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Stefan Lee Salvatore

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PostPosted: Sun Dec 22, 2013 2:02 pm


So, on November 8, 2013 I was asked out by this one guy who had been flirting with me for about a month, I agreed, I had a crush on this guy since August, so I was thrilled.

Thing is, he's younger than me (I'm 17, he's 15), therefore he is also a sophomore and I'm a senior.

Now, I don't think it's weird at all, he's taller than me and people wouldn'tguess the age difference, it's not much anyways.

Well, my mom thinks I should have a guy that is older than me.

Oh yeah, this might be a good time to mention that my mom doesn't know about me and him.

I kinda want her to know, because I've been hiding this for over a month. And for all I know my cousin might slip up and tell her on Christmas Eve.

So, my plan was to post the below on facebook, what do you guys think? Advice?


__________________________________________________________

Well, the first one (the jar) is the Christmas present I received. And although not all of them were legit reasons, it was still really adorable and made my day and I love it
The second one (the picture) is something drawn for me a little while ago, and it's something else that I kinda just love
So thanks Boy Friend for both the jar of reasons, and the lovely picture from a while ago ^-^
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 22, 2013 3:19 pm


I would tell your mom first. It shows her that you respect her and shows her your honesty. After that I'd say your fine to post on Facebook. Hope this helps.

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PostPosted: Sun Dec 22, 2013 3:23 pm


bowlertech246
I would tell your mom first. It shows her that you respect her and shows her your honesty. After that I'd say your fine to post on Facebook. Hope this helps.


Except, how would I tell her?
Cause it'd be kinda....awkward? cause it's been happening for over a month, and I dunno how I would tell her ><
PostPosted: Sun Dec 22, 2013 5:07 pm


I mean you guys are just dating it's not like its as serious as getting married.

You could introduce them to each other.. let her get to know him. I don't know.

I kept my boyfriend a secret from my family for 4 years.. so.. probably not the best one to ask or give advice sweatdrop

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PostPosted: Sun Dec 22, 2013 7:02 pm


Lady Kira X
I mean you guys are just dating it's not like its as serious as getting married.

You could introduce them to each other.. let her get to know him. I don't know.

I kept my boyfriend a secret from my family for 4 years.. so.. probably not the best one to ask or give advice sweatdrop


Oh gosh I love your advice biggrin
I would introduce them, but eh the chance never arises so oh well.

But I reaaly adore the second half of all of your advice.

You're probably the first person that has said "I don't know" and given a story about not telling family. biggrin

That's secretly what I want to do, but my friends are all "You need to tell your mom."
PostPosted: Sun Dec 22, 2013 7:11 pm


Stefan Lee Salvatore
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I mean you guys are just dating it's not like its as serious as getting married.

You could introduce them to each other.. let her get to know him. I don't know.

I kept my boyfriend a secret from my family for 4 years.. so.. probably not the best one to ask or give advice sweatdrop


Oh gosh I love your advice biggrin
I would introduce them, but eh the chance never arises so oh well.

But I reaaly adore the second half of all of your advice.

You're probably the first person that has said "I don't know" and given a story about not telling family. biggrin

That's secretly what I want to do, but my friends are all "You need to tell your mom."


Glad I could semi help you out then 3nodding

My guy is like 6 years older than me which is why I didn't tell anyone on my family but his whole family knew about me. Apparently they loved me ( despite being younger ) which is why I'm still around.

If I'm going to give more advice.. maybe not tell your mom until its absolutely serious for you. Dating a guy for a month is still a short amount of time. You guys are going to go through a lot of phases so why stress yourself out until it's absolutely necessary.
Besides if your mom is anything like mine, once the word "boyfriend" gets tossed out there mommy mode kicks in & you can't do ANYTHING anymore without "whats this, whos that, where you going, DON'T CLOSE YOUR DOOR!! I need to talk to their parent first. etc etc" <-- she pulled that for my first few boyfriends so I stopped telling her stuff until I was 18.

Another short story. My sister was actually in your shoes not too long ago. She was 17 & dating a 15 year old. My mom approved of him & so did I... but it really didn't matter in the end since she broke it off with him. emotion_facepalm

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