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 Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 3:03 pm
ThatGirlintheBowTie
Well, um..
Everybody has always expected me to be a lesbian, but I never thought I was.
I believed I was simply asexual because of the fact that I'm a borderline sociopath. I never really saw anybody attractive.. Or that's what I thought anyway. I just didn't find men all that attractive.
And then, sometime during Sophomore year, I developed a huge crush on a friend of mine..
I went through a period of thinking on it, and wandering if I just liked her personality, or if I was attracted to the whole thing.
It sort of slowly sunk in that I was a lesbian throughout the year, and eventually I really realized it.
However, I didn't tell anyone I knew until.. March 19th, 2013, And that was my mother.
I told one of my best friends about a month ago.
Now, I'm a little worried that I may be wrong. Not because I'm attracted to men, but my mother keeps asking me if I'm sure that I'm a lesbian. She keeps coming up with all these things, like, "Well, you didn't like girls when you were really little.", "Aren't you even going to Try to be with a man, at least once?", or "Maybe it's just because of all the people you hang out with."
It frustrates me because I can't tell her that the sight of.. Male genitalia makes me physically sick.
So, now, occasionally, I'll panic that I'm wrong. emotion_facepalm
~That Girl in the BowTie~I wouldn't worry about it too much. I think that if you were bisexual, that you would have found that you have some minute attraction to men (which it seems like you don't). That's not to say that you won't develop this attraction one day, but I think that you will always be leaning more towards women no matter what. And I say, just go with the label that you feel most comfortable with. ^^ Like if the thought of being gay just feels right, then it probably is right.
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Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 3:06 pm
ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie
Well, um..
Everybody has always expected me to be a lesbian, but I never thought I was.
I believed I was simply asexual because of the fact that I'm a borderline sociopath. I never really saw anybody attractive.. Or that's what I thought anyway. I just didn't find men all that attractive.
And then, sometime during Sophomore year, I developed a huge crush on a friend of mine..
I went through a period of thinking on it, and wandering if I just liked her personality, or if I was attracted to the whole thing.
It sort of slowly sunk in that I was a lesbian throughout the year, and eventually I really realized it.
However, I didn't tell anyone I knew until.. March 19th, 2013, And that was my mother.
I told one of my best friends about a month ago.
Now, I'm a little worried that I may be wrong. Not because I'm attracted to men, but my mother keeps asking me if I'm sure that I'm a lesbian. She keeps coming up with all these things, like, "Well, you didn't like girls when you were really little.", "Aren't you even going to Try to be with a man, at least once?", or "Maybe it's just because of all the people you hang out with."
It frustrates me because I can't tell her that the sight of.. Male genitalia makes me physically sick.
So, now, occasionally, I'll panic that I'm wrong. emotion_facepalm
~That Girl in the BowTie~Oh, I see. So again, gradual process. Hm. If you don't mind, what did you mean by "expected to be a lesbian"? You don't have to answer that if it's too personal. Anyway, I hope your mom will come around about it and accept you. If it's what you feel, I don't think you should allow her to shake you from that feeling. Honestly, when I really started questioning things, I had talked to my mom about it, and she was kind of saying stuff along the same lines, especially since, at the time, my best friend was gay. I ended up not being able to talk to her about anything concerning sex and sexuality since she was just so downright awful about it. I hope your mom isn't awful to you in that regard (or any regard really). Yea, I gotta agree with you there. Male genitalia is pretty freaking gross.
I guess it's because I'm not very feminine, and I never showed an interest in boys.
She says she accepts me, but I think she just wants to be sure. She's not even being nasty, she just doesn't want to broadcast it to everybody if I'm not sure..
Especially since, you know, Hate lives in a small town.
~That Girl in the BowTie~Oh, I see. That must have been really awkward for you cry I could understand where people thought they were coming from by asking that question, but... Feminine lesbians do exist. Oh, okay, I understand now. Earlier it sounded as if she was trying to be nasty. That's understandable, and you're right, hate does live in a small town. It sounds as though, other than the occasional doubt, that you have it pretty much figured yourself out. I think if you just do what makes you happy, you'll be just fine ^^
I'm glad I at least seem figured out.
But, I mean, I won't be coming out for at least another year.
.. And even then, I might just move out one night, and leave a note on the fridge that say:
"I'm Gay, bitches!"
Then it'll be done, and I'll be in California. xD It might be good to get out of that small town area (which, based on what you said, I'm going to assume you live in a small town. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) , and it might help you grow and get everything else figured out, especially if you're feeling judged. Best of luck to you :3
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Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 3:10 pm
res novae ThatGirlintheBowTie
Well, um..
Everybody has always expected me to be a lesbian, but I never thought I was.
I believed I was simply asexual because of the fact that I'm a borderline sociopath. I never really saw anybody attractive.. Or that's what I thought anyway. I just didn't find men all that attractive.
And then, sometime during Sophomore year, I developed a huge crush on a friend of mine..
I went through a period of thinking on it, and wandering if I just liked her personality, or if I was attracted to the whole thing.
It sort of slowly sunk in that I was a lesbian throughout the year, and eventually I really realized it.
