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 Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2011 12:24 pm
Ok, I'm aware of people and who have problems coming out, but what if you know that your family/friends would not except it, like 100% sure. In the case of my friends, some would be cool with it, but my closer friends like the ones that I go to the movies with and have birthday parties with would not except it, and I mean the words "I hate gay people" came out if their mouth. But other than that, they are really nice people and they are there for me when I'm down etc. In the case of my family, I don't have a father figure in my life so my mom and sister and brothers are really just my family. And the same case for them, my older sister might not have a problem with gay/bi people would if it’s a family member, wouldn't reacts the same. I'm also really close with my family and I love them to death, so what do I do? Do I tell them risking my relationship or keep quiet forever? Thnx for reading ^_^
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2011 1:29 pm
I can't really speak for family, but as for friends, keep the phrase in mind, "The ones that matter don't mind, and the ones that mind don't matter."
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2011 2:36 pm
You describe your friends and family as really close, understanding and caring. They are your close people... so I think when you come out they won't judge you or anything like that. They'll probably feel weird about it, some might not even care, but if they are your real friends then they'll stick by you and support your decisions. Same with family. ^^ When you're ready to come out then just come out! They wouldn't want you to keep secrets from them. lol
You said that your friends/family wouldn't expect it? .... maybe you should make obvious signs that you're a lesbian? O_o lol I think you should just surprise them. ^^ They'll think that you're joking and you can be like. "Ahahahahahahaha! *serious face* No, really, I'm gay."
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 6:14 pm
Atrum_Anima I can't really speak for family, but as for friends, keep the phrase in mind, "The ones that matter don't mind, and the ones that mind don't matter." Oh I see,I'll keep that in mind smile
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 6:15 pm
xClubbed2Deathx You describe your friends and family as really close, understanding and caring. They are your close people... so I think when you come out they won't judge you or anything like that. They'll probably feel weird about it, some might not even care, but if they are your real friends then they'll stick by you and support your decisions. Same with family. ^^ When you're ready to come out then just come out! They wouldn't want you to keep secrets from them. lol
You said that your friends/family wouldn't expect it? .... maybe you should make obvious signs that you're a lesbian? O_o lol I think you should just surprise them. ^^ They'll think that you're joking and you can be like. "Ahahahahahahaha! *serious face* No, really, I'm gay." D!!!! I love your ending,kinda made me laugh razz ! But thank you so much for the idea smile
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 11:38 am
Honest to say, it is your choice. If your happy hiding your true self go for it, but if you want to be happy being who you are openly tell them. I mean if your friends wont except you that means they are not your true friends, they should understand and respect your choices and not throw BS on your head and hate you, your family might hate you first but later might grow to understand your choice because their not the ones living your life. they will love you even if they hate your choice.
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 12:07 pm
well your stuck with your family and they are stuck with you so with family iots different. but with friends its a great way to weed out the friends you dont need.
ive lost friends because of it and its hard but it made me realize that i dont want someone to be my friend if they cant accept certain parts of me. they dont have to like that i like women, but they still need to respect me as a friend
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 1:47 pm
personaly my friends no but my family does not i am aware that most would accept me however there are those that would not and i am not willing to put them in the posision to say or do anything it is realy none of their consern and does not efect their live so i am going to wait until i get married to a guy if i do im bi so it could go either way but if it does come to it i will tell them i just dont see the need to brag about it
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 2:17 pm
iiHoneydrozzleii Ok, I'm aware of people and who have problems coming out, but what if you know that your family/friends would not except it, like 100% sure. In the case of my friends, some would be cool with it, but my closer friends like the ones that I go to the movies with and have birthday parties with would not except it, and I mean the words "I hate gay people" came out if their mouth. But other than that, they are really nice people and they are there for me when I'm down etc. In the case of my family, I don't have a father figure in my life so my mom and sister and brothers are really just my family. And the same case for them, my older sister might not have a problem with gay/bi people would if it’s a family member, wouldn't reacts the same. I'm also really close with my family and I love them to death, so what do I do? Do I tell them risking my relationship or keep quiet forever? Thnx for reading ^_^ Friends: like I say, your real friends will be with you, no matter what happens! Family: for your older sister, like you said, it would be ok. But I don't know about your brother and your mom, well, about your mom I think I know...As your mother, she'll love you forever! No matter if you're gay, bi or straight. Sexual preference is small detail, it won't change you, you'll be the same girl, with the same feelings, being yourself but happier. And since you're so close with your family, they'll understand and love you. Best wishes!
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