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 Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:16 pm
Ok i need someone to help me out. I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of six months and we both took it reallly hard. Then before i left she gave me a letter that said basically she was just taking me for granted. I mean i did everything for her, i gave her my entire attention and she just took all of it and made me feel like an idiot. now i'm leaving florida where she is at and going back to my family in ohio, but when i left it ended on a bad note. We aren't talking and she said she never want's to see me again. We were the best of friends and i need some ideas on how i can try to fix this so we can at least be friends still.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:25 pm
When you say bad note, how bad are we talking about?
I imagine if she doesn't want to see you, some kind of letter is in order. Something about an apology and that you don't hate her, you hope the best for her, stuff like that.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:30 pm
Bad to the point where when i left she didn't even say anything to me, even after i has stopped to say goodbye to her. Also with the letter she wouldn't believe anything i say. I told her over and over that i love her and i'm sorry and that it was my fault, but she never listens. She was never the one to open up and when she did it was only to cry and when she cried it made me feel like the absolute worst boyfriend in the world.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:38 pm
Bandolier of the Dead Bad to the point where when i left she didn't even say anything to me, even after i has stopped to say goodbye to her. Also with the letter she wouldn't believe anything i say. I told her over and over that i love her and i'm sorry and that it was my fault, but she never listens. She was never the one to open up and when she did it was only to cry and when she cried it made me feel like the absolute worst boyfriend in the world. Yeah, but why was she angry? Was she trying to get back together, or did you lash out or something? Not that it matters at this point. Well you can't force people to hear you. Leave her one final letter and be done with it. Its her choosing then whether she wants to read it or not. The fact that you'll be gone potentially forever and this is the last contact will add some importance to it. So spell check. But also, this is just the end of a time. After you said your piece, move on and look onto brighter oppertunities.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 4:04 pm
It sucks leaving on a bad note. I think if you just give some time of silence, and then contact her again she'll be able to talk.
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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 5:09 pm
I'm so sorry this happened.
It really is a difficult thing to go through.
I, like your ex, am someone who just cries a lot during misunderstandings and such -- but I've gotten better.
This did, however, escalate our misunderstandings to arguments, because my boyfriend hates to see my cry, and it got to the point where he'd get frustrated because we couldn't talk at all.
I got sick of crying too, it wasn't solving anything.
I have a feeling she has a lot to say to you, but she's either scared or doesn't want to -- her communication isn't so clear, so it's making it worse for you.
Anyway, you can either just let the time cool down and see if she'll contact you and apologize for being so blunt in not wanting to see you.
Or you can contact her if you truly feel the need to, via letter/email, like everyone else said.
It's not fair that you gave her so much, yet she reacted the way she did.
Give yourself some time to think about your relationship; you're in a vulnerable state right now.
I hope whatever you want works out for you, genuinely.
Heartache is not fun at all. >: <3
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