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I have clarity impulse and I hate it.

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PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2013 12:10 am


By 'clarity impulse' I mean that I can't sit still and do nothing, especially when it comes to work. I have to always keep on doing something. If I don't have anything to do, I get lost, bored, frustrated.

I've always been like that all throughout school, and I've come to realize that people are using me for it. That's the only reason why people like to be in the same group with me, 'cause they can sit back and relax and get the marks without lifting a finger as 'Claire (that's my name) will do it.'

Now that I'm in college, it's still going on. It's not for lack of trying. I've tried to stop myself from getting too worked up over assignments and group presentations, but it's like a disease. I can't stop myself from taking charge (I tend to lead the group, as the members get useless sometimes) and telling them what to do and when they should hand the project in to me. If I don't do anything, they won't do anything either. It just makes me pissed to see how they take things so lightly and yet I'm the one who gets all nervous about work and stuff.

Am I crazy or am I just too much of a workaholic? crying
PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2013 12:56 am


Personally, I think the world needs more people like you and less people who sit back on their lazy asses expecting life to move because other people make it. In college, make sure you are very, very clear about what work you contribute to a group project. If you feel that your group is pulling someone else's weight, do complain to the instructor about it. It's not fair for others to take credit for the things you do. Ah, it makes me so furious the way people take advantage of others. But maybe I just think this way because I was too much of a stubborn loner during my university days. I couldn't tolerate the thought of doing another person a favor without being guaranteed that I would get something in return. And no, you're not crazy at all!

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PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2013 1:45 am


Yeah, I have to say that I look for people like you. This might make me sound like something of a user, but I try to surround myself with people like you. It's not just because of how tirelessly helpful they are to me, but I really love being around people that have (or appear to have) that personality. I find that the helpful parts are so often found in people who have all of the best qualities of dogs, which may not sound like a compliment but its those qualities that have given me a boundless love for and adoration of dogs. Maybe I admire that type so much because it's so full of unselfish elements that I have lost in myself... If I ever had them to begin with.
That might not be you. I don't know if you have an earnest desire to help people with no benefit to yourself, but I bring all of this up because given this trait, it is likely to often appear that you do.
I hope that you aren't exhausting yourself or wearing yourself out. But if you aren't, then I don't see anything that needs to be fixed.
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