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brighternight

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 23, 2011 8:37 pm


Let's get this straight, I'm not.

I'm bi and I came out to one of my closest friends recently.

She has mentioned that she doesn't really like gays, lesbians, bis, etc. She doesn't mind their love but as long as it isn't in front of her.

Over the past few weeks she became some what distant from me and she hasn't helped me on anything. Such as, recently (who I thought was my friend...let's call her SH) told me directly that she didn't want to be friends with me and she never wanted me in the first place.

I tried explaining to this friend (who doesn't really like gays , let's call her SA) about the situation but in every single way she could she tried defending SH.

Until I told her that SH directly said rude things to me, not only about her not wanting to be my friend, SA went blank and went on with her life with no comment.

A little bit before then SA started talking to SH more than me, and SH doesn't like SA at all. But SA only talks to her because she A. Knows her and B. SH is straight.

Before she started talking to SH, she made a comment on one of the yaoi pictures on gaia and said it was basically really gross. I told her that she was gross in quick come back. SA quickly said sorry and went on with her life.

It sounds like SA is a b***h, but she's not. She's a very good friend and helps me on anything, at least that was before I came out. What should I do with SA? Should I keep her around still or leave her? Because I have to be close with someone that I'm already close with or never see them again.

If there's any questions you have for me, please let me know. I just need help.
PostPosted: Fri Jun 24, 2011 4:11 am


tell them that you're still the same person, you just made the mistake of trusting them enough to tell them something personal about yourself

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 24, 2011 6:21 am


Alright, here comes the pain...

Forget her. A true friend is supposed to love you, regardless of anything. If SH/SA cannot accept you for who you are, then their friendship is not even worth thinking about. YOUR happiness is what's most important [and sometimes we lose track of that]. Trust me when I say: you need to surround yourself with people who love, care, and accept you as you. If not, it'll only bring a world of turmoil; I've been there.
PostPosted: Fri Jun 24, 2011 6:43 am


ok..uhm...best advice i can give:
Step 1:
follow Shanna's advice.
Step 2:
follow Igtenos's advice.
Step 3:
DONT WORRY BE HAPPY!!!!
trust me, that song can cheer up almost anybody....ALMOST.

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PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2011 9:12 am


lgtenos
Alright, here comes the pain...

Forget her. A true friend is supposed to love you, regardless of anything. If SH/SA cannot accept you for who you are, then their friendship is not even worth thinking about. YOUR happiness is what's most important [and sometimes we lose track of that]. Trust me when I say: you need to surround yourself with people who love, care, and accept you as you. If not, it'll only bring a world of turmoil; I've been there.


This to the 10th power. If they can't accept and love you for who you are, they have no place in your life. They're what you call frenemies, and trust me, they just cause drama. Look at it this way, somewhere down the line you might date another girl. What's going to happen then? Should you not express your love for that person just because your friend doesn't agree with it? Why suppress your own happiness for someone who obviously doesn't care enough about you to want you to be happy?
PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2011 1:09 pm


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lgtenos
Alright, here comes the pain...

Forget her. A true friend is supposed to love you, regardless of anything. If SH/SA cannot accept you for who you are, then their friendship is not even worth thinking about. YOUR happiness is what's most important [and sometimes we lose track of that]. Trust me when I say: you need to surround yourself with people who love, care, and accept you as you. If not, it'll only bring a world of turmoil; I've been there.


This to the 10th power. If they can't accept and love you for who you are, they have no place in your life. They're what you call frenemies, and trust me, they just cause drama. Look at it this way, somewhere down the line you might date another girl. What's going to happen then? Should you not express your love for that person just because your friend doesn't agree with it? Why suppress your own happiness for someone who obviously doesn't care enough about you to want you to be happy?


Agreed. Sometimes we need to move on. Don't think of it as a friendship failed, however! You had a good time together as friends, and your time together may simply just be coming to an end. Instead of focusing on the pain, remember the fun you had, so that when you think of SA, you don't think of their faults, but the great friendship you had.

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