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 Posted: Wed May 03, 2006 2:35 pm
it's really anoying, he's hurt me so much with all the girls he's been seeing, its horrible. our relationship ended with alot of s**t. but i think i'm past that now. he's wanted me back ever since we split but i don't see how it can work while hes just going form one girl to another doh! if you can be bothered, you could have a quick look at his most recent journal entry, it was really toutching and really got to me emotonaly. i'm refered to as 'the girl from england' http://www.gaiaonline.com/journal/index.php?mode=view&p=3481171
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Posted: Thu May 04, 2006 4:32 pm
Oh hunnie.... I'm sorry. I hate seeing people be hurt. Especially people who are as sweet as you are. Even though you and I haven't talked, I've seen posts of yours.
I've been in similiar places. I had an ex who dumped me, and for a long time I missed him and wanted him back. Here's where we start to differ; I know that it would be a -bad- thing if I had gotten back together with him. The only reason he dumped me in the first place was because his family told him to. He was 18 at the time. I was 15. This was about a year ago. Last October would have been 2 years. But anyway, I'm glad we aren't together anymore because he was very emotionally...not quite abusive, but almost there. He'd yell at me and tell me that everything was my fault, and then try and comfort me when I started to believe him. He only wanted me because of how big I am (He's an FA that I met here in this guild actually). But he made me cry on a daily basis, and I'm one of those people who are impossible to make cry.
Then his parents grounded him from the computer for a few months, and when he came back, a mutual friend of ours asked how he was holding up and if it bothered him to be forced into a breakup. His response? He was in hell 'for a few days'. It took him 'a few days' to get over 9 months of a relationship that he had told me on many occasions was one of the most important things to him.
It took me months to get over the suddenness of it. And the fact that I was so easy to throw away. I mean, if he had really loved me like he said, he could have asked his friend (who I talked to a lot back in the day) to pass on messages to me, and we could keep in touch through him. Or he could email me from school. Or something. A public library. Something...But he didn't. Because he didn't love me I guess.
But anyway, onto the jist and thrust of the situation;
Do you want to get back together with him? How did you two break up? It seems like you both want the same thing; to be back together.
And Long Distance Relationships can work with enough effort. Hell, My best friend lives in California, and her boyfriend is Icelandic. She flies over whenever she gets the money. They've been together 3 years now.
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Posted: Thu May 04, 2006 10:35 pm
I think you love and miss him. Go back to him. Trust him, and try to work it out hun. I think with enough love and effort, you two can make this work! go for it girl. Try to give you and him a chance for happiness.
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Posted: Fri May 05, 2006 3:38 am
Whip It Out! Oh hunnie.... I'm sorry. I hate seeing people be hurt. Especially people who are as sweet as you are. Even though you and I haven't talked, I've seen posts of yours. I've been in similiar places. I had an ex who dumped me, and for a long time I missed him and wanted him back. Here's where we start to differ; I know that it would be a -bad- thing if I had gotten back together with him. The only reason he dumped me in the first place was because his family told him to. He was 18 at the time. I was 15. This was about a year ago. Last October would have been 2 years. But anyway, I'm glad we aren't together anymore because he was very emotionally...not quite abusive, but almost there. He'd yell at me and tell me that everything was my fault, and then try and comfort me when I started to believe him. He only wanted me because of how big I am (He's an FA that I met here in this guild actually). But he made me cry on a daily basis, and I'm one of those people who are impossible to make cry. Then his parents grounded him from the computer for a few months, and when he came back, a mutual friend of ours asked how he was holding up and if it bothered him to be forced into a breakup. His response? He was in hell 'for a few days'. It took him 'a few days' to get over 9 months of a relationship that he had told me on many occasions was one of the most important things to him. It took me months to get over the suddenness of it. And the fact that I was so easy to throw away. I mean, if he had really loved me like he said, he could have asked his friend (who I talked to a lot back in the day) to pass on messages to me, and we could keep in touch through him. Or he could email me from school. Or something. A public library. Something...But he didn't. Because he didn't love me I guess. But anyway, onto the jist and thrust of the situation; Do you want to get back together with him? How did you two break up? It seems like you both want the same thing; to be back together. And Long Distance Relationships can work with enough effort. Hell, My best friend lives in California, and her boyfriend is Icelandic. She flies over whenever she gets the money. They've been together 3 years now. i'm sorry to hear about how things went with your ex sad sounds like he wanted total control over you. i do want him back, but i know both our families would be against it, my dad wasn't at all happy about it before because he hates computers and the internet and he got really angry that i was talking to him on the phone and internet, basicaly he didn't want me to be happy and when i went over to the US to see Steve he totaly lost it. anywho. i fell out with Steve's mother after we broke up because she was so over pertecting and didn't want me to have anything to do with him, so untill he goes to college i have no way of contacting him accept though gaia. sigh. anyway we broke up because he had lied to me though our relationship, he had insisted that he'd slept with his previous gf and he atually hadn't, i didn't find out antill a few months after we had slept together, and i lost all my trust in him, i had never trusted anyone as much as i trusted Steve. and after i hit a bad depression and things just went down hill and my prevous ex started being a huge part of my life coz everywhere i would go he was there and i started to doubt the feelings i had for Steve, so i asked for a short brake. then i had the falling out with his mother and was banned from talking to him so we never got back together. and now he's with a girl he cares a great deal for so it's unfair of me just to come back into his life right now.
