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 Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 7:27 pm
My problem is this: I have dated a few people, boys and girls alike. I've even fell in love. BUT no matter how much I love someone when I'm in a relationship I WILL find a reason to end it without realizing it. Then when it's too late I'm filled with nothing but regret. I don't know why I push everyone out of my life. And to top it off, after my last boyfriend and I broke up I really can't find anyone attractive or worth dating. Not because he was the only guy for me, and no one can compare, I just don't feel attracted to anyone at all.
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 7:43 pm
That's just your way of protecting yourself. Without realizing it, you push them away to make sure they won't just leave or give up. If they truly care, they'll try their hardest to stay with you. If not, they'll leave. End of story.
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 7:49 pm
You just described me. With the exception of the fact that I push everyone away before I even get to dating. In fact, I've never been in a relationship before.
I don't even think it's really just a defense mechanism or a means of protecting yourself. It's something habitual really, a habit not easily changed. I wouldn't worry about it. In my mind it's a way of showing yourself that things aren't truly as you want them or need them to be.
The way I see it, when you're ready things will just stick.
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:01 pm
Invincible Youth That's just your way of protecting yourself. Without realizing it, you push them away to make sure they won't just leave or give up. If they truly care, they'll try their hardest to stay with you. If not, they'll leave. End of story. I don't really feel like it's me protecting myself though, I just feel like I've lost any form of sexuality, and I don't know what caused it.
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:03 pm
Der Fluch des Pharao You just described me. With the exception of the fact that I push everyone away before I even get to dating. In fact, I've never been in a relationship before.
I don't even think it's really just a defense mechanism or a means of protecting yourself. It's something habitual really, a habit not easily changed. I wouldn't worry about it. In my mind it's a way of showing yourself that things aren't truly as you want them or need them to be.
The way I see it, when you're ready things will just stick. I used to be the absolute worst about pushing people away. Then I just stopped liking anyone in general. I don't even think I remember how to go about starting a relationship anymore because I have no desire to be in one with anyone, even if they are the greatest person ever.
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:07 pm
That's you telling yourself you don't want another relationship, that you need to be putting your energies and efforts elsewhere.
Don't worry about it, in time the feelings should come back. But for now hone in on what's important in your life.
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:18 pm
Der Fluch des Pharao That's you telling yourself you don't want another relationship, that you need to be putting your energies and efforts elsewhere.
Don't worry about it, in time the feelings should come back. But for now hone in on what's important in your life. Is it possible for someone to have completely lost their sex drive and never get it back?
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Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2012 12:49 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2012 12:56 am
just sounds like you are just not ready yet. which is fine. 3nodding
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