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 Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 10:33 pm
That's a little more troubling, but honestly, my first semester of college I was the same way, actually worse. Partied way too hard, failed a class. By then second, I think I was drunk maybe 3 times and got all As/generally got my s**t together, and this semester, I haven't been drunk once, and only actually drank anything maybe 5 times since I moved back into my dorm in August.
I think Jesse is kind of getting at an important point, just in his own special way. Your boyfriend is exhibiting extremely controlling/cohesive behavior. I'm not saying he's going to hit you or anything, but just his current abusive (and it is abusive, even is he doesn't back you into a corner and scream at you or beat you to a bloody pulp, or something extreme) warrants you dumping him, and finding some peace in your life. You don't deserve this much anguish because of somebody else's problems. I know you care about him, and it's going to hurt (I have a tendency to hold onto relationships after they're over too, so I know how it feels), but it gets a little better everyday and in like 2 weeks you'll probably be like, "********, I put up with THAT?" I've been there, girlfriend. <3
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 10:43 pm
yeah. i've been feeling more and more that i really should leave him. god i'm so bad at relationships =_______= alcohol is fine, i should take a break on relationships for a good long while..
thanks for your help you guys.
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 10:43 pm
Still sounds like a ******** t**t
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 10:45 pm
Also try not to rebound.
Not even with me!
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 10:50 pm
Lol and fair warning, you're probably gonna make out with a lot of dudes after you dump him. But don't feel obligated to settle on one of them just because you don't want to be single.
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 1:01 am
Honestly, being single isn't that bad. It gives you a lot of time to evaluate how to be independent rather than co-dependent. I find that, a lot of times when I'm in a relationship, I'll put more emphasis on that than I will on my school work, my friends, and even my own health. Take time for YOU; to heal and rebuild and whatever you need to do to feel better about yourself in a healthy and constructive way.
I mean, maybe this even sounds a little sad, but I'm so used to not being in a relationship that I'm a little nervous about how being in one will be the next time I have the opportunity. But I have the confidence in myself now to know that the next person I decide to be with is worthy. And the time away from the playing field can be really nice because you're not trying to impress anyone. :B I have every faith that you will have a similar metamorphosis.
This could be really good for you. Maybe it's time to embrace it?
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 2:49 am
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 9:26 pm
Okay so I don't want this to sound mean but it seriously sounds like he's an awful douche and I have no idea why you got back together with him. Actually, it sounds like you got back together with him just because you weren't over him and now you're miserable? I don't know why you think you need him, because you definitely don't. You're a cool girl and you don't need him dragging you down.
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2011 8:38 pm
captain buttcheeks 'cuz i hate myself like a shitload. and it's starting to cause strain in my relationship. Okay so I don't mean to sound like a d**k by being so blunt reiterating what everyone else has said but this is not ******** healthy. If you hate yourself a shitload, you shouldn't worry about how it's going to affect your relationship, you should worry about how to stop making you hate yourself. Doubling up on what Undec said because you almost got a fresh start after dumping this guy and going to college, but by getting back together you picked up dead weight again, and you need to drop it. You've already done it once, and I know you can do it again because you're better than this. Fathy said it best: DTMA.
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Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2011 3:03 am
SO how did this end up ending?
Ooooh, four bucks say they're still together because he said "I'll change"
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