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 Posted: Fri Jul 12, 2019 9:55 pm
definitely, without a doubt a demisexual...
It actually makes perfect sense, considering I thought I was Ace for a while.
surprised
I don't really feel a sexual attraction without building a strong personal connection first and even then, my love is moreso on a personal attraction basis than a physical one. I long for something meaningful and strong. Dating sites are just meaningless words on a page.
That also explains why I haven't liked using dating sites and I've grown jaded of them.
With the chats in those, people talk at you, like you're some sort of candidate, not a person wanting to connect. It's the kind of environment places like that foster, which is no good for me, actually.
I've always felt dating sites were a bunch of hooey.
IRL, I really don't get when people flirt with me or notice they're flirting very often.
Unfortunately, that means dating sites and apps don't do it for me as much as people sing their praises to the skies and tell me to use them as if it'll solve all my problems. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Jul 13, 2019 11:04 am
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Posted: Sat Jul 13, 2019 7:43 pm
Prof. Moonie Welcome to the club!  Thanks!
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Posted: Sun Jul 14, 2019 11:12 pm
That actually sounds rather interesting. You are the second person I know who is demisexual.
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Posted: Wed Jul 17, 2019 7:38 am
Hooray for discovering things about yourself! biggrin
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Posted: Thu Jul 18, 2019 10:06 pm
Glad to know I'm not alone. It's always felt odd, being one who couldn't really tell she was even being flirted at unless she really knew someone. I could almost have felt guilty... looking back on it and realizing intentions. Feelings don't quite reach me easily, it seems. ^w^;
Oh dear.
This is going to make finding the one a real challenge, but hopefully one with a lasting and happy reward that doesn't end in... well... what too many marriages these days become.
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Posted: Fri Jul 19, 2019 11:46 am
Saikii Glad to know I'm not alone. It's always felt odd, being one who couldn't really tell she was even being flirted at unless she really knew someone. I could almost have felt guilty... looking back on it and realizing intentions. Feelings don't quite reach me easily, it seems. ^w^; Oh dear. This is going to make finding the one a real challenge, but hopefully one with a lasting and happy reward that doesn't end in... well... what too many marriages these days become. I know the feeling. Unless someone is being extremely obvious with their flirting, I often don't even know someone is flirting with me. Usually someone else has to bring it up for me to realize what the interaction was. It's even more awkward when someone tries to ask me out on a date within moments of meeting each other and I tell them I don't go on dates with people I don't know and prefer to get to know someone as friends prior; many like to argue that dates are a way to do this - and this may be true for some - but for me, that's not how a roll. I don't want to waste someone's time thinking something romantic might happen when I realize there's truly nothing there. My demisexuality (though at the time I wasn't aware that's what I was; I just thought it was because of other stuff from my past) has made it a bit harder in the dating realm just because some of the guys I've dated have been on different levels of intimacy than I'm ready for. It may take awhile but there will eventually be someone out there who will understand what my needs are and respect them.
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