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On tuesday I broke up with my girlfriend..... so she can be with her abusive ex today she broke up with him she begged me to go back with her I said no I only want to be friends she told me she swallowed pills and now she's in the hospital cause I moved on and I won't take her back *starts crying* and now her brother is blaming me that she's dieing I dunno what to do!!!!!!

I don't mean to sound cold. But this would be a huge mistake to get back together with her. Someone who is willing to do that to themselves is not someone you want to have in your life. It is a cowardly way to manipulate others.

Think very carefully about what you do next.

I've seen this happen to a few friends before, and I more than agree with Shoe on this. People who use self mutilation, suicide, or threats to get someone to be with them are not only incredibly selfish, but more often than not need professional help. Thankfully, you were able to resist this girl's grip and although you said something that was pretty cold, you should in no way blame her problem on yourself. It was not your fault that she decided to swallow pills in an attempt to get back at/with you. Truthfully, I would cut contact with this girl until she figures out that you two are not going to happen. IF and/or when that happens, the she can try to go back to being your friend, but until then, I wouldn't go near the girl. As for her brother blaming you for what she's doing to herself, simply explain to him that you do not want to be with someone who lies and tries to manipulate you.

I agree with @Jonstalker62, you should cut off all contact with her. Delete her number from your phone, delete her as a friend from facebook, remove her from your circles in google+ (if you have it), remove her from your contacts in any address book. Cut her out completely.

Excellent! I think you will be better off biggrin

Being 27 and having seen this time and time again, let me first stop and say

I'm sorry.

I know this is rough for you.

Point is, she's controlling, I had a girlfriend once try to use suicide to get me not to leave her. I left anyways. SHe swallowed the pills. It's not a cry for attention, it's a way of controlling and manipulating a person based on emotion and feeling.

DO you really want to be with someone like that? You've set limits at this point, and she was unwilling to accept them. I'm not saying being with the abusive ex was any better, but this girl needs to learn to accept reality.