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 Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 12:23 am
Alright, I've had this problem for a while, I have a really hard time getting turned on while messing around with my boyfriend, I need constantly changing routines and new kicks to excite me, new things sometimes get dull after the first time. I've been dominant, submissive (my favorite.. if he can manage to do it right..) my boyfriend and I have tried oral (giving and receiving) and I barly even feel it, my v****a isnt very sensitive. I've tied him up, I've been tied, put on a leash, and some light domanatrix. Once I get turned on i have no problem remaining like that, and even the slightest touch will send shivers down my spine. Its the getting started that I have a hard time with. I am still a virgin, 15 years old, and I dont plan on losing my virginity until I'm at least 17, with someone special, who I've been with for at least a year. (probably my current boyfriend, but who knows what the future holds)
Anyways, is this normal for my age? Where are all of those raging hormones that I looked forwards to? I am a extreamly sexual person actually.. just not easily aroused. I spend most of my time on these sort of forums and looking up things on sex and alternatives, but I've never come across anything to help me. Do any of you have suggestions on how I could increase my sex drive or at least keep things exciting for longer then a day?
Thank you for any help. (:
*edit* Maybe if I read sexy fanfics in my spare time, that has worked before. I just cant seem to find any, and since I live with my mom and she could check my history on the computer I dont want to watch porn, even though it interests me to no end.. I could learn so much! ah, of topic, anyways, does anybody know a good fanfic site that wont come up as something naughty when she checks my history?
*update edity thing*
okay, so I said before that I have tried oral, and having it preformed. well, I have only had it done to me three times, today i realized that after my boyfriend first gave me oral I couldent orgasm. Its now two weeks later, and hes made me orgasm once, and trust me, he tries. I got extreamly shaky after the first time. I know, this is obviously a sign that I wasnt ready, but at the time I felt like I was. Do any of you know why I am unable to acheive an orgasm now? Or what I can do to calm myself down and to relax?
We think that the reason that I'm reacting like this is because I got so nervous and all, so now everytime that he trys to touch my v****a I block it from fear or something like that. conditioning.
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 7:14 am
Well you aren't weird or a freak, if that's what you are wondering.
Have you tried porn? Like, watching some porn or having it on while you do your thing with your boyfriend? Or, like you said, reading romantic novels. Sometimes, I find, reading or watching others do things can almost turn you more on than experiencing the stuff yourself. Like in horror movies, the best parts are the parts left up to the imagination.
Congrats on waiting for sex, by the way! It might not be a bad idea to keep condoms around just in case. We've had so many people on these boards who were determined to wait so they never bothered with birth control and then... one moment of passion later and they are pregnant. So it's never a bad idea smile
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 10:14 am
I have never watched porn. I wouldent know how to find any, and also my mom would be able to tell the kinds of sites I was going on, and I dont really want the sex talk again. Do you have any suggestions for places I could get those types of books or sites where people write it?
Thanks.
Oh, and I also know I'm not a freak for it, it just bothers me personally because I am a very sexually interested person, with a low sex drive, but then if I do get going its the complete opposite of low..
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 2:17 pm
It's hard to tell you where to get it, since Gaia's rules prohibit advertising things like downloadable programs and the like. However looking on a search engine, such as google, usually does the trick.
As for books, libraries should have books on sex. And bookstores should have a Sex or Sexuality section, since it's a normal topic.
For adult stores, there's usually an age restriction, so you might not be able to get in yourself until you're older. Where I live, the age limit is 18. But if you have an older friend who can get into such stores, you could ask them to get something for you.
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 5:30 pm
Theres nothing wrong with it, you just need to find your moments. Often the most intense horniness will come when you least expect it...and almost never when your trying hard to get it lol. If it's not too personal a question how do you and your bf usually get started? I know my fiance and I struggled to find what was good for us at first, I couldn't even give her an orgasim for a while. But I believe things have improved significantly now biggrin . Sometimes it really just takes time to find that "button".
(Btw with AOL and a few other security programs that are out there, there's not much you can do unless your atleast a "novice hacker", but with a normal IE browser all you have to do to hide your tracks is...
Tools..
Internet Options...
Delete Cookies, Delete Files, Clear History
You can also download "videos" from Limewire without having worry about spyware. biggrin )
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 7:54 pm
Anaelachiem Theres nothing wrong with it, you just need to find your moments. Often the most intense horniness will come when you least expect it...and almost never when your trying hard to get it lol. If it's not too personal a question how do you and your bf usually get started? I know my fiance and I struggled to find what was good for us at first, I couldn't even give her an orgasim for a while. But I believe things have improved significantly now biggrin . Sometimes it really just takes time to find that "button". (Btw with AOL and a few other security programs that are out there, there's not much you can do unless your atleast a "novice hacker", but with a normal IE browser all you have to do to hide your tracks is... Tools.. Internet Options... Delete Cookies, Delete Files, Clear History You can also download "videos" from Limewire without having worry about spyware. biggrin ) How do we get started? well, we dont have sex or anything yet, so it will start with making out, which can lead into oral or handjobs. Is there a more exciting way?
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 12:10 pm
Just do whatever you're comfortable with and take it one step at a time. If you see something you want to try, make sure you're prepared, and then try it. If it works for you, great, and if not then you can keep looking and try to find something else.
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 4:31 pm
didi u try sucking his c**k that always turns me on also u should try having him hold his c**k in ur v****a for a minute or 2 that might work
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 7:10 pm
Inari chan Anaelachiem Theres nothing wrong with it, you just need to find your moments. Often the most intense horniness will come when you least expect it...and almost never when your trying hard to get it lol. If it's not too personal a question how do you and your bf usually get started? I know my fiance and I struggled to find what was good for us at first, I couldn't even give her an orgasim for a while. But I believe things have improved significantly now biggrin . Sometimes it really just takes time to find that "button". (Btw with AOL and a few other security programs that are out there, there's not much you can do unless your atleast a "novice hacker", but with a normal IE browser all you have to do to hide your tracks is... Tools.. Internet Options... Delete Cookies, Delete Files, Clear History You can also download "videos" from Limewire without having worry about spyware. biggrin ) How do we get started? well, we dont have sex or anything yet, so it will start with making out, which can lead into oral or handjobs. Is there a more exciting way? The reason I ask is you may be rushing yourself, particularly because you want to preform for him but your not getting pleasure out of it. Keep in mind theres no pressure to be "exciting", a single kiss can make you ACHE for more. But as Nikolita said sometimes you just gotta try different things, just keep an open mind and be honest with him and yourself. Trust me if you enjoy it, he'll enjoy it alot more...so it's important that you find it. Ask yourself too, how does he make you feel? Do you think that your bf should be making you more excited, or maybe your relationship just isnt deep enough yet to really get you going...time will tell.
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