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Okay.. I have been in this perdicament for a while now and I'm looking for some advice. I've known this guy since I started my new school in January and I have had a massive crush on him. He claimed he was straight so I respected that. But as time went on, and the more we hung out, I noticed he started dropping hints and acted like he was developing a crush on me as well. He ended up sleeping over one night and I made a move on him and we ended up doing some things. I thought it was great, even though it was very awkward, so I decided to open up and ask him out the next day at school. He rejected me, saying he didn't think he was gay enough to be in a relationship with a man or something along those lines. I was heartbroken, especially since things seemed to be going well. I stopped talking to him for a while, because I felt used. But after a month or so I broke the grudge and started talking to him again and we went back to being friends. I still talk to him now, even though I'm not in school anymore, and we get along fine. The thing is, I still get the hint that he has feelings for me. He is openly bi now but I'm still afraid to talk to him about it since he acts like he leans more torwards women. I don't want to get hurt again, but I just can't stop myself from liking him. I know that he probably wants a family when he's older and I know I can't provide that for him. Even though it would be nice, a serious relationship with him doesn't seem realistic to me.

I know, this was damn long, and seemed like more like a vent to me. But I would like to know what you guys would do in this situation. ( Struggling with bisexual/confused people as a gay/straight person. ) Should I give him more time in hopes that he changes his view on relationships with men? Or should I confront him? Thanks in advanced! <3

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At the moment, you two are not meant to be. I'm no expert when it comes to dating, but I do have experience (the rewards of being a legal adult) - if there's any doubt in your mind that it won't work, never second guess yourself. Always put your own well-being before others. As selfish as that may sound, it's true.

Depending on the circumstances, dating can be very serious, as it varies per person. The way you described this guy... Well, makes it seems like he's not comfortable with himself. And tell me, if he isn't 100% sure about something as serious as identity, what could possibly tilt your brain to be thinking the same way?

As the person before me has stated, give him time and space; it's honestly the best gifts you can give anyone. Don't push things, but reaffirm that you're his friend. And above all... BE YOURSELF, not what someone else wants you to be.