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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 4:00 pm

I'm not one to rant about my problems. Ever. I find it silly to try and elicit pity from people, I can usually handle my problems head on rationally, and maturely.
However, I find this problem to be "the typical high school BS." Or just useless drama. I, being a rational person tend to stray from stupidity.

My best friend and I literally are one and the same. We do have small differences, but chances are, we agree on almost anything. It's so stupid that she's alienated me out of her life--I can't figure out a rational/mature manner to handle this. At all. Never had I had to deal with such immaturity.

It all started at one of my friends house, he said, "Do any of you guys read Reddit?" I said, yes! And in truth, I do! So, he asked me "When does the narwhal eat bacon" I was in a silly mood and I decided not to answer. Let it be known that the Narwhal eats bacon at Midnight. Aye? However, my best friend thought I was lying about reading reddit and after I came home she texted me saying; "Why did you lie about reading reddit?"
"I didn't?"
"Why didn't you answer?"
"I was feeling silly?"
"I think you're a liar."
"Do you have an insecurity with liars?"
"It really bugs me, so to think my best friend was lying..."
"I wasn't?"
"LIAR."

Strike one on my part? I didn't see anything I did wrong. I explained my logic, but apparently, that's not enough. After 3 weeks of total alienation by her, I felt this "wall" (metaphorically) was growing between us. Our talking every minute dwindled to nothing. We said, our greetings and our farewells and then later it went to us totally avoiding each other. Finally, she came up and apologized and said that lying really bugs her. I told her I understood and it resumed. I was quite pleased that things went normal.

Wrong. Apparently, she lied to me about being "okay" about the whole reddit thing. Me, being...me...I said that was horribly ironic which pissed her off.
(I still believe it's ironic, call me a douche, but I don't regret that part)
Whatever the case, things went worse, I got into National Honor Society but I couldn't go to any of the meetings due to my declining health and family problems. SO, I asked the person in charge to take my name off everything and that I'm leaving. He did.

Next day after I did this, my best friend asked me why my name wasn't on the National Honor Society list, as I was explaining that I couldn't go to any meetings and that I had family problems along with health--she told me, "Is this another lie?"
First of all, ouch.
Second of all, the hell?

I guess I'm just hurt, I've never lied to her. What motive is there for me to lie to her? I've tried to make things better but everything I say she just states back.. (repetitively), "Did you lie?"

NO. NO I DID NOT.

I did tell her one day I was tired of this, I wanted our friendship to be the way it was before all this dumbass drama started.
And all she said back to me was,
"Is that a lie?"

I don't even know, If I should waste my time on her and move on--or try to fix this friendship. I've never lost a friend due to something...so...

stupid.

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I just really needed to get this off my chest. I can't figure out anything to fix this, usually my friends just tell me when something is bugging them and they..don't..act so...moronic I guess.

More than anything, I really wish that things went back to how they really were.

Thanks for reading. I'm not asking for pity or anything. Just..needed to get this whole thing off my mind. emotion_sweatdrop

Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 4:05 pm

Err I guess more than anything, Thanks for reading. x_x

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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:30 pm

Well, it sounds to me like there's something going on with her past that. If you're both so alike, then she would be able to tell when it got ridiculous, except if there was something going on that was really personal and/or private. Maybe she's going through some "typical high school BS" and didn't want to tell you about it because she knows how you are? And maybe that's making her sensitive... I'd say you should just have a sit-down where you let it all out to her and see what's really going on. But, I'm not the most socially adept person out there (I'm very rational, myself, and don't tend to get into drama), so you might want a second opinion...

Good luck, though. Hope it works out =)

Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:08 pm

way to not handle a joke... cat_gonk
it might be time to split ways.
happened to me between this school year and last school year with my former friend Chikii, as i called her.
typical high school BS gone out of control. i say distance yourself

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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:36 pm

Ittarius

Well, it sounds to me like there's something going on with her past that. If you're both so alike, then she would be able to tell when it got ridiculous, except if there was something going on that was really personal and/or private. Maybe she's going through some "typical high school BS" and didn't want to tell you about it because she knows how you are? And maybe that's making her sensitive... I'd say you should just have a sit-down where you let it all out to her and see what's really going on. But, I'm not the most socially adept person out there (I'm very rational, myself, and don't tend to get into drama), so you might want a second opinion...

Good luck, though. Hope it works out =)

v u v I appreciate the sentiments.
I've tried to have the whole talking with her, I suspected also that she had something her past about lying. BUt, even when I was being honest, she kept saying that I was lying when I really wasn't.

