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Lotus is a group for females(trans-females, etc) and is oriented toward discussion, uplifting, and communication that many of us need! 

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PostPosted: Tue Jul 12, 2016 12:41 pm


So with work, and this guy I am talking to, and more work, and kicking our roommate out, I have been GHOST.
This is hopefully a phase that will end soosososososo soon.

but yeah
i'm talking to a boy
and i am terrified of commitment
so idk how to feel right now
he's like so kind
and says the sweetest things
but all my brain says is "do not deserve! ABORT! ABORT!"

so I don't know if I should just let him move on
or if i should stick it out and face my fear
i'm terrified of boys a la ptsd
but i want to overcome that stuff.
like hardcore.
PostPosted: Tue Jul 12, 2016 3:43 pm


I would say if you do pursue him further, you got to open up a little. Doesn't mean you have to explain every single second and detail as to why it's hard for you to move forward, but I think it's important.

I think you should go for it and see how it turns out. You never know. But living in fear is so much worse then never having to wonder "what if?"

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PostPosted: Tue Jul 12, 2016 4:00 pm


iMayl
I would say if you do pursue him further, you got to open up a little. Doesn't mean you have to explain every single second and detail as to why it's hard for you to move forward, but I think it's important.

I think you should go for it and see how it turns out. You never know. But living in fear is so much worse then never having to wonder "what if?"

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thankyou yum_strawberry

That's how I feel. I am a spiritualist for a living and he is a shaman, but he says that fear is the main thing I have to fight, not even PTSD. So I honestly question whether or not it has become something I hide behind. I feel like I am constantly looking for flaws in the situation and I find them easily because I naturally have a knack for doing that even in good situations.

How the heck do I stop trying to find ways he's not gonna be good for me?
PostPosted: Tue Jul 12, 2016 7:27 pm


I say go for it... Never hurts to try. <333
Also. Clone him and mail me a copy!!!


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 13, 2016 6:29 am


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iMayl
I would say if you do pursue him further, you got to open up a little. Doesn't mean you have to explain every single second and detail as to why it's hard for you to move forward, but I think it's important.

I think you should go for it and see how it turns out. You never know. But living in fear is so much worse then never having to wonder "what if?"

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thankyou yum_strawberry

That's how I feel. I am a spiritualist for a living and he is a shaman, but he says that fear is the main thing I have to fight, not even PTSD. So I honestly question whether or not it has become something I hide behind. I feel like I am constantly looking for flaws in the situation and I find them easily because I naturally have a knack for doing that even in good situations.

How the heck do I stop trying to find ways he's not gonna be good for me?
" 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Alfred Lord Tennyson
I try to keep my mind open to this... as well as my other favorite
"In order for the light to shine so brightly, the darkness must be present" Francis Bacon

I am not saying things are easy and you won't feel the darkness around you but that is what makes the light warm and inviting. You want to feel that.. so go for it 3nodding You will always look for reasons just because of your past.. but if he is the right one for you he will never let those stop him from pursuing you and also you won't ever find ones strong enough to actually give you a legit reason to break it off
PostPosted: Wed Jul 13, 2016 10:19 pm


iMayl
I would say if you do pursue him further, you got to open up a little. Doesn't mean you have to explain every single second and detail as to why it's hard for you to move forward, but I think it's important.

I think you should go for it and see how it turns out. You never know. But living in fear is so much worse then never having to wonder "what if?"

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agreed.
In the "tell me about yourself" phase, say that you really do want to overcome a large part of your past and are having a hard time. If he's sympathetic, go for it.
If not... There's lots more.

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