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 Posted: Sat Mar 02, 2013 7:47 am
real eyes realize SinfulGuillotine real eyes realize SinfulGuillotine Promiscuous = having had many sexual partners, usually without being in a relationship with said partners. Prostitute/whore = someone who has sex in exchange for money or other material gain. Sorry, using those terms interchangeably is a huge pet peeve of mine. All prostitutes are promiscuous, but not all promiscuous people are prostitutes. I was defining those terms based on scriptural examples; YHWH called Israel a whore/prostitute/harlot for "sleeping" around with foreign god(s), not necessarily for money, they were just plain disloyal to him. There's all kinds of nasty words that have been used for centuries to describe people (historically mostly women) who engage or have engaged in promiscuous behaviour, and I don't find any of them appropriate words to describe human beings. (Except perhaps for "prostitute," but only if it's being used to describe a person who has sex for money, and even then, the term "sex worker" is far more PC.) I don't know what other words you have in mind, but this applies to both women and men. It doesn't really matter how the world defines behavior though, or what they think is politically-correct; How YHWH defines a thing is what matters, and it boils down to this: YHWH disapproves of sleeping around and having multiple partners. He's constantly talking about being loyal to one, unless that person commits sexual immorality against you and you divorce them. (More often than not, he's describing his relationship to the nation of Israel; but he expects the same out of the relationships we have with each other). example: He divorces Israel for her "sexual immorality" with other gods: (Jeremiah 3:8 ) Jesus tells us we cannot divorce unless it's over sexual immorality: (Matthew 5:32) I'm not debating the morality (that's another can of worms), merely the terminology. Words like "slut" and "whore" and, if we're going old-school, "strumpet" are derogatory words that serve no real purpose except to put people down, to denote them as being some lower form of human being. Regardless of their scriptural usage, historically and socially, that is what those words do in our culture (and since the Bible wasn't even written in English, even the argument that such words are scriptural is shakey). Yes, these people may be sinners, but we're all sinners. That's why we need Christ for salvation.
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Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 8:11 am
@SinfulGuillotine: Lol. Strumpet. whee
As I see it, my partner and I are already married. Occasionally in secret, we will call each other man and wife, or say "that's why I married you". We still plan on getting "weddinged" at some point, but because of reasons, we're waiting for a while to make it legal. It's going to be at least a year, maybe two before I even consider it.
I prayed about the situation a lot, wondering if I was being delusional or trying to make myself feel better about living with a man I'm not legally married to. I wondered if I should just throw off the responsibilities I have to myself and my family in favor of getting married.
The response the Holy Spirit whispered to me was that God already views us as man and wife. We have already committed to love one another forever with God as our foundation. If God has blessed our union, I don't really need the blessing of anyone else. I do believe that God wants me to be public about our union, to honor Him and my partner, but I believe that He understands the work I need to do before that happens.
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High-functioning Werewolf
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Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2013 8:39 am
Strumpet is a fun word.
Marriage means different things to different people, and for some, standing up in front of friends and family and getting married in a church is very important. There's nothing wrong with that, so long as you don't feel like you need to get married to have a real commitment to your spouse. People who get married because they think that marriage will strengthen their relationship and make everything rainbows and unicorns in their relationship might need a reality check, though.
When you reach a certain point in your life, and in your relationship, getting married does start to become the practical thing to do. If you really, truly see yourself being with your partner for the rest of your life, and you're at a point in your life when marriage will make things easier and not more complicated (for example, you're finished or almost finished with school, you are at least starting to establish some sort of career...basically, you're at a point in your life where you are living as an independent adult), then getting married makes perfect sense. But marriage shouldn't really be a huge game-changer in terms of the dynamics of your relationship. If you and your partner are not fully committed to one another before you get married, marriage isn't suddenly going to magically make that level of commitment appear.
And God is everywhere, so just because you didn't get married in a church doesn't mean that you aren't married in the eyes of God.
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