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 Posted: Sun Mar 05, 2006 3:44 pm
So, my boyfriend told me that he started to look at hentai.
And this is going to sound stupid, but I feel like if he ends up addicted or something, when I move there, he'll be disappointed because I can't give him hot pixelated action.
So, I started feeling like I couldn't compare. I don't have much experience though the times we were together, he couldn't stop telling me how good I was. And part of me doesn't really believe him.
Are my feelings anywhere near justified?
Or is it just low self esteem?
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Posted: Sun Mar 05, 2006 6:50 pm
Ahhh something where I can say "been there, done that". xd
I actually got my ex sort of addicted to hentai. He wasn't that into porn or sex on TV or anything like that, but I managed to get him quite hooked on hentai and anime sex and things like that. However I was pretty much ok with it, since I was the one giving him the pictures online in the first place.
So my point here is, talk to him about it. If it bothers you or makes you uncomfortable in any way, discuss it with him! blaugh Communication goes a long way. And it's hard to have a stable, strong loving relationship if you can't tell him about something that's bothering you or making you worried.
Also, if he tells you're good at pleasuring him, believe him. He's saying it for a reason, and doubting yourself isn't going to do either of you any good. All it will do is make you feel like crap and make you doubt what you can do to him, both of which are foolish things to do.
On a final note, the real thing is always better than porn or hentai. You're like porn he can touch, and that beats hentai any day.
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Posted: Sun Mar 05, 2006 7:03 pm
If you are starting to have a problem with it. talk to him about it, he'll try to fix it somehow. you can't keep letting him continue if you are started to get a problem.
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Posted: Sun Mar 05, 2006 7:50 pm
Firstly, I want to meet the man who has never watched porn.
Just because your friend is watching porn doesn't mean that it's an obsession or that he will start rejecting everything else in his life. I think you are overreacting.
But, if it bothers you, you should talk to him about it. However, I do think that demanding that he stop doing something healthy and enjoyable because of a fear that is most likely unfounded may be crossing the line into being the p***y Whipping girlfriend.
Just to add perspective, my fiance watches hentai. He prefers it to live action because most of those are rather discusting. If you've ever watched most porn, you'll know what I mean. At least in hentai, the sex isn't what my fiance refers to as "throwing a sausage down a hallway."
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Posted: Mon Mar 06, 2006 6:45 am
Thanks you guys!
I did talk to him about it and he said he doesn't watch it like I'm expecting him to be watching it. He rarely masturbates and he says when he does get into the mood to masturbate, he'll put on him hentai and ... He says he does it for the sounds since he has a pretty lame imagination, lol.
He told me not to worry, he wont become addicted because it's too much trouble for him. His friends are constantly on his computer and he doesn't want them to know he watches it.
Kukushka - I don't want to p***y whip him, lol. I was definitely overreacted. My son's father got into porn (bad) and was expecting me to be just like that, able to handle huge cocks and a**l and such. And I just couldn't. But Sam (boyfriend now) told me that he wouldn't expect that from me. I'm human, not a "used up piece of meat" (which he calls girls in porn)
Nikolita - Your post made me smile so much. I know how he feels. I don't watch porn or hentai because it doesn't do anything for me, and I guess I just didn't understand why he would watch it.
Thank you all again for the support and advice!
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Posted: Mon Mar 06, 2006 9:57 am
I'm glad you've come to peace smile
I can see where your fear comes from and I am sorry that I was a bit harsh. I know a lot of girls who are just "EW!" for no reason and, as you say, don't approve simply because they don't like it. I didn't realize that you did have a legitimate reason to be worried. But, I am glad that, legitimate as it was, it wasn't applicable smile
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Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 8:30 am
Kukushka I'm glad you've come to peace smile I can see where your fear comes from and I am sorry that I was a bit harsh. I know a lot of girls who are just "EW!" for no reason and, as you say, don't approve simply because they don't like it. I didn't realize that you did have a legitimate reason to be worried. But, I am glad that, legitimate as it was, it wasn't applicable smile I use to be into porn, but I never expected my ex to be like that. When I met my current boyfriend, it turned into nothing but him could turn me on. So, I guess I was thinking that the hentai was turning him on and I wasn't able to. But, he told me I'm the only reason he even "watches" it. He doesn't masturbate that much to begin with. And you weren't harsh at all, lol. ^_^
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Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 5:33 pm
Stupid computer wouldn't let me post earlier. stare
What I meant to say was, good to hear that everything worked out for you PlasticStars. I'm glad to hear you two are ok with the whole hentai issue now! And I'm glad I could make you smile a little. wink I don't like hentai much either - porn is another story, but I just have to be careful to not let myself download too much, if given the option.
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