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 Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2012 12:54 am
What are your thoughts on arranged marriages? Is there real love? Does it give freedom/independence? How about encouraging illegal immigration? Discuss!
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Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2012 3:13 pm
Arranged marriages encourage illegal immigration? cat_sad
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Irako of the Desert Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 1:55 pm
It's a pretty superficial and garbage concept. Basically wedlock on a macro level.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 2:01 pm
if my dad hadn't found a better paying job I would've had an arranged marriage sad
It was scary cause the guy was a bit to proud and didn't see that just talking about himself makes me like him.
But now i don't have to get married, and get to live out my high school life with however I want <3
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 2:03 pm
It's not part of my culture so it's something I struggle with understanding / accepting.
I was raised to be an independent lady (even though I would love to be a stay at home lady in a single income household lol) and to make my own decisions so the idea of such an important choice being taken away and decided for me makes me cringe. HOWEVER - if I had been raised to believe that was the proper way of things I imagine I might feel very different.
I have a couple friends who both had their marriages arranged for them by their families and have very happy home lives.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 2:09 pm
it's not something i deal with in my culture/area, but it's not something i even want to deal with.
the main reason being i don't WANT to get married.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 2:28 pm
Kitalpha Hart it's not something i deal with in my culture/area, but it's not something i even want to deal with.
the main reason being i don't WANT to get married.
I feel like the actual legal act of getting married is fairly unnecessary and potentially costly (unless you're looking at tax breaks, etc.) If two people love each other enough to get married then I feel like it's just a silly piece of paper trying to prove that to everyone else.
That being said - my husband is very religious and wanted to complete the act for spiritual reasons so I agreed to do so in Mexico. When marrying out of country it is not legal unless we file the paperwork back here in Canada, which we did not. We spoke our vows in front of our closest friends and family members, and it was beautiful.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 2:57 pm
RabidKitten Kitalpha Hart it's not something i deal with in my culture/area, but it's not something i even want to deal with.
the main reason being i don't WANT to get married.
I feel like the actual legal act of getting married is fairly unnecessary and potentially costly (unless you're looking at tax breaks, etc.) If two people love each other enough to get married then I feel like it's just a silly piece of paper trying to prove that to everyone else.
That being said - my husband is very religious and wanted to complete the act for spiritual reasons so I agreed to do so in Mexico. When marrying out of country it is not legal unless we file the paperwork back here in Canada, which we did not. We spoke our vows in front of our closest friends and family members, and it was beautiful. i'm not in a relationship, and working at a theme park (why they still call it that when there's no theme is beyond me) has left me with some very negative feelings about people
but there should be something about the first person you have sex with is the person you're married to...for life. and if you cheat, you and the person you cheated with die.
i'm not nice, and i've had too much contact with stupid people. it might change for me, but not anytime soon
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 3:12 pm
Kitalpha Hart i'm not in a relationship, and working at a theme park (why they still call it that when there's no theme is beyond me) has left me with some very negative feelings about people
but there should be something about the first person you have sex with is the person you're married to...for life. and if you cheat, you and the person you cheated with die.
i'm not nice, and i've had too much contact with stupid people. it might change for me, but not anytime soon
(Holy mackerel I had accidentally edited your previous post with my response. My face was like "WTF" when I saw what I had done lol All fixed now though)
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 3:21 pm
RabidKitten Kitalpha Hart i'm not in a relationship, and working at a theme park (why they still call it that when there's no theme is beyond me) has left me with some very negative feelings about people
but there should be something about the first person you have sex with is the person you're married to...for life. and if you cheat, you and the person you cheated with die.
i'm not nice, and i've had too much contact with stupid people. it might change for me, but not anytime soon
(Holy mackerel I had accidentally edited your previous post with my response. My face was like "WTF" when I saw what I had done lol All fixed now though)ah. dirt nap? and yes, i'm happier single
i've done that before XD VC in two guilds, Crew in one, and i own another
though the Captain of one that i'm VC in quit :/ so if she's gone long enough, i'll take it over and make it an extension of my guild...
but i might keep it how it's being set up
and the other one has a clueless twit for a Captain x.x
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 11:58 pm
I'm not one for dissing cultures that aren't my own, but I do believe in the concept of free choice.
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2013 1:29 pm
You are the apple...
While I do believe people should have the choice to marry who they want, I'll leave you with a little fact I learned in school:
People in arranged marriages statistically report being happier in their union than those who freely choose their spouse.
and I am your core.
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 7:15 pm
What an interesting point! (Learn something new every day)
I wonder if it has anything to do with the culture where arranged marriages are more commonly found. I'm globalizing a bit here but I would guess that the divorce rate would be much lower than places where it's not the norm. Maybe if you know that you're in it for the long haul no matter what, you would be more apt to work harder at it?
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2013 9:50 am
RabidKitten What an interesting point! (Learn something new every day)
I wonder if it has anything to do with the culture where arranged marriages are more commonly found. I'm globalizing a bit here but I would guess that the divorce rate would be much lower than places where it's not the norm. Maybe if you know that you're in it for the long haul no matter what, you would be more apt to work harder at it?
You are the apple...
That's a probable reason. You could also look at what *forgets his name* calls the "paradox of progress" as being a culprit for the lesser happiness in non arranged marriages.
The "Paradox of Progress" is essentially the idea that the more we have to choose from, the more options and freedom we have, which is normally seen as progress, the less happy we are with our choices.
The ironic thing there is if one chooses to get divorced and remarry, statistically your chance of getting divorced again increases with each subsequent marriage.
and I am your core.
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