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smithers456


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 07, 2014 1:52 am


Hello everyone,

I'm learning more and more what this Guild is all about. It's special that people here truly care for others. That unfortunately is a rare thing these days. Most people just think of themselves.

Luck mentioned that I have a lot of friends on this Guild and that I'm a light in the darkness. Maybe not a direct quote but I truly do believe that The Lord and the spirit gave me the gift of compassion and the ability to care and help other people. Yes, I have helped many people out throughout my life and never ask for anything back. It's the "Christian" thing to do. I believe that the "Holy Spirit" shows me a path that will lead me to either the help that I need or to a person who truly needs my help.

Now to why I started this thread. I'm in despair right now because I have been let go from a second job this year. The first time was due to downsizing of the company and the second one was due to the company saying that I do not fit into their future plans. Like any job their is perks and praise. Also their is favoritism and clicks. If you don't fit into a click in the job place then many people go out of the way to make you feel unwelcome and do what they can to make you feel bad and want to leave.

My last job had a lot of promise. It was in my field of Electronics and I learned about a lot of the new technology that is out their to make circuit boards. Many people praised my efforts and many people liked me a lot. On the other side their were many people that didn't like me. That's truly disappointing. I wanted this job to work out because I saw a lot of issues that they have had and I had suggestions that could make production move smoother.

I'm 51 years young right now (Birthday was on Halloween) and it's harder for gifted people like myself to get a job because they want younger people first. I don't mind sharing the work place with so many wonderful and gifted young people out their like I have seen on this guild. I feel that I was not given a chance to truly show how much that I can help the place out that I worked for. All they seemed to want to do is get the production numbers for the day no matter what. Working at high speeds can be very stressful and can create a lot of bad parts.

Now I'm unemployed again and my whole future is in Jeopardy. I need advice, comfort, and to hear about what others in this group went through after they lost a job and how they got another one that has worked out for them. I truly believe that I have friends here, especially our wonderful Captain Luck. Anything that you can say whether it's comfort, support, and advice is truly appreciated.

Thanks in advance,
Ron
PostPosted: Fri Nov 07, 2014 2:48 am


I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you find a new job soon.

I'm still a student, so I have not experienced anything like that. My parents however have both been let go from several companies because of reorganizations. Sometimes it took a while for them to get a new job, but often their new job was better than their old one. And they are in their 50's.
There are companies out there who want to hire people with more work experience. Don't give up! Keep looking and I'm sure you'll find something 3nodding

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PostPosted: Fri Nov 07, 2014 10:26 am


Jobs are difficult. They sometimes don't follow through with our expectations. Don't be alarmed, just keep putting your foot through the door. Maybe it is just God's way of saying, "You don't want to be here." Hold your head up hun. Keep Trying. Even though it hurts to be let go, remember at the end of the day, you gave it your all. Look for a job that is going to appreciate you for you and not just think of the company. I remember how long it has taken me to get the current job I have. Don't be discouraged. Keep handing out Resumes and put your smile back on. There is a job out there for you despite your age.

Here is some advice the Employment Services gave me:

1. Ask questions! Ask them about how their team works, what they are looking for in an Employee? What expectations does the job involve? Remember, you are seeing if you want the job just as much as they are seeing if you fit the criteria.

2. Don't say it is something new to learn. Employers explained that this expresses that they need a lot of training and therefore may not hire you for that reason.

3. Look around at the Employees faces if you can. Do they seem miserable? Do they seem Tired? Is the workplace really dirty? This could mean that the job environment may not be properly managed.

4. Ensure that you have the evidence to support that you have the special qualifications that they are looking for. Such as: Food Handlers Certificate, CPR and First Aid Certificates. They may not ask them for them in the interview, but some hire right on the spot and may ask for them.

5. Bring your references and an extra copy of your resume to all interviews. They may ask for them.

6. Remember to make eye contact. Speak to them. Say hello with a strong handshake. Not painful, but firm. This expresses that you are here to do business and have confidence.

7. Hard questions can be challenging. Don't be afraid to ask for a second to formulate the right response. Take your time, but remember they have stuff to do as a manager. Sometimes the best interview is not done in 15 seconds.
PostPosted: Sat Nov 08, 2014 12:46 am


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Jobs are difficult. They sometimes don't follow through with our expectations. Don't be alarmed, just keep putting your foot through the door. Maybe it is just God's way of saying, "You don't want to be here." Hold your head up hun. Keep Trying. Even though it hurts to be let go, remember at the end of the day, you gave it your all. Look for a job that is going to appreciate you for you and not just think of the company. I remember how long it has taken me to get the current job I have. Don't be discouraged. Keep handing out Resumes and put your smile back on. There is a job out there for you despite your age.

Here is some advice the Employment Services gave me:

1. Ask questions! Ask them about how their team works, what they are looking for in an Employee? What expectations does the job involve? Remember, you are seeing if you want the job just as much as they are seeing if you fit the criteria.

2. Don't say it is something new to learn. Employers explained that this expresses that they need a lot of training and therefore may not hire you for that reason.

3. Look around at the Employees faces if you can. Do they seem miserable? Do they seem Tired? Is the workplace really dirty? This could mean that the job environment may not be properly managed.

4. Ensure that you have the evidence to support that you have the special qualifications that they are looking for. Such as: Food Handlers Certificate, CPR and First Aid Certificates. They may not ask them for them in the interview, but some hire right on the spot and may ask for them.

