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 Posted: Wed Feb 08, 2012 8:47 pm
Cheated on me, and broke my heart...So, I figured out that I'm bisexual last year.... and I've told all my friends and my sister... I probably would have told my parents by now... but no.. Why? Here's why:
Today at dinner, we were discussing sexuality. (Mostly because my sister was talking about dating a girl.) and they both said that they don't believe in bisexuality.. And my mom said that anyone who says they are are just really horny and will just have sex with anyone :/ And then my dad agreed...
Yet, they would be totally fine if I were flat out lesbian or hetero.
I wanted to speak up, and prove them wrong, because sex is the last thing on my mind, and if I meet a girl or guy that I really like, then I'll be with them and only them for the time being. Honestly, I don't care if I end up with a guy or girl for the rest of my life. It's just whoever I fall in love with. But that doesn't mean I can have sex with anyone, nor do I want to. stare But I just stayed silent through the who conversation.... ._.
It kinda hurts knowing that my parents think this way...
And even though I've never dated, I know that I'm not completely straight, and I know that I'm not a lesbian. Why? Because I've liked many guys in my life, and I'm currently crushing on a girl.
It's stuff like this that makes me never want to come out.. :/ I haven't even told them that I have a crush on a girl. And if I did, they'll ask if I was a lesbian, and I'd say "no", and then what will they think? That I'm just another sex addicted slut that'll have sex with anyone? Or will they just say "Oh, okay" and accept it? Because if they can accept it if I were a lesbian, then why is being bi so bad? It doesn't mean that I'll have sex with everyone, it means that I can fall in love with any gender.
Hell, they know that sex is the last thing I think about. And they know that I don't even want to have sex until I'm either married, or know for sure that I'm with the right person. But will they start doubting me if I tell them? .-. ...Gonna show the world your private parts!
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Posted: Wed Feb 08, 2012 8:58 pm
Tell your parents. Even if they don't understand, it'll be good for them to know. I told my parents I was bi last year and I was terrified of how they took it. My mom was completely accepting, my dad took a little time. You should know that they love you no matter what and they would get over it eventually. I think telling them would be a good idea, so good luck, and even though I don't know you, I believe in you smile .
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Posted: Wed Feb 08, 2012 9:02 pm
Well first off I'd just like to say that I think the term 'bisexual' is overused by drunken whores that like to get their kicks. Thus giving the sexuality a bad name, that's why most of the bisexuals with good morals began calling themselves Pansexuals, which is much less advertised. So even if you don't want to label yourself a pansexual I'd still bring it up to them with that first just to break the ice on how you don't care about genitals but just about who the person is character wise. I'm personally straight but a dear friend of mine went through the same problem. The parents weren't homophobic but just didn't like the image that bisexuality now presents to the public. But don't hide it from them, it would be devastating to feel like their child wouldn't trust them.
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Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 9:19 am
I don't really understand the big need to come out to your parents. I understand this maybe cause I'm hetero but until the time comes that you do have a lesbian lover/switch back to men, what's the rush to let them know?
In general, I'm pretty distant with my parents. I feel like they don't need to know everything I do. Its probably better for them.
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Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 9:28 am
My mom told me that if I ever told her that I like guys she would disown me. Thus, I haven't told her that I'm bi-sexual.
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Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 1:45 pm
IDK if I'm interpreting this correctly but it sounds to me like you're getting bisexuality confused with pansexuality.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 9:27 pm
Does that really matter to the situation?
I'm pretty sure her parents wouldnt like finding out she's a pansexual either
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:33 pm
The difference is that, as far as I know, pansexuals are less prone to sexual attraction than bisexuals because bisexuals create a solid distinction between male and female which really just shows that they have a "sexual preference" whereas pansexuals have a tendency to not have said preference (because of their ignorance towards gender) and instead be attracted to others for things besides looks/sexual attraction.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:33 pm
maui boy no ka oi IDK if I'm interpreting this correctly but it sounds to me like you're getting bisexuality confused with pansexuality. How does it sound like that? She mentioned nothing of being attracted to intersex or transgendered people (for example) just male and female... Sounds like Bi-Sexual is the correct word to me >_>;
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:35 pm
angelfromdown-under maui boy no ka oi IDK if I'm interpreting this correctly but it sounds to me like you're getting bisexuality confused with pansexuality. How does it sound like that? She mentioned nothing of being attracted to intersex or transgendered people (for example) just male and female... Sounds like Bi-Sexual is the correct word to me >_>; Quote: ...it means that I can fall in love with any gender.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:38 pm
I hate labeling myself but i guess if anything i would be pan-sexual.
I am incredibly lucky that my mother honestly doesn't care what gender i bring home/fall in love with as long as i am happy. (hell i honestly dont think she would care if i came home with a carrot and told her i was in love with it xD ) If you sit down with them and talk it out i am sure they will be happy for you.
Hiding it from them/ not being honest about it will only hurt your relationship in the long run...get it out in the open and you will feel a lot better ^_^
One thing i wanted to ask is how old you are and how old your parents are...simply because this can have a big influence on how your parents react xP
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:42 pm
maui boy no ka oi angelfromdown-under maui boy no ka oi IDK if I'm interpreting this correctly but it sounds to me like you're getting bisexuality confused with pansexuality. How does it sound like that? She mentioned nothing of being attracted to intersex or transgendered people (for example) just male and female... Sounds like Bi-Sexual is the correct word to me >_>; Quote: ...it means that I can fall in love with any gender. Ahh my apologies i missed that xP But i think thats more poor wording on her part, as she only mentions male and female in the rest of her post.
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Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 12:06 am
angelfromdown-under maui boy no ka oi angelfromdown-under maui boy no ka oi IDK if I'm interpreting this correctly but it sounds to me like you're getting bisexuality confused with pansexuality. How does it sound like that? She mentioned nothing of being attracted to intersex or transgendered people (for example) just male and female... Sounds like Bi-Sexual is the correct word to me >_>; Quote: ...it means that I can fall in love with any gender. Ahh my apologies i missed that xP But i think thats more poor wording on her part, as she only mentions male and female in the rest of her post. Well that's a possibility. But when you think about it, it's not very common to meet any transgender people around especially at younger ages (much less fall for them). Even I have only met like one or two. Then again transgender/etc. people are generally more accepted here than on the mainland.
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