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 Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2011 9:14 pm
Heya guys~
So yeah, it's stil finals week and yeah I'm still studying. HOWEVER, since I had some freetime, I wanted to bring some activity to the guild.
I just thought that interracial dating would be a good topic to discuss.
So basically: What are your thoughts about dating outside your race?
You can give your own opinion, talk about personal experiences, etc.
To start this I'll say that as far as I can remember I've wanted to date outside my race. It's just a preferance.
So, feedback?
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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2011 9:45 pm
I prefer dating outside my race and am currently dating outside my race -points to pengies in her siggy- Dating inside my race has never appealed to me. Mainly because I don't find the men of my race attractive (both physically and in their actions/attitude overall). I have no problem at all with people who date inside or outside of their race. Date who you want. It's your life and who you will have to put up with. Though in the end I think it's about who you find who treats you how you want. If that special someone had just so happened to be the same race as me then I would have gotten over it. When it comes to the qualities I look for I'd rather have someone treat me right and in my race than someone who doesn't treat me right with all the things I find physically attractive. Just so happen that I got the preferred of both of my worlds. blaugh
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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2011 11:09 pm
I've never really thought hard about dating outside my race. I mean yeah, there are certain races that I find more attractive (then I feel like some sort of racist... emotion_8c ), but it's all about attitude and personality to me. People shouldn't feel obligated to date within their own race. I usually end up being attracted to my own race more so, however. But then again, for some odd reason it depends on the gender... confused
My point is though, people should date who they want to. Race is something that SHOULDN'T be important in the world. emotion_yatta
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 10:15 pm
Hooray replies! Lol
Anywho, I agree with both of you. I'm not saying I wouldn't date inside my race (if the guy treated me right and liked me for me and all that jazz) it's just that I prefer other races (that sounds kinda mean and I hope you get what I'm trying to say).
Couldn't have said better myself though, you two ^_^
Second question: Do you think parents have to much influence over their child's relationship choices?
My answer: On some occasions, yeah they do. There are the parents that are like "As long as you're happy, you can date who you want." and then there are the ones that say "No, you should date inside your race." I have a little of both. Both parents actually at one time said that I should only date black (or the 'politically correct' term African American) people. Then one just said "Well, as long as you're happy, I don't care." I personally still think they think that I should date inside my race, and it's like when the time comes, they're just gonna have to realize that I'm making my decisions for ME, not them.
Now, your take on this?
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Posted: Thu Dec 15, 2011 5:24 am
I never had that problem out of my parents because they date who they want. Far as I know, my mom has only dated African American men but I think that's just because that's who she happened to get with/that's just who she is attracted to. She's never told me that I have to date inside my race though. My dad has dated some of everyone, lol. He's married to a woman from the Philippines now. My family realized long ago that I'll come home with any race. I could come home with a guy who has purple skin and they wouldn't care. They care more about what he's doing with his life, if he's worth my time and if he's treating me right.
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Posted: Thu Dec 15, 2011 12:46 pm
I have this hint that my parents kinda care about it >_>.
(But that's just too damned bad for them.)
I do, however, think that they want what's best for me, so race isn't super important (it's just kinda there like an awkward fog no one invited) xD
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Posted: Thu Dec 15, 2011 1:01 pm
I don't really think my parents care too much. Yeah, they've pretty much dated with their (our) race, but I highly doubt they care who I date.
I remember my grandma used to not like it when a white and black person dated because she thought if they had kids, the child couldn't fit into a certain race group. Pretty messed up, right? Well, one of my cousins had a kid with a black guy. Thankfully my grandma quickly got over her little dilemma. razz
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Posted: Thu Dec 15, 2011 3:13 pm
I've been a little late on replying to anything on the web, but here's my views on things:
1) Dating outside my race? Well to be honest I'm ok with it. In the past I had some other views on it, but I was foolish back then. It all depends on if your life will be fulfilling and if the other person makes you happy. Race to me is not a determining factor when it comes to dating.
2) Parents' influence over the child's relationship choices? I would have to say that it can go both ways. I don't know many people whose parents pressure them or influence the relationships. But on the other hand I've met a few who do. This includes mine. My dad and his side of the family are totally against it. If I mention the slightest hint then I kinda get chewed out at time. My mom leans towards both sides. She doesn't care at first but that's only a lie. She cares the whole time but she'll break ya down when you decide to have children or get married. Lately when I talk to either one of my parents about anything they flip out on me, so I can't really answer if they feel the same about it or not.
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