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Anyone have dirty thoughts that pervade you almost every day to the point you just have to do something about it? I'm not only Christian, but I'm a high functioning autistic, too, so not only do I see the value in waiting for the right person and then the right time from a Christian perspective, but as a high functioning autistic I couldn't bring myself to do what some people do and go out and have meaningless sex. I actually have to be comfortable and in love with the person first. That's just the only way for it to work with me and that's the best part about the situation.

I know I can't be taken advantage of. Even though I'm an autistic, I can still see signs. I'm too smart for that. Or maybe cautious is more the word. Again that's the really good thing about it.

But the problem lies in having to do something about even if it means.....pictures....self....hand....I think I got that across without being too explicit. I actually look more at anime images in that area, too.

Another bad thing about it is that I have a focus on being a little too picky with looks, although there was one time I got to know someone online real well, before she sent me a picture and although she never intended things to go anywhere and I didn't either till sometime later when I got to know her. I actually started to fall for her despite her looks and that's not easy for me to do at all. So basically I'm a little shallow in the looks department, but on the good side of things I know I want more than that. I want someone with a personality to compliment me. Someone who's a real sweetheart or has some sense of intelligence that can talk to me on my level. Which is what that said person did well.

There's one person that people have tried to get me to try to go out with, but she's a friend and I just don't see anything happening, because it'd be really awkward, plus there are parts of her that don't quite meet up with my standards. She talks on a good level of my interests and she can be kind of nice, but we've never talked on a deeper level or helped each other on something somewhat difficult to go through, so that being unseen, she doesn't appeal to me. She's an autistic like me, but talks in sort of a monotone voice most of the time, which is kind of unappealing. Still I like her as a friend and I think people in our group finally gave up trying to talk me into it.

Anyways, this has sort of deviated from my original post, but I wanted to add to, to make sure that I'm not completely all about looks. In fact my range of what I see as physical cuteness is a bit better than what some ignorant "go to the bar to get laid" kind of guy is like. I just worry that I'm being too shallow sometimes with looks. If I can't get past looks, then I feel bad and that's a bad part of me...I think sometimes...

You are guilty of nothing but being human. Getting sexually excited, and acting on that is a basic bodily function. A lot of the ideas that dictate rules against masturbation are based on outdated concepts, like the idea that we are born with a limited about, and later the idea that inside every sperm lived a small person. While there is a matter of lust to contend with, there is a difference between collecting stacks and stacks of pornography and engaging in a very simple function.

I went to a very progressive of church, of course, and their philosophy was when teaching this stuff was simple- Lust is when we are ducking out at work or school to masturbate in the Bathroom, or when it becomes part of a habit. Laying down and engaging into the act because that's how our body feels at the moment, or even getting an urge and doing a quick web search, is different.


Incidentally, finding love in this world is difficult but extremely satisfying. I'm going to just say this right now, there is a difference, i don't care what anyone says, between having sex and making love. Sex is what you have when your a horny kid who can't say no... But physical intimacy with somebody you deeply love is amazing... Point is, I remember being the "Go to the Bar to get laid guy." Wouldn't recommend it.

I'm more of a "Find a girl in the art room of a Godzilla Convention" type of guy.

You aren't be shallow by making it clear what you want and don't want. Just remember to be flexible about that. Looks, voices, smells, ect. These things are important, contrary to what people who say "It's all about personality" believe. Thing is, it's not as important as the "Looks are all that matters crowd" thinks. What determines our attraction to another is determined by LOTS of different traits. Physical, Mental, Emotional, ect. Also, no matter what physical type you are, somebody is going to find you attractive.

My girlfriend has a joke, but it's kinda crude for a Christian group. Essentially, describe your body type. Fat, Skinny, bald, whatever.... Then add the word "Porn", and do a google search. You'll realize that somebody you find attractive will find you attractive. It's inevitable.

Of course, this is coming from the girl whose got an insane crush on Nick Frost.

No matter what you believe in... creationism or evolution... It's in our nature to want to have sex. There are the odd people who have the phobias or are asexual. But they are special cases, I suppose.

But really, we find someone attractive, and we want them. I forgot where it was in the bible, but I believe God said we can admire the features of the body of the opposite gender. Not sure the exact details though. But honestly, I see that as a push to GET DOWN AND DIRTY.


Anyways... Sex might be "for marriage" thing to some people... I see it as a more "We are truly in love, and we want to show it physically" kind of thing.