However, I didn't tell anyone I knew until.. March 19th, 2013, And that was my mother.
I told one of my best friends about a month ago.
Now, I'm a little worried that I may be wrong. Not because I'm attracted to men, but my mother keeps asking me if I'm sure that I'm a lesbian. She keeps coming up with all these things, like, "Well, you didn't like girls when you were really little.", "Aren't you even going to Try to be with a man, at least once?", or "Maybe it's just because of all the people you hang out with."
It frustrates me because I can't tell her that the sight of.. Male genitalia makes me physically sick.
So, now, occasionally, I'll panic that I'm wrong. emotion_facepalm
~That Girl in the BowTie~I wouldn't worry about it too much. I think that if you were bisexual, that you would have found that you have some minute attraction to men (which it seems like you don't). That's not to say that you won't develop this attraction one day, but I think that you will always be leaning more towards women no matter what. And I say, just go with the label that you feel most comfortable with. ^^ Like if the thought of being gay just feels right, then it probably is right.
I generally can't help it. I'm paranoid that I am a hypochondriac.
So, I mean, I never felt as if me being gay was wrong.. In fact, I accepted it easily, as far as I remember. However, I fear the affect it could have on my work, career, and social status.
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Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 3:16 pm
ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie
Well, um..
Everybody has always expected me to be a lesbian, but I never thought I was.
I believed I was simply asexual because of the fact that I'm a borderline sociopath. I never really saw anybody attractive.. Or that's what I thought anyway. I just didn't find men all that attractive.
And then, sometime during Sophomore year, I developed a huge crush on a friend of mine..
I went through a period of thinking on it, and wandering if I just liked her personality, or if I was attracted to the whole thing.
It sort of slowly sunk in that I was a lesbian throughout the year, and eventually I really realized it.
However, I didn't tell anyone I knew until.. March 19th, 2013, And that was my mother.
I told one of my best friends about a month ago.
Now, I'm a little worried that I may be wrong. Not because I'm attracted to men, but my mother keeps asking me if I'm sure that I'm a lesbian. She keeps coming up with all these things, like, "Well, you didn't like girls when you were really little.", "Aren't you even going to Try to be with a man, at least once?", or "Maybe it's just because of all the people you hang out with."
It frustrates me because I can't tell her that the sight of.. Male genitalia makes me physically sick.
So, now, occasionally, I'll panic that I'm wrong. emotion_facepalm
~That Girl in the BowTie~Oh, I see. So again, gradual process. Hm. If you don't mind, what did you mean by "expected to be a lesbian"? You don't have to answer that if it's too personal. Anyway, I hope your mom will come around about it and accept you. If it's what you feel, I don't think you should allow her to shake you from that feeling. Honestly, when I really started questioning things, I had talked to my mom about it, and she was kind of saying stuff along the same lines, especially since, at the time, my best friend was gay. I ended up not being able to talk to her about anything concerning sex and sexuality since she was just so downright awful about it. I hope your mom isn't awful to you in that regard (or any regard really). Yea, I gotta agree with you there. Male genitalia is pretty freaking gross.
I guess it's because I'm not very feminine, and I never showed an interest in boys.
She says she accepts me, but I think she just wants to be sure. She's not even being nasty, she just doesn't want to broadcast it to everybody if I'm not sure..
Especially since, you know, Hate lives in a small town.
~That Girl in the BowTie~Oh, I see. That must have been really awkward for you cry I could understand where people thought they were coming from by asking that question, but... Feminine lesbians do exist. Oh, okay, I understand now. Earlier it sounded as if she was trying to be nasty. That's understandable, and you're right, hate does live in a small town. It sounds as though, other than the occasional doubt, that you have it pretty much figured yourself out. I think if you just do what makes you happy, you'll be just fine ^^
I'm glad I at least seem figured out.
But, I mean, I won't be coming out for at least another year.
.. And even then, I might just move out one night, and leave a note on the fridge that say:
"I'm Gay, bitches!"
Then it'll be done, and I'll be in California. xD It might be good to get out of that small town area (which, based on what you said, I'm going to assume you live in a small town. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) , and it might help you grow and get everything else figured out, especially if you're feeling judged. Best of luck to you :3
It's not that I like the city, or dislike small towns, I just can't stand the fact of staying in the same place forever. I feel like I want to get out and see the world.. Or at least, different facets of common civilization.
I want to see the differences between small variations of American society.
However, I don't feel judged... I mean, I view judgment as a part of life. People judge people, I'm no different.
This being said, I do worry about my siblings.. A tiny bit.
I already have a horrid reputation, and I don't want the "Gay" label to be added on top of it. Sometimes their friends aren't allowed to come over because their parents have heard the rumours about me.
I just honestly don't want my sexuality to affect my siblings. I can handle anything that's thrown at me, I just can't handle the thought of my siblings being bullied, teased, or ignored because of my orientation.
I mean, I live in a small town in Oklahoma, I can't expect everybody to be nice to them.
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Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 8:21 pm
ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie I dunno, like, A lot of people {Like my family} Would joke about it, and all my friends would ask.
I guess it's because I'm not very feminine, and I never showed an interest in boys.
