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MessiahComplex

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Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 10:50 pm

I dated this girl over the summer and a question has bothered me for a while. Let me set the stage. I had her and one of our mutual female friends over. We started to act stupid from a caffine high (we later learned our pop didn't have caffine. PLESIBO) and I asked is I could kiss the friend. She said yes, but I didn't. Our friend wouldn't let me kiss her. I tried to have them make out with each other, but they wouldn't do that either. She broke up with me shortly after.

I know I was a pig, but was that really cheating? I didn't actually go anywhere else and I had her permision. She didn't want the conflict of telling me no, but this was a big thing. Don't tell me how bad I suck and am a complete jackass. I know I was, but I've learned. My current girlfriend knows the story and she trusts me.

Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2006 11:22 am

If you really have her permission, than no. If she's only giving you her permission because she thinks you are joking, is joking herself, or is worried about your reaction if she says no, then yes, it is cheating.

Just as a side note, you shouldn't order people to read the whole post. They either will or won't and you ordering them to can be interpreted rather badly.

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Nikolita
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Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2006 12:07 pm

Kukushka

If you really have her permission, than no. If she's only giving you her permission because she thinks you are joking, is joking herself, or is worried about your reaction if she says no, then yes, it is cheating.

Just as a side note, you shouldn't order people to read the whole post. They either will or won't and you ordering them to can be interpreted rather badly.

Agreed. If you had her permission, then I wouldn't call that cheating.

Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 3:17 am

You didn't kiss her in the end so it's not cheating.

If you're GF gives you permission it's definitly NOT cheating!

[x]BaRbiEgIrL[x]

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Akhakhu

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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 7:45 am

[x]BaRbiEgIrL[x]

You didn't kiss her in the end so it's not cheating.

I disagree.

If my fiance were going around bars at night constantly asking women (or men, whatever floats his boat) to sleep with him but just kept getting rejected, I would consider that as much cheating as him actually succeeding to have sex with them.

Desire is fine. Putting that desire into action is not fine. Trying to put that desire into action but being stopped by outside forces is just as bad as putting it into action.

Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2006 2:15 pm

I would have dumped you too. If you say you are in a relationship and love someone, you shouldn't ask people to do things like that. How would you feel if she was trying to kiss another guy?

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Strifin

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Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2006 8:22 am

If you got a yes...then no you didn't cheat

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2006 4:29 pm

Axion McCloud

If you got a yes...then no you didn't cheat

So if I hold a gun to your head and ask you if you want to have sex with me and you answer yes, then it's not rape?

Sorry, not buying it. Even if he wasn't intentionally threating her, she may well have felt put on the spot or afraid of how he would react if she said no. If my boyfriend asked me if he could kiss another girl at a party infront of people and infront of the girl in question, I would say yes. I'd just feel to socially pressured, too exposed in front others, to say no. I'd hate him for it and I'd give him a stern talking to afterwards (not to mention probably dump him), but on the spot at that moment, I would feel like my hands were tied and I would say yes.

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