyfriend, who is currently having a little trouble getting into the army. Problem is, the whole family's against the marriage except me. It could be that my cousin and her fiance are both 21, but then I heard my aunt (my cousin's mom) that if my cousin left the house, she would never be allowed to come back. When Christmas came, I bought some chocolate for my cousin's fiance, while her family didn't bother to send him a Christmas card.... I can't imagine the chaos that will arise if my cousin becomes pregnant.

Am I taking things too personally? I feel sort of hurt when my own parents dissaprove and predict a horrible future my cousin will have. I feel even worse when my cousin's parents make fun of my cousin's fiance behind his back but in front of my cousin.

Thanks.

Posted: Fri May 12, 2006 7:28 pm

Sorry if I'm brusque about this, because I'm running low on tact and patience these days. And nothing gets me more irritated then a bunch of adults who can't even act that way.

Honestly, tell them all to grow up, butt out, and it's not their life. Your cousin is an adult and if they don't like what she's doing, too bad. If they can't have the decency to be supportive and helpful, they should keep their comments to themselves. Their behavior is uncomely for someone who is 12, let alone middle aged.

Let your cousin know not to take them personally and to not be bullied into letting them choose where she goes in her life. If they can't grow up and come around, she's honestly better off without any of them. Family can be bigger assholes then people who aren't related to you and sadly, some feel entitled to treat their own like dirt.

She deserves a lot better then that.