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 Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2015 7:33 am
The Art of the Long Distance Relationship
Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously.
But a long distance relationship can be as or more rewarding a relationship as one that is closer at hand. Nobody says it is going to be easy, the extra distance can make many things harder. Things can get complicated and you could be sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest, being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair, falling asleep on the phone together… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship.
LDRs' may be tough but it has its own surprises and delights as well. To keep your love alive and strong, here are a few tips to help along the way.
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1. Trust
Trust your partner and make sure your partner trusts you. A lack of trust will kill a long distance relationship faster than anything and will leave you hurting everytime. So develop that trust by being completely honest and open. Tell your partner that you need their complete honesty and trust to make your long distance relationship work.
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2. Communication
Talk daily with your partner by phone, text and chat. Discuss your daily life. Keep the discussion fun and interesting. Tell your girl or guy you love them every time you communicate. use words and pictures to express your love as you would a touch in person. Tell them about your needs, expectations, dreams and aspirations and share things that promote intimacy.
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3. Gifts
Sending Gifts through the mail can be a great way to feel close to each other. Small gifts and hand written letters feel intimate and provide a sense of romance and surprise to a long distance relationship. Simple things go a long way like sending a lock of hair or a worn t-shirt. Just being able to sleep with your partners smell on a garment can provide a needed sense of intimacy that might be missing from a LDR.
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4. Understanding
Being understanding is extremely important. It can be tough to remember that your partner may be busy when you need them or want to talk. Everyone has a life be it school, work or family and you have to remember that your partner may have obligations that limit the time you can talk every day. It can be easy to start to resent your partners obligations because they don't directly effect you but they are most likely very important and necessary to your partner. So do your best to be understanding and patient to your partners needs and schedule.
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More to come at a later date as necessity dictates.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2015 7:44 am
This is such a wonderful article!!! smile I have been in a long distance relationship
before and it lasted three years! They seem to do better for me than
close relationships, it makes for better trust and love too ^-^
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2015 8:24 am
Daemonophilia This is such a wonderful article!!! smile I have been in a long distance relationship before and it lasted three years! They seem to do better for me than close relationships, it makes for better trust and love too ^-^ Thank you and I had the exact same experience with LDR's...I felt even closer to the person I loved emotionally than I had ever felt in a more physical (close) relationship and it lasted for years then we got married...lol...^.^ heart
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2015 8:28 am
tikitales Daemonophilia This is such a wonderful article!!! smile I have been in a long distance relationship before and it lasted three years! They seem to do better for me than close relationships, it makes for better trust and love too ^-^ Thank you and I had the exact same experience with LDR's...I felt even closer to the person I loved emotionally than I had ever felt in a more physical (close) relationship and it lasted for years then we got married...lol...^.^ heart Awww! See that is so amazing! I mean, I think the happiest day of my LDR was that we both started working in our 2nd year and by our 3rd year he was able to visit me in my state. When I saw him that first time in the airport, oh my god. It was a whole new experience and we just hugged. That was probably the most magical moment, because you know that a person has been loyal to you for so long and then once you actually see them it takes your breathe away knowing that you can physically hold them and that they spent all that time trying to get to you. Although, the most heartbreaking part about an LDR is when the visit is over..The tears dont stop when you are dropping them off at the airport. My parents literally had to pull us apart 20 minutes before his flight and both of us couldnt stop crying.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2015 8:35 am
Daemonophilia tikitales Daemonophilia This is such a wonderful article!!! smile I have been in a long distance relationship before and it lasted three years! They seem to do better for me than close relationships, it makes for better trust and love too ^-^ Thank you and I had the exact same experience with LDR's...I felt even closer to the person I loved emotionally than I had ever felt in a more physical (close) relationship and it lasted for years then we got married...lol...^.^ heart Awww! See that is so amazing! I mean, I think the happiest day of my LDR was that we both started working in our 2nd year and by our 3rd year he was able to visit me in my state. When I saw him that first time in the airport, oh my god. It was a whole new experience and we just hugged. That was probably the most magical moment, because you know that a person has been loyal to you for so long and then once you actually see them it takes your breathe away knowing that you can physically hold them and that they spent all that time trying to get to you. Although, the most heartbreaking part about an LDR is when the visit is over..The tears dont stop when you are dropping them off at the airport. My parents literally had to pull us apart 20 minutes before his flight and both of us couldnt stop crying. My hubby lived in Maryland and I lived in California when he first visited me, we hugged forever when we first met and I agree it was like kismet. He stayed for 2 wonderful weeks and when we went to the airport it was so sad and hard to say goodbye again, My Hubby cried all the way home and ended up coming back a week later with a ring and a marriage proposal. He said he couldn't live without holding me everyday for the rest of our lives. heart
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2015 9:00 am
tikitales Daemonophilia tikitales Daemonophilia This is such a wonderful article!!! smile I have been in a long distance relationship before and it lasted three years! They seem to do better for me than close relationships, it makes for better trust and love too ^-^ Thank you and I had the exact same experience with LDR's...I felt even closer to the person I loved emotionally than I had ever felt in a more physical (close) relationship and it lasted for years then we got married...lol...^.^ heart Awww! See that is so amazing! I mean, I think the happiest day of my LDR was that we both started working in our 2nd year and by our 3rd year he was able to visit me in my state. When I saw him that first time in the airport, oh my god. It was a whole new experience and we just hugged. That was probably the most magical moment, because you know that a person has been loyal to you for so long and then once you actually see them it takes your breathe away knowing that you can physically hold them and that they spent all that time trying to get to you. Although, the most heartbreaking part about an LDR is when the visit is over..The tears dont stop when you are dropping them off at the airport. My parents literally had to pull us apart 20 minutes before his flight and both of us couldnt stop crying. My hubby lived in Maryland and I lived in California when he first visited me, we hugged forever when we first met and I agree it was like kismet. He stayed for 2 wonderful weeks and when we went to the airport it was so sad and hard to say goodbye again, My Hubby cried all the way home and ended up coming back a week later with a ring and a marriage proposal. He said he couldn't live without holding me everyday for the rest of our lives. heart Awwwww that is so perfect!!!
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