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 Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 5:43 am
I have a girlfriend, her best friend Kyle is gay and is obsessed with me.(I mean really OBSESSED) I've made-out with him, but thats was more out of a desperation measure to get him to calm down, didn't work, he expects me to makeout with him everyday. When I just upright and told him that I wasnt gonna cheat on my girlfriend for him, he slaps me and walks off all pissed off. He gets over it after two days and acts like nothing ever happened, still after me and trying to get me to cheat on my girlfriend.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 6:38 am
In all honesty, I must say...
You led him on. That wasn't fair. If you're not interested, you should make that plenty clear to the person, not start making-out with them.
Honestly, Think about it...
Lets just say, you didn't have a girlfriend. And some girl tried to make out with you. And then you found out that she wasn't interested in you.
I mean come on, Wouldn't you be confused, hurt, and whatnot...?
-shrugs-
I don't know what else to say. Sorry. x.X;;
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 8:02 am
But he knows that I don't want him, that doesn't stop him. His goal is to have me wether I like it or not. Or as he said "I'm gonna screw you wether you like it or not."
I know I lead him on, I thought since he got what he wanted, he would stop, but his craving can't be satisfied, and I can't convince him to like somebody else. He's convinced that I'm the best guy in the world, I say that I ruined his life, since he met me, he's had more "heartache" than he did before we met. But still, if he really loved me, and wanted me to be happy, wouldn't he leave me alone. It gives me the feeling he wants my body more than he "loves" me.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 8:09 am
Have you tried contacting your school/local authorities? They may be able to do something for you. As far as I know what you are experiencing is harrassment, and I know that being slapped can be considered abuse etc...
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 9:00 am
He's my friend, I'm not mad at him, I just want to get him to stop obsessing over me.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 9:09 am
I don't think I'd want that type of person as my friend.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 10:10 am
I know, it's like a really weird twisted up soap opera.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 12:58 pm
I would sit him down.. looking him straight in the eye and telling him:
"Dude, you're my friend and I dont want to hurt you but .. you're starting to really freak me out. I dont like you in the way you like me and I dont think I ever will. You need to stop obssessing over me. I have a girlfriend who is also your friend and I dont want to cheat on her. Think of how hurt she would be if we were to get to getter anyways."
But you might have already did that. So I dunno what to say other than what Draxe said and call the athorities. Because whether he's your friend or not, he shouldn't be harrassing you like this. No real true friend, or in this case someone who really loves you would harrass you like this.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 2:20 pm
So this means, he's either blinded to where he can't see how he's hurting me. Or he's just a sex crazed fanboy(no offense to those of you who are)
I haven't gotten to have a sit down talk with him, cause I really only see him at school, and we're not in any class together. We talk on the move.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 3:30 pm
LegatoBish So this means, he's either blinded to where he can't see how he's hurting me. Or he's just a sex crazed fanboy(no offense to those of you who are) I haven't gotten to have a sit down talk with him, cause I really only see him at school, and we're not in any class together. We talk on the move. Oh well if you get the chance, really have a talk with him. I think that might help with getting him to understand where you're coming from. Be straight foward with it too, cause it's better to tell the truth. Then if he keeps on, then you know what kind of person he is.
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Posted: Mon May 08, 2006 8:35 pm
All you can do is sit down together and talk. Tell him that you will never cheat on your girlfriend, ever. Tell him the truth behind that kiss. Tell him everything. Tell him how annoying it is and ask him very nicely, as a friend, to stop.
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Posted: Thu May 11, 2006 7:19 pm
Thank you very much, all of you, for your input and advice.
Today I realized that even though he says he loves me, he treats me like a dog, telling me where to go, what to do, when to pose (for his camera). I was talling him once not to control me and let me do what I want, he mumbled something like "It wasn't hard to do that(control)". He also can't accept the fact that he can't always get/do what he wants.
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Posted: Tue May 16, 2006 6:17 pm
Have you ever read the book "Perks of Being a Wallflower"? Your perdicament reminds me of that book....
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