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Well shamefully I do admit I have sex without condoms but I've taken some sort of shot where I won't get pregnant and the last time I had sex I let my boyfriend c** in me and well it felt really hot, is c** hot or does that depend on the body temperature? I do tend to think that the fact that there wasn't a lot of lubrication which makes me tense as he stetches me when we start to have sex. Our session was about two hours.


I also have this other problem where I have only been able to c** from clitoral stimulation but my boyfriend doesn't like touching my p***y with his fingers or his mouth. On the other hand I love blowing him. It kinda frustrates me to have sex with him when I feel most of the pleasure is being pointed at him and not me. I honestly hate being on top and its the only position he ever wants to do and when he drinks thats like the only time I can attempt to get to try something new or a different position. Also sometimes I feel afraid to ask him for sexual things like I'm afraid of rejection but thats not fully the case its like I'm thinking about saying it but it just won't come out when I try to say it.

it seems that in your relashionship there is a lack of conversation...u should try tell him what you said here...if you are not confortable talking about this with kim, maybe you shouldnt be with him...that's just my opinion, but as i usually say: talk, talk, talk

Yes, I'm going to agree. Your relationship seriously lacks communication. If you're having sex to the point where he's stretching you and there's no lubrication, that doesnt' sound very enjoyable. He is focused on his pleasure because you've never said anything.

Rejection is an understandable fear, but if you can't communicate to each other on something as intimate as sex, then your relationship is going to suffer or it will spill into other areas of your relationship, even harbor resentment. Maybe until you can start communicating on a real level with him, you should hold off on sex.

1. I'm worried that you call it "some sort of shot." It sounds to me like you really don't know too much about what's going into and around your body. Your body is the only thing in this world that you can truly call YOURS. It's your responsibility to know and understand what is done to it.

2. You should really consider condoms. I say this especially since you don't seem to have much communication with your partner and he seems so sexually selfish. It's quite possible that you may be at risk to get an STD.

3. The temperature of the semen should not be all that much higher than your own internal temperature. It could feel hot if you've made lacerations (cuts) inside your v****a and the salty nature of the semen could be irritating? It's possible, I think.

4. Your friend sounds extremely sexually selfish. If it's hurting you, you should be using lubrication. Steps should be taken to make sure that you are being pleasured as well. Talk to him. Ask that some time be spent pleasuring you (either before or after sex). If he doesn't agree, don't have sex with him. There's no reason to run the risk of pregnancy or STDs just to pleasure someone who obviously doesn't care about you.