I have just recently lost a dear friend. He was a leader of the drama organization & I spoke out against him. He used to be a very nice person but after we got back to college after spring break something changed in him. I don't know what & I am not sure I want to know. He got mad at me after telling me a skit I worked very hard on wasn't good enough, then got mad when I didn't put him in it. logic dictates that when a person isn't interested in something they generally don't want to be involved only he did unbeknown to me & my fellow worker. When I tried to talk about it he told me that he didn't want to talk to anyone or resolve anything. I felt backed into a corner. I was looking for someone to talk to. It seemed like no one would listen, except one person. The sponsor of the Drama Organization. I couldn't sit by and watch someone who claimed the people he was hurting as his friends. He went from saying one person was a talented actor to not even acknowledging him saying he did a poor job when the director and sponsor were both very proud of the job he had done. This young man put everything he had into his performance, I watched him run himself into the ground and almost lose his voice. I even with a badly sprained ankle the size of a water balloon sucked it up and did my best getting over my pain to give an amazing performance for the audience. I was told by the director & sponsor I did a great job, the friend didn't seem to think so. at one of our final dress rehearsals, I will admit we had an off day, we dropped a page of lines...the "Friend" stood up, and almost proudly, declared that we had all failed him, we were a disappointment & that he was more emotionally invested in the play than anyone else. All he had done was sit in the practices at this point and paint action figures, he if you haven't guessed by now was also supposed to be the producer. Anyway I went to talk to her about the changes wondering if she might have noticed them too...several members of the Drama group (myself included) had noticed....rather loudly too i might add. She told me he seemed different & asked me why I said I had no idea. I continued saying that as the new president of Alpha Psi Omega (co-ed drama fraternity) I couldn't support him as the director next fall. I kindly told her I respected her decision to put him in that spot, but if he was involved I wouldn't be. I spoke to her with 2 others that felt that something needed to be said to her. The "friend" was hiding his true nature from her when she was present at the practices and meetings. She opened the floor for discussions and kindly asked me and the other to tell other that she wished to hear their take on things no matter if they we for the friend, neutral, or against. Well after weeks of tension this afternoon he came to the drama meeting only say that he quit and that we, the drama group ruined his life, we were ridiculous, we couldn't do anything it seemed, he said our show was a flop when it was an experiment as all involved agreed it was & that the next would be better. I was trying to contain my anger, but he called my honesty into question, and I lost it I pointed out several flaws in his argument, he told my fiance to shut the F@#$ up when he tried to point out a fact and my fiance wasn't shouting. I tried to leave along with another girl and he blocked the exit. finally after my fiance said that it was illegal to hold us against our will he moved...I need some help on what to do next??? any suggestions...I DID NOT like what I had to do...but it was to the point where someone was going to get seriously hurt, & I didn't want that to happen.
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