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Posted: Fri May 05, 2006 3:40 am
~Mythical_Anime_Lady~ I think you love and miss him. Go back to him. Trust him, and try to work it out hun. I think with enough love and effort, you two can make this work! go for it girl. Try to give you and him a chance for happiness. thanks. i'd really like to try that, but he's seeing someone who he really cares for, i don't know how it would work out now, i can't just come back into his life now that he's starting to move on, can i? i don't want to be responcible for recking his relationship.
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Posted: Fri May 05, 2006 2:13 pm
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Posted: Fri May 05, 2006 5:02 pm
Follow your heart and do whatever makes you happy hun.
I did write a huge long essay here, but I decided to cut as it, as it was more my own rambelings than anything relavant.
Point is, think back, was it just that one incident that made you distrust him or was it other things too. Consider why you broke up in the first place, then if you think it was silly pick your time and talk to him.
Good luck with whatever happens with him. heart
PS. If anyone wants to read the big rant about my love life its in my journal, be warned it makes nearly no sense.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 7:59 am
RHShipper Follow your heart and do whatever makes you happy hun. I did write a huge long essay here, but I decided to cut as it, as it was more my own rambelings than anything relavant. Point is, think back, was it just that one incident that made you distrust him or was it other things too. Consider why you broke up in the first place, then if you think it was silly pick your time and talk to him. Good luck with whatever happens with him. heart PS. If anyone wants to read the big rant about my love life its in my journal, be warned it makes nearly no sense.thanks. it was just the lies and the stories he made up. i sent him an email tellinh him how i feel. so i'll let people know what happens *crosses fingers*
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 8:09 am
Um...I may have missed this...but did you find out why he lied to you? I think that is just as important as the fact that he did lie to you. *hugs and sympathy because I know how it is to be with someone and lose them and then want them back.*
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 12:01 pm
Denuit Um...I may have missed this...but did you find out why he lied to you? I think that is just as important as the fact that he did lie to you. *hugs and sympathy because I know how it is to be with someone and lose them and then want them back.* hugs* yeah i did find out, it was to do with male pride. i mentioned the lie in a prevous post, i'll just repost it for you lol. he made up stories, he was very believeable at lieing anyway we broke up because he had lied to me though our relationship, he had insisted that he'd slept with his previous gf and he atually hadn't, i didn't find out antill a few months after we had slept together, and i lost all my trust in him, i had never trusted anyone as much as i trusted Steve. and after i hit a bad depression and things just went down hill and my prevous ex started being a huge part of my life coz everywhere i would go he was there and i started to doubt the feelings i had for Steve, so i asked for a short brake. then i had the falling out with his mother and was banned from talking to him so we never got back together.
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Posted: Sat May 06, 2006 3:37 pm
((*is the same as Denuit* I really should put that in his sig or something.))
Well...unless his pride has been taken down a knotch or he has cut out the lying...and not just to you. I mean in general and for real...not just for you....I wouldn't go back out with him. I mean...if he can't be a real man and tell the truth...pride or no, he doesn't deserve you. My bf used to be that way. He would say things to me, truthful or not, just to get a rise out of me. I almost broke up with him over it. But he stopped. Thank god...he stopped. If he is unwilling to stop, he's just going to do it again and things will end just as badly.
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