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 Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2011 9:58 am
Greetings,
I need help, I have a few problems I can't work though on my own. Two really big ones are bothering me the most.
First, one I ask that some one prays for me, to have the strength and patience. I am going to become my mother's care giver, I know how to because I got training as an LPN. But the issue comes I got out of that field because I felt like everything I was doing wasn't helping anyone and only made things worse. On top of that I have very little patience when it comes to people. I fear that I am going to fail my mom or explode on her when she doesn't need that now.
Back story, My mom recently had a brain tumor removed and she is now going to be sent home for the first time in a month.
the second issue comes at, I have a friend with an issue. Where I don't want to discuss this one, as it is a private one. She needs help and I will be trying and I want to help but I feel lost on trying to. I am used to working out problems where the answer is a simple path as follow these steps to solve. My time as an LPN has taught me that when it comes to people their isn't a clear cut answer that works for everyone.
any shared wisdom would be nice.
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Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2011 10:59 am
you and your mother will be in my prayers
i dont really have any advice for being a good caregiver other than try to have plenty of patience and being there for her
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Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2011 7:42 pm
I can kinda relate with you. When I was younger I had to be my mother's caregiver due to her illnesses. I'm not going to lie to you the role reversal is stressful. What I will say if you do decide to be her caretaker you are going to have to let those fears go. You are willing to take care of your mom that says a lot. It is NOT a failure if you have to pass on the task to someone else. About "exploding on her", that may happen. If you have a good relationship with her and are willing to talk with her then things should be fine. Prayer helps in these situations too, pray for God to grant you the patience so you can help her and to remember that though she may be your mom, she's a person too and is not perfect. I think what makes caring for a parent difficult is that it quickly any disillusions your "inner child" may believe about them. It's best if you don't think about this as "dealing with her" but rather helping her in her time of need. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you feel it becomes too much. It will only be a failure if you don't ask for help.
I'll keep you in my prayers for both of these trials in your life.
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