<< Despite the other quote directly before, this entire post is, of course, all about & in response to your OP & call for input :3
Vestigium
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I am 99.9% sure that it has absolutely nothing to do with you! That happens more often than guys would like to admit (haha) and I'm sure he is just as embarrassed -if not more so- than you are!
That has happened on a couple of occasions and I reacted the same way you did -"He doesn't find me attractive anymore!"
I promise that's not the case. He is probably -or better be wink - thrilled to be having sex with you in the first place!
Some males can only stay erect for a certain amount of time, whether they orgasm or not. Sometimes being nervous, or stressed out, will prevent (or eliminate I suppose) an erection.
It's probably a good idea to talk to him about it. No one wants their significant other feeling bad about themselves! I really hoped this helped heart
You like, literally wrote the exact response that I was planning on typing out while I was reading that post. It's not "word for word" the same as my response, of course, since I quickly realized from the entirety of your response that you'd already saved me the work of converting the thoughts & hazy shapeless sentiments of mine into words. The ideas & thoughts conveyed through your response post, however, are in essence a direct reflection of mine.
The one thing said by Vestigium that I
don't necessarily agree with is: "It's probably a good idea to talk to him about it". In the vastttt majority of any other "boy-girl" issue of nearly any nature/topic, that answer would be a piece of advice that - if followed - would certainly change the situation at hand drasticallllly for the better! HOWEVER, I'm inclined to think that that might very likely ultimately cause more harm than good, at least at this juncture. No mater WHAT, it certainly won't be something you two break up over, for numerous reasons, none of which matter or are relevent right now.
The reason I'm leaning at least a bit towards not talking to your bf about "that issue" is because, although YOU'LL quite possibly feel at
least a
bit better, your guy will feel absolutely awful! Limp d**k (that's the term that I"ve always heard in reference to your boyfriends situation & all) ALWAYS makes guys feel absolutely terrible about a variety of things after it happens to them. If the problem with your boy & his really unfortunate tendency to cease to be hard when "he's supposed" (I know you know what I mean xP ) continues for another eight weeks or so, &/OR if the problem at hand gets notably
worse, THEN it sounds to me like you'll have basically reached the point at which you sort of *have* to talk to him about it. But put off having the conversation until then, for both of your sakes (mostly yours, since you posted this, lol.)
So, this might seem weird, & it's of course possible that it won't end up working as perfectly as I feel it likely good. However, I think it's a GREAT idea when really thought out.
What I think you should do is find a male friend of yours on Gaia (or just a guy you've seen around these forums that appears to be open, caring, & nice... ah, & within your age range, of course), & through talking to that person & getting all of their first-hand "p***s knowledge" etc. (lmao), you'll be getting so much beneficial information & all without any of the downsides that talking to your boyfriend directly about it would entail.
If you like that idea, I'll happily help you follow throuugh with it however I can (if I even happen to be needed at all,all
wink On a related note, you're more than welcome to PM me anytime & talk about similar issues or that same issue... or an ENTIRELY different issue, for that matter (Although I'm significantly better at giving relationship/relationship-relevent advice than I am at many & post other "categories" of advice topics, so clearly the boards [preferably Burn's, lmfao
wink ] are obviously the place to go for that.
smile WOWWWW, LONG POST!
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