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 Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 7:08 pm
Mmmmm, wow its been a while since we've been here hasn't it? Is anyone still here?
Who wants a strange moderately depressing question to throw about? Well that's all I got, so I guess I'll still throw it out there.
Just today was yet another funeral in my life, and the third since I came to my understandings with what I believe. Understandably it brings on some really depressing thoughts. So I thought I'd ask to see if anyone else has been at a funeral and suddenly thought 'what would happen for mine if I died way before anyone knew/accepted the change/ect?'.
I mean as I was listening to this really quick, family only and led service today it hit me that if something happened to me (and with these six hour drives at night to get back and forth from school and home, there's ample opportunity in places), my family would just hold a service in what they think they raised in me in. And some how that just didn't sit right, at all. I've never hidden my book about Paganism and the like, but its not something I've come out and said to my parents (and for various reasons).
I know I have a couple cousins would might say something, but....it just makes me want to have something in a 'just in case' kinda of way. And its utterly morbid. All because I haven't told my parents, and thus I'm still hidden away. Somehow it would feel wrong for someone to petition the deity I left because I had no response, to take me when I'm dead. Or not take me, just judge me, what have you.
Does anyone understand where I'm coming from with this? Has anyone ever thought about it, maybe just because something sad has happened? Would you feel off, if because you died sooner then you expected your parents/loved ones held a service in what you'd moved from instead of what you currently practice?
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2011 6:01 pm
This is why wills are important. They can be the rules for family to follow regarding something like this. I think a lot of Pagans think about this at some point. In my case, my family would hold the service in a differing religion because they don't like how I won't "be a part of the family" with their religion. But then, my family sucks like that. Eventually you'll come to the day when you can finally tell them face to face but if you should meet your end before then, make sure to have some kind of will, even just a pauper's will, written up somewhere so your wishes can be met.
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Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2011 6:24 pm
SorceressJacklyn This is why wills are important. They can be the rules for family to follow regarding something like this. I think a lot of Pagans think about this at some point. In my case, my family would hold the service in a differing religion because they don't like how I won't "be a part of the family" with their religion. But then, my family sucks like that. Eventually you'll come to the day when you can finally tell them face to face but if you should meet your end before then, make sure to have some kind of will, even just a pauper's will, written up somewhere so your wishes can be met. I know how important a will is (of the more official variety, true) its just so morbid to think about with the amount of death in the family in the last ten years. I'll have to think about it for sure I guess, I just have no idea what I'd do with it so someone would get it if things happened. Thanks for sharing your side wink
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