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Discipline: When is it going too far?

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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 2:13 pm

Alright my friends, serious question here....what to you think is acceptable in regards to disciplining a child? This can be a pretty heated topic at times so let's keep it classy folks.

Are you of the opinion that physical contact of any kind (slapping, spanking, etc) is taboo and wrong? Do you feel it's ok / necessary to use some level of physical discipline to ensure appropriate behaviour? Where do we draw the line?

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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2012 9:37 pm

I thought a lot about this topic since I do want to eventually have my own kids someday. It's shocking how kids nowadays are so dang spoiled. I have a hard time understanding how a parent could tolerate their children doing stupid things like screaming in public or doing barrel rolls down the grocery aisle. If I ever did anything like that as a kid it would be instant spanking or ear-pulling emotion_8c But...I think I grew up well despite those disciplines, so I would say...if the kid really is doing something REALLY out of line, such as sticking their head into the kitchen oven, physical punishment such as spanking is acceptable so long as it won't leave bruises or permanent marks.

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Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2012 11:35 am

I was never physically disciplined as a child. I responded well to verbal warnings and threats (If you do that I will take your toy away). However, my brother did not respond to verbal warnings and threats. At one point he had nothing in his room but a bed and his clothes.
All children are different, things will work with one child that will not work for another. I would like to believe that if I had a child I would never use physical punishment. However, I cannot say for sure until I was put in that position. I think that verbally working out problems is a better solution in the long run, it helps children work on problem solving skills that will come in handy later in life.

Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 11:47 am

Spanking is an acceptable way to discipline your child as long as it's with your hand only. Belts or other objects used to hit your child is not cool. Leaving serious bruises is not cool. When the child is over 10 years old, though, I think it's time to stop with the spanking and start figuring out other ways to discipline your child.

In my mind, there's a difference between spanking and beating. Spankings are generally three or four smacks on the bottom. A beating goes on for longer and lands wherever the parent can reach. Spankings are acceptable, beatings are not

I would also use timeouts. Confiscation of items or privileges, too.

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