I do appreciate you taking your time and sharing your opinion though, I'll keep it in mind and maybe try again to have the sit down and talk with her. ^^

Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:38 pm

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way to not handle a joke... cat_gonk
it might be time to split ways.
happened to me between this school year and last school year with my former friend Chikii, as i called her.
typical high school BS gone out of control. i say distance yourself

I totally agree x_x

I'm sorry that happened to you! cat_crying
Hopefully it's better in College? o3o
I've been distancing myself more or less from her, but It's hard when the optimist side of personality is barging in and saying, "STAHP. WHAT ARE YOU DOING. APOLOGIZE AND GET THIS OVER WITH" x n x"

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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:55 pm

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I sure hope so, but i still have to deal with high school another year
find more ways to do it. if it helps, explore what you've never done before, and if you like it, start using it a lot more. my taste in music has changed a lot, especially over the summer cuz i listened to more stuff. undo the fact that you're attached at the hip and have your realistic section (or mine, if you need to borrow it) tell that optimistic section to shut up and more ahead
Chikii still tries to interact with me, but i rub it off, being neutral. she thinks we're still friends, but i'm pissed off at her cat_rofl
my band teacher noticed it (i play trombone, she plays clarinet), and has asked me. not sure if she asked Chikii, but the way she's talked about it, only me. Weird, but whatever.

Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:59 pm

That is so bizarre that she would continue to insist that you're lying. Seriously, what is wrong with this person? That sucks that this is causing such a split between you and your best friend.

Also, college is much better as long as you surround yourself with intelligent people. You've got to keep in mind that freshmen have just come from high school and many haven't quite transitioned into the whole "I'm a big college student now" yet. There will definitely be some who do, and those are the people you should get to know.

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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 7:16 pm

I would just leave her alone. I'm not cool with people accusing me of something I didn't do. & especially over something as dumb as reading a website. I know you guys are bffs & s**t but damn she's being dramatic.

Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 7:27 pm

-Fancy R

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Well, it sounds to me like there's something going on with her past that. If you're both so alike, then she would be able to tell when it got ridiculous, except if there was something going on that was really personal and/or private. Maybe she's going through some "typical high school BS" and didn't want to tell you about it because she knows how you are? And maybe that's making her sensitive... I'd say you should just have a sit-down where you let it all out to her and see what's really going on. But, I'm not the most socially adept person out there (I'm very rational, myself, and don't tend to get into drama), so you might want a second opinion...

Good luck, though. Hope it works out =)

v u v I appreciate the sentiments.
I've tried to have the whole talking with her, I suspected also that she had something her past about lying. BUt, even when I was being honest, she kept saying that I was lying when I really wasn't.

I do appreciate you taking your time and sharing your opinion though, I'll keep it in mind and maybe try again to have the sit down and talk with her. ^^

I see... If you're emotional about it at all, I would suggest using that. Sometimes when you're calm and collected, people don't trust you as much...

No problem. I hope it helps ^_^

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Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 6:54 pm

Lady Kira X

I would just leave her alone. I'm not cool with people accusing me of something I didn't do. & especially over something as dumb as reading a website. I know you guys are bffs & s**t but damn she's being dramatic.

I'm beginning to feel the same way, I was surprised when she wouldn't forget about it and let it blow up to this magnitude.
And more or less, I realized I was being optimistic in the situation she would apologize or something. I really don't see why I would have to apologize for something I never did.

But she's not apologizing, and I'd be fine if she could have the courage to at least say sorry or something. Guess she never valued our friendship.
Flaws of being fiercely loyal to friends. emotion_sweatdrop

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That is so bizarre that she would continue to insist that you're lying. Seriously, what is wrong with this person? That sucks that this is causing such a split between you and your best friend.

Also, college is much better as long as you surround yourself with intelligent people. You've got to keep in mind that freshmen have just come from high school and many haven't quite transitioned into the whole "I'm a big college student now" yet. There will definitely be some who do, and those are the people you should get to know.

I agree, I still can't believe she is blowing this out of proportion. Oh well. Hormones do things to ya. e.e

Ah! Well! I tend to find people like this regardless aha, it's not that hard to spot out the ditz and the ones who are serious about education an' what not.
I appreciate the heads up though! ^^

Ittarius

I see... If you're emotional about it at all, I would suggest using that. Sometimes when you're calm and collected, people don't trust you as much...

No problem. I hope it helps ^_^

Actually, I found it silly she was making this a first world problem, I was more or less ignoring her at first hoping she would realize the error in her judgement or something.
But I did have the sit-down and talk today and turns out, she wanted me to apologize for "lying" and that I should never lie to her again.
I know I should've said, "I'm sorry" but I couldn't say it with me feeling honest. I didn't see what I'd have to apologize for, seeing how I never lied in the first place. And I did end up telling her this, but that wasn't what she wanted to hear and ended up walking away from me. I guess the friendship is over? Dunno. Maybe she'll come to her senses.

It did, x) More or less, it made me realize I was being optimistic in hoping she would apologize. XD I do appreciate the opinions, so sorry to drag all of you down with such BS in highschool. ;o;

Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 7:04 pm

I don't know if I made this evident,
but I appreciate all of your advice you guys have given me.

I honestly do.

Thank you so much. >.<

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