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 Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:02 pm
When you SO asks you a s**t ton of questions about your day?
"How was your day? did you do anything interesting? What did you and your friends do today? What time did you wake up? What time did you boot them out? What'd you do in your Japanese class today? Was there anything different? Did you take care of your school stuff? What other chores did you take care of today?"
Maybe I'm just being paranoid? But ******** I hate this s**t. If something interesting happens, then I'll be the first to tell her, and she knows that. All these questions just make me feel uncomfortable.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:06 pm
With some people, it's not so much that they're nosy, but it's conversation when there no current conversation. It's possible she just wants you to know she cares about you and what you're doing. At the same time, if thats the way you feel about said questioning, you should either say something about it making you uncomfortable, or get a clarification as to her reasoning for it.
But, sticking to the topic, it depends on the personality and tendencies of the SO. If they're generally laid back and trusting, it doesnt bother me. If, on the other hand, they tend to easily get jealous, or tend to be possessive, yeah, I have felt that way.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:15 pm
She always says that she's just curious. Maybe she is, but it still urks me.
EDIT: Well, with her, she tends to do the "Okay... well, it's just I thought you were going to do such and such".
She does that. A lot. Even if she doesn't mention the task, even if it's not her business, but is mine. Like school.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:26 pm
I do that. It could be a few things or a combination...
Sometimes I do it because I genuinely want to know DETAILS about the person's day. It bothers me when people are vague and can't seem to get into a conversation because they have nothing to say - but then you ask them more questions and they start to blab away realizing you're interested.
But also, it used to bother me when my SO would 'leave details' out of his night or day and then when I found out about that detail, he would just say OH YOU DIDNT ASK. So then I started asking.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:31 pm
It's understandable, yes. I see where you're coming from. But she and I have dated for a year and a half, and lived together since October. She knows my routine, nothing really special about it. If something IS fascinating, I mention it. Otherwise, I'm not going to say every detail of what I did.
EDIT: I guess this, coupled with the fact that when she asks me about things, and I AM vague, (And have told her that I hate being asked a s**t ton of questions) she responds like I'm responding differently from how I normally would. neutral
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Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2011 8:09 am
Ha no me and Jeremy are just like
How was your day
It was good / not good / whatever
If it was a shitty way we elaborate, or if something interesting happened we elaborate but yeah.
My mom does that so I totally know how annoying it is
WHAT'S THE GOSSIP HOW'S YOUR FRIENDS IS SO AND SO STILL DATING SO AND SO OH YOU RAN INTO MY FRIEND FROM WORK WHAT DID SHE SAY ABOUT ME DID SHE SAY THIS OR DID SHE ASK THAT WHY DO YOU LOOK SO GRUMPY IS EVERYTHING OKAY DID SOMETHING HAPPEN AT WORK
no im just tired mom
Like she just does not stop oh my god.
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Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2011 10:29 am
Glad someone can relate. I love her, but ******** irritates the s**t out of me when she does this.
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Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2011 5:35 pm
I generally dislike this just because if something important happened, I'll tell you. It's nice when there are some questions, but too many is annoying. But when there's not much going on in conversation, I almost feel obligated to ask stuff kind of like that, or talk about the really boring details of my day. Not quite the same, I know.
But yes, too many pointless questions bother me. But I kind of understand asking.
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Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2011 1:52 pm
My mom does this. I think she mostly does it because we don't talk very much and she wants to somehow show that she cares or whatever. But it annoys me a lot. neutral
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Posted: Sun Mar 27, 2011 5:39 am
It means we care.
Forever and ever and ever and ever.
AND EVER AND EVER.
*SHARPENS KNIFE*
WE CARE SO DEEPLY.
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Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2011 9:40 am
Speaking for myself, when I ask those questions, it's just to start up small talk. It's awkward when you're together with someone (SO or whoever) and there's no conversation. Obviously I know that if something's interesting, they'd tell me...but sometimes I don't mind hearing the boring details, I prefer it to silence. I find that you never know when the most mundane of facts can stimulate a really interesting conversation. Some people just like talking, and others don't, I guess?
I guess it depends on the person, like if it was a random stranger asking me a string of those questions, then yeah it'd be creepy. But from a SO? Seems totally normal and valid to me. What's wrong with wanting to share your life, no matter how boring it seems to you?
If you suspect she has ulterior motives in asking them, then that's your prerogative. But I find that attributing things to malice rather than just innocence is usually cause for trouble.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 4:18 am
I feel like I'm being interrogated when I'm actually being interrogated.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 10:19 am
Ythan II I feel like I'm being interrogated when I'm actually being interrogated. Is this a situation you find yourself in often?
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