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 Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 12:07 pm
It begins with a story... It was in June 2010 that I began college. I took up Biology, and I was placed in a block with around 20 other students. And there was this one girl, Angel. She was from an exclusive girls high school, neighboring my exclusive boys high school. She was shy, very quiet, wore glasses and the bangs of her long black hair would always cover her right eye.
I didn't really mind her at first. Me, being the nerd that I am. I knew from the very beginning that she was pretty, but I didn't really have the opportunity--or rather, I never took the opportunity to spend time with her. I was too immersed in my studies and in my extra-curricular activities. As time passed, she grew ever closer to my other blockmates.
We were classmates in College Literature, along with one other girl from our block. At the start of the year, we sat together at a certain corner of the room. However, as time passed, I thought of socializing with the other classmates and sat at the absolute opposite of the room, furthering even more the distance between us.
In July especially, I accepted an invitation from People to People Delegate Programs to attend a Massachusetts. It was an amazing experience, but with every choice one makes, there will always be consequences. I left the country in which I lived, and I stayed away from my blockmates and friends for two whole weeks. When I had gotten back, I was so distant from my block.
It was sometime in November that I saw a totally different side of her. In Literature class, we were given a project: To re-enact a scene from Much Ado About Nothing. Our class was divided into groups, and she was placed in a separate group from mine. I was in the audience watching the other groups perform, when her group went on stage. I saw her, dressed in a white gown, wearing make-up, and for the first time, I saw her without her glasses. She was beautiful, literally an angel. I went up to her after her presentation, and told her face to face that she was beautiful. She giggled at me.
It wasn't long afterwards that I realized that one other blockmate of mine was trying to court her. Though disappointed, I decided not to intrude, as I was never much of the aggressive type. I stopped thinking of Angel, and returned to my nerdy ways.
I saw another girl in school, I will call her Cathy, and thought the other girl was beautiful too. But when I got to know her, although she was a very respectable person, I felt intimidated by her and decided not to continue courting her.
It was soon after this that my blockmate who had been courting her gave up, because he felt she was too good for him. At the same time, I heard rumors from my blockmates that Angel had feelings for me. I'm a very naïve person, and I thought these to be true. I tried to investigate by looking at these cheap articles on internet websites (which are not to be trusted) to see if she displayed any "signs." I was frustrated when I saw that her actions weren't consistent with what the articles said. I finally gave up and tried asking her personally if she liked me, and she said that it was all just a joke.
I laughed it off when I asked. But inside, I was disappointed, again.
I began to tell a Literature classmate of my feelings for her. I had asked that blockmate not to spread the word to anybody else. I was too trusting a person, and it was not long before everybody in the class learned of my sentiments. Soon, even my blockmates knew that I had feelings for her--and they teased us everywhere we went. NOT GOOD.
Some of my literature classmates--whom I trusted very much--began to tell me stories. There were three masterminds, namely JP, Marky, and Vince. One person began to tell me that she liked someone else, I'll call him Ed. Then another said she liked a certain Jimmy. A third person told me she liked a guy named Marky. I was paralyzed emotionally... And this hindered me from taking any action.
For our final project in Literature for that semester, we were to write original plays based on poems from an anthology that our professor had provided. And it was then that I saw her once again on stage. She wore the exact same costume that she had worn before. And she was dazzling. However, her role required her to strip off the white gown in order to reveal a red "whore" attire. It was then that I felt so... Insecure. After their play was over, my classmates began to tease me, asking me if it turned me on. I lowered my gaze and said nothing to them. Her performance inspired me to write and compose a song for her.
I couldn't take the confusion anymore. Even if I didn't know her very well, I needed her to know how much I admired her. It was a week later that I told her in person that I was sorry for the embarrassment she might have experienced, and that I truly did like her. It was bad timing on my part, because I told her right after our Math final. Although such tests are easy for nerds such as myself, she didn't exactly take it well. It was at the time that she was still figuratively brain drained from the test that I chose to tell her, and she didn't take it very well.
There has been a cold wall between us ever since. In an attempt to get together with her, I had invited my Literature classmates to my boat, which sailed around a local bay, and we went singing Karaoke after. However, this did nothing to dissolve the awkwardness.
It was soon that I realized she was shifting to another course: management economics. I realized that if this was true, I would rarely be seeing her in class. I figured out that if I wanted to even be close to her, I'd have to carpé any diems that came my way. However, this was easier said than done, because the awkwardness was a hard enemy to conquer.
That summer semester, I took chemistry classes, while she took ITM (instructional technology management) and spanish classes. I was aware of this, and took the time to sit at the benches with her after dismissal to try to chat, but this never worked out, as conversation was always awkward.