She says she accepts me, but I think she just wants to be sure. She's not even being nasty, she just doesn't want to broadcast it to everybody if I'm not sure..
Especially since, you know, Hate lives in a small town.
~That Girl in the BowTie~ Oh, I see. That must have been really awkward for you cry I could understand where people thought they were coming from by asking that question, but... Feminine lesbians do exist. Oh, okay, I understand now. Earlier it sounded as if she was trying to be nasty. That's understandable, and you're right, hate does live in a small town. It sounds as though, other than the occasional doubt, that you have it pretty much figured yourself out. I think if you just do what makes you happy, you'll be just fine ^^
I'm glad I at least seem figured out.
But, I mean, I won't be coming out for at least another year.
.. And even then, I might just move out one night, and leave a note on the fridge that say:
"I'm Gay, bitches!"
Then it'll be done, and I'll be in California. xD It might be good to get out of that small town area (which, based on what you said, I'm going to assume you live in a small town. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) , and it might help you grow and get everything else figured out, especially if you're feeling judged. Best of luck to you :3
It's not that I like the city, or dislike small towns, I just can't stand the fact of staying in the same place forever. I feel like I want to get out and see the world.. Or at least, different facets of common civilization.
I want to see the differences between small variations of American society.
However, I don't feel judged... I mean, I view judgment as a part of life. People judge people, I'm no different.
This being said, I do worry about my siblings.. A tiny bit.
I already have a horrid reputation, and I don't want the "Gay" label to be added on top of it. Sometimes their friends aren't allowed to come over because their parents have heard the rumours about me.
I just honestly don't want my sexuality to affect my siblings. I can handle anything that's thrown at me, I just can't handle the thought of my siblings being bullied, teased, or ignored because of my orientation.
I mean, I live in a small town in Oklahoma, I can't expect everybody to be nice to them.That's completely understandable. I bet it'd be a lot of fun to move to a variety of places before you're tied down with children and their schooling and such. My uncle did that over in Europe, and he always talks about how awesome it was to do so. That makes sense, and I understand why you'd be concerned. While it's not fun to stay in the closet, in the situation, it sounds as though you might have to, for your siblings' sakes. In a perfect world, everyone would be more accepting of this sort of thing, but unfortunately, it probably won't happen. sad I'm really sorry that this happens to your family, and hopefully things will work out positively for all of you.
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Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 8:48 pm
ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie ElectricWinter85 ThatGirlintheBowTie I dunno, like, A lot of people {Like my family} Would joke about it, and all my friends would ask.
I guess it's because I'm not very feminine, and I never showed an interest in boys.
She says she accepts me, but I think she just wants to be sure. She's not even being nasty, she just doesn't want to broadcast it to everybody if I'm not sure..
Especially since, you know, Hate lives in a small town.
~That Girl in the BowTie~ Oh, I see. That must have been really awkward for you cry I could understand where people thought they were coming from by asking that question, but... Feminine lesbians do exist. Oh, okay, I understand now. Earlier it sounded as if she was trying to be nasty. That's understandable, and you're right, hate does live in a small town. It sounds as though, other than the occasional doubt, that you have it pretty much figured yourself out. I think if you just do what makes you happy, you'll be just fine ^^
I'm glad I at least seem figured out.
But, I mean, I won't be coming out for at least another year.
.. And even then, I might just move out one night, and leave a note on the fridge that say:
"I'm Gay, bitches!"
Then it'll be done, and I'll be in California. xD It might be good to get out of that small town area (which, based on what you said, I'm going to assume you live in a small town. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) , and it might help you grow and get everything else figured out, especially if you're feeling judged. Best of luck to you :3
It's not that I like the city, or dislike small towns, I just can't stand the fact of staying in the same place forever. I feel like I want to get out and see the world.. Or at least, different facets of common civilization.
I want to see the differences between small variations of American society.
However, I don't feel judged... I mean, I view judgment as a part of life. People judge people, I'm no different.
This being said, I do worry about my siblings.. A tiny bit.
I already have a horrid reputation, and I don't want the "Gay" label to be added on top of it. Sometimes their friends aren't allowed to come over because their parents have heard the rumours about me.
I just honestly don't want my sexuality to affect my siblings. I can handle anything that's thrown at me, I just can't handle the thought of my siblings being bullied, teased, or ignored because of my orientation.
I mean, I live in a small town in Oklahoma, I can't expect everybody to be nice to them.That's completely understandable. I bet it'd be a lot of fun to move to a variety of places before you're tied down with children and their schooling and such. My uncle did that over in Europe, and he always talks about how awesome it was to do so. That makes sense, and I understand why you'd be concerned. While it's not fun to stay in the closet, in the situation, it sounds as though you might have to, for your siblings' sakes. In a perfect world, everyone would be more accepting of this sort of thing, but unfortunately, it probably won't happen. sad I'm really sorry that this happens to your family, and hopefully things will work out positively for all of you.
Yeah, It doesn't really bother me, staying closeted. Since Courtney graduated, I haven't had anybody that really interests me enough where I wouldn't mind blowing my cover for them.
My family will be fine, it's just another year, soo.
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