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 Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 4:43 pm
Okay. Well...
Three, almost four months ago I had popped my left knee out of place and said knee continued to pop out until four, maybe five weeks ago, with the help of surgery. Now, last Friday(Dec. 7th), my other knee, the good one, popped out due to my inability to remember where I put my limbs(which is now even worse than the left knee after three months of repetitive dislocation).
My Dad had major back surgery and he cant do much, same goes for me..... in not being able to move much, therefore pushing all responsibilities and needs onto my Mom. I go to a charter school whom really stress's my Mom out. I'm in ninth grade, so add some more stress. Then, I caught the flu on Tuesday, and had to come home today when it hit lunch. Now, while this is my best effort at trying to make it through the day, I feel as it was not enough.
I feel horrible because all these things keep piling stress up onto my Mom. I have no idea what I should do to help her relax and not look so sad. I just don't know what to do. I'm only fifteen. and yet my joints are popping out too easily. Also, what should I do for my Mom for Christmas? :c?
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 7:19 pm
I felt like that when I got dengue twice. The first was when I was 15 and the second was just a few months ago. The first time I got dengue, my parents were panicking. I came home with really high fever and I got rashes on my arms the next few days. There wasn't really much to do in the hospital besides doing my homework, eating, and sleeping. The best that I could do was keep on drinking a lot, because the doctor said that fluids are the main part of the treatment. Gatorade, juice, water, anything. I tried to get myself better so that my parents wouldn't be so stressed about it.
It was harder the second time because I was in a more advance stage in dengue. My professor told me to go to the clinic, and when the doctor got the blood test he told me I should probably be in quarantine. My mom took me straight to the hospital and we found out I got dengue again. Something in my throat (I forgot) was swollen and was bleeding (I think) due to the disease, so I couldn't drink or eat anything without feeling that I'd puke. But I still tried to drink and eat as much as I could so I could heal faster.
I think you have to concentrate on getting yourself better. I don't think you should feel so guilty with something you couldn't control. I didn't like being in the hospital, and I hated that I was being a burden to my parents. But I couldn't do anything besides trying to stay as healthy as possible, some of the doctors even joked if I was even sick and my mom just laughed. I couldn't curse the mosquitoes who gave me the disease, nor could I magically cure myself.
As for Christmas, I think a simple family day would do. It doesn't have to be extravagant, just you guys spending time together at home.
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Irako of the Desert Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 10:59 pm
The best thing parents can have is to see that their child is happy. So try to find things to be happy about, even if they're really small, like how birds derp around when they're flying.
As for how to help your mom de-stress... It kind of depends on what makes her feel relaxed. You could learn how to give a good massage. Google "how to massage" and see what comes up. Or maybe make her a cup of tea without being asked when she seems busy. Other things like making sure you do well in school and taking care of household chores might help as well.
For the Christmas, again, it depends on what your mom likes. My mom is a really hard person to get gifts for. She basically just gets whatever she needs whenever she needs it, and she only wants what she needs. She is aware of this and ended up telling me and my sisters just to write letters to her so she can have memories. Maybe you could do that too. Write your mom a letter that tells her how you wish you could help her feel happier and that you appreciate everything she does for the family.
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Posted: Sat Dec 15, 2012 6:00 am
Irako of the Desert The best thing parents can have is to see that their child is happy. So try to find things to be happy about, even if they're really small, like how birds derp around when they're flying.
As for how to help your mom de-stress... It kind of depends on what makes her feel relaxed. You could learn how to give a good massage. Google "how to massage" and see what comes up. Or maybe make her a cup of tea without being asked when she seems busy. Other things like making sure you do well in school and taking care of household chores might help as well.
For the Christmas, again, it depends on what your mom likes. My mom is a really hard person to get gifts for. She basically just gets whatever she needs whenever she needs it, and she only wants what she needs. She is aware of this and ended up telling me and my sisters just to write letters to her so she can have memories. Maybe you could do that too. Write your mom a letter that tells her how you wish you could help her feel happier and that you appreciate everything she does for the family. Thank you so much. I can probably do everything except for activities that require movement around the house or elsewhere due to the fact that I am on crutches.
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 3:12 pm
Offer to help out with things like making dinner. Maybe you can sit down and cut things up for her or sit and stir a pot. Offer to help fold laundry. Just offering to help with little things will make her feel good even if she tell you that she doesn't need help.
As for Christmas maybe you and your dad can pitch in together and get her a day at the spa so she can have a nice facial and massage.
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Posted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 5:08 am
Wow...I'm sorry to hear it. sad I can't really relate, I've never been seriously hurt at all, never broken or fractured anything. Dislocations I used to have a lot, but aren't they normally just pushed back into place?
Yeah, I think try to help with any of the chores that you can do. I know my mum is usually really grouchy after doing house work. Are you still able to attend school normally and keep up with the work? Try to keep your grades up, but if it's too much, you can talk to the teachers and maybe they will let you delay your studies a bit, or offer some help.
For christmas, you should just eat dinner together. Maybe not invite that many guests, because then you would have to do a lot of cooking and it's stressful, just have a quiet dinner with your family, but try to create as much festive spirit as possible. Play some carols. Or maybe tell your mum that she doesn't have to cook for the day, and just buy some ham or turkey that has already been made.
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Posted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 7:14 am
I'd say, just try to stay positive. Do whatever you can without hurting yourself, maybe ask your mom if there's anything you can do- small chores or whatever. Try to stay busy and not think about it too much.
As for what to get her for Christmas, maybe you could make her something? I know my mom LOVES it when she gets something personalized.
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Posted: Fri Jun 07, 2013 9:53 pm
I'm sorry for taking so long to get back to you all. x.x I found out I have a genetic condition. It's called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and unfortunately has no cure nor treatments. It's a genetic tissue disorder and causes my joints to dislocate every day and for my muscles and such to be lax and weak. It's now affected my hips, shoulders, knees, thumbs, and elbows. I honestly don't know what to do. I had to be withdrawn from school and have become very lonely. I have no siblings and no friends who live near me. My depression has become much worse again and that is also an issue that I no longer know how to deal with. Any help would be much appreciated. x.x
Thank you <3
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