It was during the summer also that I realized that many of what my Literature classmates had been telling me were false. I realized that they were only telling me about those false crushes of hers so that I would not even attempt to further be with her. It broke my heart to think that I had trusted the same people who wanted me apart from her. I also began feeling intense anger against JP, Vince and Marky, for lying to me.
It is now the "fall" semester of my country. (We do not have fall here, however it is analogous to the fall semester of the USA.) I was thankful this semester that we were to be classmates in two more classes: Math and Theology. I figured that this might be the last time we would be together as classmates.
I did take the opportunity to chat with her while hanging out with the block. And things do seem more at ease between us, however i still do need my blockmates there as catalysts. I'm still waiting for the timing to be precise, so that I can tell her once again that I still feel attracted to her. However, I do realize now that I still have so much to learn about her before I can actually say that I like her.With all this in mind, I would like to ask for advice, ESPECIALLY FROM GIRLS. How should I act so that I do not offend her, tick her off, or creep her out? I really want to get to know her better, and I am really desperate to do so before the semester ends (around October).
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Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2011 3:05 pm
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Bloody-Melons Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 4:28 pm
This whole situation really depends on Angel. Your friends seem like assholes to me. [no offense] If I were you, I'd tell them to stay out of it. It seems like outside interference has been putting a wall between you and Angel. Perhaps you should invite her to have a one on one conversation and get to know her better?! Put aside your feelings for a second and treat her like any other person. By singling her out and [in a way] obsessing over her, it's hindering any chance of a relationship. Some girls don't like a lot of attention. Specially not from classmates. If she's shy, then I suspect all this attention is embarrassing her. Not something you want to be responsible for. I'd suggest start by gaining her friendship. The rest is up to her.
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2011 10:19 pm
Hey, I'm a guy, but I assume that all advice is welcomed. For what you say you sound like me my first year of college when I was trying to go after this girl named Carlen. She showed hints of liking me and I did hang out with her when I could, but I think after a while she moved on because she created distance between me and her. Her cousin who was always by her side would talk to me more than she would and would ever go as far as to hug me while she was the complete opposite.
Anyhow, I commend you for confessing your feelings. If your going to be a specific way towards her do as Bloody-Melons suggest and be her friend. If you come at her to strong you'll scare her away, but just remember to be true to yourself. A one on one conversation does help situations but try to ask her to go somewhere with a more social environment nothing to much like a date. If she doesn't agree to that then try to get a good friend you know you can trust and invite her to a small social gathering that you'll have some kind of "control" over so you can get your chance to speak with her one on one.
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Posted: Mon Oct 17, 2011 9:17 pm
superpuppyone It begins with a story... It was in June 2010 that I began college. I took up Biology, and I was placed in a block with around 20 other students. And there was this one girl, Angel. She was from an exclusive girls high school, neighboring my exclusive boys high school. She was shy, very quiet, wore glasses and the bangs of her long black hair would always cover her right eye.
I didn't really mind her at first. Me, being the nerd that I am. I knew from the very beginning that she was pretty, but I didn't really have the opportunity--or rather, I never took the opportunity to spend time with her. I was too immersed in my studies and in my extra-curricular activities. As time passed, she grew ever closer to my other blockmates.
We were classmates in College Literature, along with one other girl from our block. At the start of the year, we sat together at a certain corner of the room. However, as time passed, I thought of socializing with the other classmates and sat at the absolute opposite of the room, furthering even more the distance between us.
In July especially, I accepted an invitation from People to People Delegate Programs to attend a Massachusetts. It was an amazing experience, but with every choice one makes, there will always be consequences. I left the country in which I lived, and I stayed away from my blockmates and friends for two whole weeks. When I had gotten back, I was so distant from my block.
It was sometime in November that I saw a totally different side of her. In Literature class, we were given a project: To re-enact a scene from Much Ado About Nothing. Our class was divided into groups, and she was placed in a separate group from mine. I was in the audience watching the other groups perform, when her group went on stage. I saw her, dressed in a white gown, wearing make-up, and for the first time, I saw her without her glasses. She was beautiful, literally an angel. I went up to her after her presentation, and told her face to face that she was beautiful. She giggled at me.
It wasn't long afterwards that I realized that one other blockmate of mine was trying to court her. Though disappointed, I decided not to intrude, as I was never much of the aggressive type. I stopped thinking of Angel, and returned to my nerdy ways.
I saw another girl in school, I will call her Cathy, and thought the other girl was beautiful too. But when I got to know her, although she was a very respectable person, I felt intimidated by her and decided not to continue courting her.
