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 Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2012 4:35 pm
I honestly don't know why, but I always get kinda Paranoid and shy around older men,
even those in my family. When I'm around guys my age, its no problem, but when I'm around older men I just kinda get scared. I don't know why, because I know they are ok and wont hurt me or anything, but I just get Paranoid around them. Does anyone know why and maybe how to help? Thanks
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Posted: Sat Jul 07, 2012 12:52 pm
You are the apple...
If you would rather not say, you don't have to, but were you ever molested or anything of the sort when you were younger? That could contribute to it.
and I am your core.
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Posted: Sun Jul 08, 2012 9:16 am
I don't really think I was molested as a kid. If I was, I may have repressed the memory of it...oh! My stepfather's father gets a bit grabby sometimes. Hugs me a lot, I think he grabbed my chest once. But that only started a bit recently. I have had this fear since maybe...three years ago? Idk.
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Posted: Sun Jul 08, 2012 12:47 pm
You are the apple...
Hmm...do you get scared around any older guy, family or not?
and I am your core.
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Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2012 12:53 am
this is normally evidence of trauma. If it does bother you that your grandfather does that, even if by accident, it might be best to make it known that it makes you uncomfortable and that it happens. Also what would you say is your definition of an "older man"? Like a lot older or a little older? And I most certainly hope you did not repress any kind of memory like molestation as that is not something so easily dealt with.
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Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2012 11:50 am
Lets not make her paranoid that she's blocked out memories either.
Is this really a problem? I'm uncomfortable when older people that are not in my family want to touch me but I deal with it. If anything its good that you always have your eyes out on people, to be a little cautious. When it comes to your family or people you will be in contact a lot with, you should probably tell them what they do is making you uncomfortable.
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