5. Bring your references and an extra copy of your resume to all interviews. They may ask for them.

6. Remember to make eye contact. Speak to them. Say hello with a strong handshake. Not painful, but firm. This expresses that you are here to do business and have confidence.

7. Hard questions can be challenging. Don't be afraid to ask for a second to formulate the right response. Take your time, but remember they have stuff to do as a manager. Sometimes the best interview is not done in 15 seconds.


Very Good Advice Luck. Numbers 4 to 7 I do all of the time.

Number 1 I need to work on.

Number 2 - I made that mistake at the interview for the job that I lost. I expressed that I was excited about learning something new and that I have experience but it was from 12 years ago. In other words I indicated that I would need a lot of training. In the end I believe that is why I was let go. It takes me longer than the average person to learn a new job. Especially one as complex as this one.

Number 3 - I have to make sure that I get a tour of the place during the interview and not after. My last job I got the plant tour after I got the job and it was rushed. I have great attention to detail and can read people pretty well. I will certainly use those skills next time. Also the physical atmosphere of the place is important. I pass on jobs that are too hot (90 degrees on a cool day) or one that has too many irritants in the air. I have a lot of different allergies.

Thanks for the encouragement it is much appreciated. When motivated like when I'm doing Cosplay Photography I can be very charismatic. My charm or my seriousness is what people will see when I start a job. Being serious comes first. Then when I know the job well I show my co-workers my "real" self which is charming, polite, and easy going. After a short time I can become very popular which is nice.

As for the next job I may have to try a different field. Starting in another field will bring me even less money to start with but the potential joy that it could bring could make the difference in the long run.

A very long time ago I worked at Meijers in the Toy Department. Meijers is similar to Wall Mart or most other family friendly large retail stores. Meijers is a special store chain the midwest that treats their people with respect which means a lot. I worked in the toy department of one of their stores for 6 months and that meant working with kids, teens, and parents.

I was a pretty good sales person. My great people skills helped me to help a customer no matter who they were. I loved working with kids. I could see the glee in their eyes when I led them to the toys that they wanted most.

Teens I could talk on their level and talk with them in detail about the different toys. Being well versed in Anime, Disney, Barbie, and Card games like Yu-Gi-Oh! and Pokemon can go a long way. My 15 year old niece is my Pokemon expert and I have thousands of Yu-Gi-Oh! cards. You should see the playable decks that I can create.

As for parents I can help them a lot. Sometimes I see one that has a puzzled look on their face and I ask them if I can help them. After a few basic questions I usually can lead them to a few toys that would work nicely with their child. My pay was low but I truly enjoyed going to work every day. I still shop at Meijers a lot and can feel the magic in the stores and see the friendly and happy faces of the people that work their.

Luck please pray for me and I do know that God will help me. A path is always their for me to follow and I never know where it can lead but I do trust that it will lead me to both interesting and rewarding places. I truly believe that when I do my part to get a job or anything else then God will do his part. Some say leave it all to God. That's not fair, God is very busy working with people all over the planet and doesn't have the time to do everything for you. I know that their is another job out their. My priest says that their is always more to life. Something to think about.

Take Care,
Ron


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PostPosted: Sat Nov 08, 2014 1:21 am


Shasita
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you find a new job soon.

I'm still a student, so I have not experienced anything like that. My parents however have both been let go from several companies because of reorganizations. Sometimes it took a while for them to get a new job, but often their new job was better than their old one. And they are in their 50's.
There are companies out there who want to hire people with more work experience. Don't give up! Keep looking and I'm sure you'll find something 3nodding


Thanks very much for your support. Yes, I do know what your parents have gone through. Both them and I do what is needed to keep our family's going. If your parents go through rough times again like losing a job do what you can to support them like you just did for me. They will Love you more for it. I know it's not going to be easy for me to find a new job but perhaps I'm meant for a better job where I will like to be at and that I will be treated with respect.
PostPosted: Sun Nov 30, 2014 9:57 pm


I'm a bit late to the party here, but hang in there! It's really tough getting a new job, especially in today's job market and their stigmas. I've bounced around several different jobs and have even changed careers. The biggest thing I've found is that it is important to keep an open mind and to emphasize diversification. The easier it is for you to move laterally and diversify your skill-sets, the easier it is to show that you're trainable and ready for a wide range of jobs.

It's very rough being unemployed and trying to plan for the future, but keep at it. If you ever need to talk or rant, feel free to pm me here or on DA.

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PostPosted: Tue Dec 02, 2014 2:00 am


xinitia
I'm a bit late to the party here, but hang in there! It's really tough getting a new job, especially in today's job market and their stigmas. I've bounced around several different jobs and have even changed careers. The biggest thing I've found is that it is important to keep an open mind and to emphasize diversification. The easier it is for you to move laterally and diversify your skill-sets, the easier it is to show that you're trainable and ready for a wide range of jobs.

It's very rough being unemployed and trying to plan for the future, but keep at it. If you ever need to talk or rant, feel free to pm me here or on DA.


Thanks Xac for being their for me. I do consider you to be a friend and it's nice to know that I have yet another person that I can talk to about my job situation and anything else. We do make a good team on our other Guild. I just wanted to point that out. Between the two of us we have helped a lot of people.
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