It was soon after this that my blockmate who had been courting her gave up, because he felt she was too good for him. At the same time, I heard rumors from my blockmates that Angel had feelings for me. I'm a very naïve person, and I thought these to be true. I tried to investigate by looking at these cheap articles on internet websites (which are not to be trusted) to see if she displayed any "signs." I was frustrated when I saw that her actions weren't consistent with what the articles said. I finally gave up and tried asking her personally if she liked me, and she said that it was all just a joke.
I laughed it off when I asked. But inside, I was disappointed, again.
I began to tell a Literature classmate of my feelings for her. I had asked that blockmate not to spread the word to anybody else. I was too trusting a person, and it was not long before everybody in the class learned of my sentiments. Soon, even my blockmates knew that I had feelings for her--and they teased us everywhere we went. NOT GOOD.
Some of my literature classmates--whom I trusted very much--began to tell me stories. There were three masterminds, namely JP, Marky, and Vince. One person began to tell me that she liked someone else, I'll call him Ed. Then another said she liked a certain Jimmy. A third person told me she liked a guy named Marky. I was paralyzed emotionally... And this hindered me from taking any action.
For our final project in Literature for that semester, we were to write original plays based on poems from an anthology that our professor had provided. And it was then that I saw her once again on stage. She wore the exact same costume that she had worn before. And she was dazzling. However, her role required her to strip off the white gown in order to reveal a red "whore" attire. It was then that I felt so... Insecure. After their play was over, my classmates began to tease me, asking me if it turned me on. I lowered my gaze and said nothing to them. Her performance inspired me to write and compose a song for her.
I couldn't take the confusion anymore. Even if I didn't know her very well, I needed her to know how much I admired her. It was a week later that I told her in person that I was sorry for the embarrassment she might have experienced, and that I truly did like her. It was bad timing on my part, because I told her right after our Math final. Although such tests are easy for nerds such as myself, she didn't exactly take it well. It was at the time that she was still figuratively brain drained from the test that I chose to tell her, and she didn't take it very well.
There has been a cold wall between us ever since. In an attempt to get together with her, I had invited my Literature classmates to my boat, which sailed around a local bay, and we went singing Karaoke after. However, this did nothing to dissolve the awkwardness.
It was soon that I realized she was shifting to another course: management economics. I realized that if this was true, I would rarely be seeing her in class. I figured out that if I wanted to even be close to her, I'd have to carpé any diems that came my way. However, this was easier said than done, because the awkwardness was a hard enemy to conquer.
That summer semester, I took chemistry classes, while she took ITM (instructional technology management) and spanish classes. I was aware of this, and took the time to sit at the benches with her after dismissal to try to chat, but this never worked out, as conversation was always awkward.
It was during the summer also that I realized that many of what my Literature classmates had been telling me were false. I realized that they were only telling me about those false crushes of hers so that I would not even attempt to further be with her. It broke my heart to think that I had trusted the same people who wanted me apart from her. I also began feeling intense anger against JP, Vince and Marky, for lying to me.
It is now the "fall" semester of my country. (We do not have fall here, however it is analogous to the fall semester of the USA.) I was thankful this semester that we were to be classmates in two more classes: Math and Theology. I figured that this might be the last time we would be together as classmates.
I did take the opportunity to chat with her while hanging out with the block. And things do seem more at ease between us, however i still do need my blockmates there as catalysts. I'm still waiting for the timing to be precise, so that I can tell her once again that I still feel attracted to her. However, I do realize now that I still have so much to learn about her before I can actually say that I like her.With all this in mind, I would like to ask for advice, ESPECIALLY FROM GIRLS. How should I act so that I do not offend her, tick her off, or creep her out? I really want to get to know her better, and I am really desperate to do so before the semester ends (around October).
you sound like such a sweet guy she's gotta be insane not to like you but, However these type of things you can never prolong. soon the opportunities will expire don't come out and say , I Love you or any of that which I don't think you would but just go up to her and say listen I know things have been a little weird I do still like you and I would like to get to know you better can we please go out some time to get to know each other it cant hurt to try maybe we can create a stronger relationship or if we are not that compatible at least a better friendship.
(let me know if this helps I really hope this does or at least give you courage. my heart goes out to you! ^^ I'll have my fingers crossed) 4laugh 3nodding 
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Posted: Mon Oct 17, 2011 9:20 pm
Oh and PS: like Blaze_Kynine said make sure you don't come on too strong 3nodding GOOD LUCK
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Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 10:49 am
Hey y'all. Thanks so much for yor your insightly responses. We did manage to become closer, but I haven't yet been able to ask her out successfully. I'm thankful that when I did ask her out a few weeks ago, she was honest with me and told me she was already seeing somebody. I felt kinda bad, but I'm glad (to an extent?) that I took the risk. I've gotten over her... For now. Hehehe.
To everyone who responded, you have my gratitude for the advice!
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